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Is it normal for "extremely good-looking" people to be hated on?
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I ask you not to judge my story.
I am not stuck up or big headed, I promise.
I'm a observer. I just need to know if what I'm observing is correct...or normal?

I have been told that I am a very gorgeous girl by many people (many of those people fail to realize how much better my personality is.)
I think that I am decent looking. I have naturally long blonde hair and blue eyes. I am skinny yet I posess D cup boobs and a nice butt.
People assume that I am a fake barbie doll. I don't dye my hair, wear contacts, and I defiantly don't have implants. People are rude to me, girls are mean to me, even guys can be mean to me. They assume I am a stuck up b*tch when they first "see me."
(But yes, most of the guys are just perverted pigs to me.)
When I enter a room everyone just stares at me. (I know I sound extremely stuck up there, but it's the truth.)
Complete strangers give me glares as if I had said something completely rude to them.

Even my boyfriend has noticed. He told me that he felt sorry for me because of all the attention I get.

I just want people to see me for ME. Not some blonde haired girl with big boobs. I'm extremely giving, and good hearted. I am very down to earth and smart. Not what anyone thinks of me, initially.

I don't know if this is normal or not but it's beginning to drive me nuts. People will argue saying that "ugly" (no one is truly ugly for the record. Only if their personality is terrible...)people are the victims. Has anyone ever noticed how "beautiful" people get treated? I'm not talking about the cat calls and hitting on.
I'm talking about the rudness and name calling to a complete stranger. "She's ugly and looks like a w****."

I don't dress like a w**** for the record.

Ah. I don't know. Is this normal? Somewhat?
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You wouldn't believe how jealousy manifests itself. Hatred is the most common form.
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I know from experience that this is perfectly normal. The only people who argue that beautiful people get better treatment are those who are universally ignored, because if they walked in the shoes of a truly stunning person, they would realise that their assumptions are nothing more than fallacies.

When I was 18 to 20 years old, I got exactly the same sort of attention you describe. Nearly all men stared at me and quite a few girls and women would do the same. But at the same time, a lot of girls and women would angrily glare at me and some would mutter stuff under their breath. I was fully aware of what it was, because I never got this sort of treatment when I was an awkward teenager and people would never dare act like this to someone who’s unattractive.

But when I gained weight towards my 21st birthday, I was invisible to both men and women. It was weird how the admiration and envy came hand in hand; and left hand in hand too.

However I was still angrily envied by this one girl, who was morbidly overweight in the face and considered to be below average. It was confusing at the time, as I didn’t have the male attention. But I just realised, judging by how a very small number of people would still stare at me on the street that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

I would consider myself to be truly average looking now as I don’t get attention of any sort. It’s a very different life as literally all people leave me alone, but I’d be lying if I said that what happened to me in the past didn’t bother me from time to time. Even though I know I shouldn’t be living in the past, thoughts have a habit of prodding at you. But I’m learning to be more forgiving now, as anger does nothing for you.

I think the best thing for you to do now is to see things from their point of view. They wouldn’t be envious of you unless they have physical flaws they are embarrassed about and plus, for them to feel hideous just by looking at someone else just comes to show how fragile their self esteem is. I agree with someone else on here, people have a sense of justice and fairness and they try to even the score by dragging you down to their level. It’s not you with the problem, it’s them.

Also, with the sweet personality you seem to have, you’ll attract the right kind of friends who you’ll trust. See it this way; at least you know who your real friends are, because real friends would never envy you, regardless of how beautiful or wealthy you appear to be.
You sound like you’re very wise and socially intelligent, so these people have already failed, as you can see right through them and their insecurities.
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@: Retro36
I just really love your comment, you sound so matured and experienced. It's so true it leaves just as it came. Also I agree weight really is amazing how it can affect your looks and social life.
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@: Retro36
Yes, people- both men and women- need to let go of this ridiculous fallacy that constant attention is a compliment.
Too much of anything is bad.
Attention at inappropriate times or when it is unsolicited or unreciprocated is not complimentary.
Telling a person they are pretty,cute or sexy is just telling them you want to use the vessel they happen to be forced to inhabit which they did not choose to be born into.
Telling someone not to flirt with you when they are your spouse at your own wedding? Possibly inappropriate. Telling a sibling or family member you want to have sex with them? Inappropriate.
Flirting with someone, especially a stranger, when you are anywhere besides a sex club or singles night at a bar? Inappropriate.
Smiling at someone on the street just to get an ego boosting response for yourself with no regards as to whether that other person is feeling anything themselves or have any individual desire in the interaction? Inappropriate and egotistical.

It's all about context and consent.

Eyeing someone who is not your SO or who is not in a singles bar or has not spoken with,overtly flirted with you is not 'innocent' and it is psychological and emotional abuse when it goes unchecked or worse:turned around onto the 'pretty/sexy/cute' victim of the oh-so-complimentary attention.

I have had similar experiences to many of these listed.
For instance, I am everyone's cute little sugar doll but the minute their expectant grin is met with something as minorly incongruous to their expectation as a dis-affected, unprepared blank gaze from me, I am suddenly a 'b*tch'...especially for random men on the street.And these are just two-second interactions of passing people on a sidewalk.
Then there are the males and yes. women and teenage girls who follow me and act offended when they finally catch up or I turn to just bite the bullet and interact and their 'friendly' invitations are met with a 'no thank you' then suddenly the oh-so-innocent-and-friendly strangers who have been stalking me, sometimes for more than an hour are suddenly nasty and degrading.Their poor wounded egos going into defensive mode, right? I'm reading this all into a false self-serving reality, right? To that type of responder, I have always wished they would wake the next morning having to live their Life for even a day with the way people treat me. Of course, the oh-so-wizened types who like telling other people how to interpret their own Life experiences have a way of deluding themselves into maintaining their fallacies so they probably still wouldn't learn anything if they were forced to experience the reality.
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Yes, it's very normal. It's called jealousy.
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I have always been told im so sexy, the thing is i feel anything but. I hate the watching by womens husbands at the store and the way the wife then rushs up and gives vicious looks in my direction, as if i was flirting with her run of the mill little husband. Two years ago i piled on three stone my God what a different life. Women talked to me and i was invisible to men. I must admit it was refreshing to relax when i went out shopping for example, but I hated the way all the weight made me feel ill so i lost it again. So ive gone back to bitchland once more and this time i dont give a damn because i know the score and if they want war then thats what they are gonna get. Look out boys. woo hoo!
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I feel bad for you. and your story makes me want to check myself the next time i assume someone is fake and start judging her.
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I had kinda the same problem use to get made fun of by a girl on my bus she called me barbie behind my back and would always say mean things about me behind my back. ( but she made sure I always herd here) turns out she is just jelly! Imbrace ur beauty be proud of it:)
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I agree, I am sick of blonde jokes, and the assumptions some people make about good looking people, those idiots are just jealous, forget them. Good looking people are accused of being shallow when in reality they are no different to everyone else, some are shallow, some are smart etc. You can't judge a book by its cover
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@birdymojo:
This is exactly what she is talking about. And it is not specific to women. I am a guy and I do not look in the mirror every 5 seconds and I don't think there is anything particularly attractive about me. But i've been told i'm gorgeous my entire life. I even put a picture on hotornot.com years ago to find out for sure and after 1500 votes I was still a 9.3 Like others have mentioned people mistake confidence for cockiness. but haters like you make us hate that we look good. Do you have any idea what it's like to have someone judge you before they even know you? Or have people try to get you fired? Or have people do things to your car? just because of how you look? I'm sure you don't or you wouldn't be saying these things. I've never heard of an not good looking person being assaulted just because they are not good looking. It is really annoying, and if the people that hate on us knew what it was really like to be beautiful, they would feel so bad for the way they treated other beautiful people. Like I said, I don't keep a picture of myself in my wallet or stare at myself every 5 seconds and I really don't see what is so hot about me. but it's true. I like this post alot especially about people assuming you are stupid and have no personality, that is so true! it's not all it's cracked up to be, honestly, I'd rather be average rather than deal with the constant hate.
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@: dherpin
I reached puberty early so,for myself, add to this issue that this has been for all of my Life but also specifically a sexualized world experience long before it should have been in even a potentially age-appropriate 'fun' way.I mean: by age 9, 13-15 year olds and even parents of my friends were flirting with and/or commenting on my body and appeal.
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I feel for you, I am in the same situation it is normal. I am 5'9 skinny huge blue eyes and golden hair and nice assets haha, but every where I go i'm judged by the fact I'm a model. My self concience friends now hate me to it so I agree with you compleatly people judge beautiful women before they get to know them
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I completely understand your story am 5 feet 9 inches brunette tan skin 36 double DD natural boobs and am extremely helpful to people and very genuine and women hate me up on sight and men say to be all the time you are very genuine. My only friend is my husband. I have no interest in other people's business gossiping etc we once lived in a state where I was liked now we live in a state that's not for me we will be moving. Life, find the people places and things that's for you we can not change the rest. Be happy!
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i find it strange cause my brother's gf is beautiful, blond, very thin and with big fake boobs and in her case its just the opposite. she is more popular and cannot walk down the street without guys staring at her and wanting her.the males put the moves on her all the time. i remember when i first met her i thought she was a stuck up bitch but now i got to know her well, and she's ok.
i got to admit that i do feel jelouse of her all the time, i can't help it, but i guess thats human nature.
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I know what you are talking about. I read this book called "White Chocolate Moments" it has a character that was afraid of eventually being treated like you are describing. I feel like if you are a good-hearted person, and are aware of this jealousy going on around you, that is the best you can do. Just return those rude stares and comments with love and care, then they will feel double the worst. But ya, that is normal, unfortunately.
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im sorry :( the way you described yourself makes me want to be your friend! go beautiful and smart people :D

back in middle school i had really long hair (past waist) but i cut it all when i reached high school because i felt like people only saw me as the girl with long hair

honestly, i would be intimidated by you because you're super pretty and i'd probably feel like i wouldn't measure up... and also if you're smart i'd feel like i wasn't smarter... as u can tell i have a little of a superiority complex.

sometimes when people dont want to feel like another is more pretty than them, they will call them ugly just to make themselves feel better.
but assuming you have a great personality, you will be able to get through this! just always treat people the way you want to be treated and you will encounter those that do not hate on you.

btw, ur boyfriend is soo lucky =]] i hope i get a great boyfriend that notices when people treat me badly too..
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i relate to this story, i struggle to socialize because of the same problem. when i enter in a room full of people i get all the women attention, so men start hating me instantly and of course, i don't like all women, so i would look at the one i like, then that's the only person that wont hate me, the rest of the people will. just like that, in a matter of seconds or minutes, i will have a plot against me, same at workplace, not an easy thing to deal with.

it's just envy, and it's awe full to be an envy producer when i want to be just one more, awe full to be rejected for doing nothing to nobody
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I believe beautiful people who are also beautiful inside have a charisma thsts may be seen as too confident by insecure people. I have found some people can try to dampen a beautiful persons confidence. The best way to cope with. negative people is not to react negative comments but just laugh it off or keep quiet. Yes being beautiful can be difficult it depends on the people you are around. I was plump before I reached puberty and i was called beautiful but when I became slim I noted more jealousy from women and some males would be negative if. I did not want to flirt with them. I have learnt to zone out when I encounter negative attitudes and think of positve things like family genuine friends and coconut milkshake with double cream lol ..love & light to All xxxxx
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be friends with guys with big dicks, they never have insecurities.
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i bequeath unto you all of my internets.
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Ollieo
Jealous of your looks and presentation - which no doubt you have learned to play to the hilt. So I am not sure what to say. There is a nasty competitiveness in your generation. But you are part of it too. But I guess no one will envy your spelling: "I defiantly don't have implants." Has anyone, in your group, heard of the word "humility?"
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@: Ollieo
Epic, LoL.
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@: Ollieo
To the poster and his two supporters who proved everyone's point about beauty-awareness attracting negative attention including assumptions of egotism and stupidity: there are times when typing leads to spelling errors and a *qucik* double-check *int he* computer's spelling program cause the wrong words to be *tyoed*.It's common among many typers of many generations and intelligence levels. Assuming intellect over the internet is grasping for straws and shows more about a generation of self-aggrandising sex-mongering pot heads when they come on a forum about the difficulties of being beautiful to mock someone they are supposed to be mentoring and showing compassion for. I could just as easily assume your post and the agreements attached to it are all from the generation obsessed with pretending perpetual youth and that you are of those among them who use pretty young things to feed your own egos in that regard.
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@: Ollieo
I love your responses, Ollieo!
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Funny you mention what u did.
I too do not consider myself exceptionally good looking. From my perspective I do not know what a good looking man looks like as I have never been attracted to men or who looked at them in that sense.
The only reason I have the sense that I am very attractive to women is because of all the comments they make to and regarding me "He is so hot", "He looks so good". Women literally sit and stare at me for hours, they follow me around, it is really wierd. Regardless, I do not take it to heart as I have never relied on looks for success, everything I have attained in life I have earned, whether it be my success as an athlete, a musician, intellectual or writer, I have worked hard to be good.
To your point, however, men (which surprises me), seem to seethe with anger and jealousy towards me. They try to intimidate me (even though, being an amatuer fighter -- boxing, muay thai and mma -- i could probably put them in the hospital with ease), they spread rumours about me, and all manner of stupidity. It seems they are much more concerned about my looks than I am, as I really care not about my looks..i care about being the best I can be.
Funny thing, women too act very strange towards me. In one breathe they seem not to be able to take their eyes off me, yet when I approach them in a friendly manner, they clam up...it is real strange.
All I can say is LIVE YOUR LIFE and enjoy it. At the end of the day what matters is not looks but the quality of life you lived and what you accomplished in your time on this rock called earth.
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I know how you feel. Well, I'm certainly not "perfect," but there are girls at work who hate me because they're jealous. They were really mad when they found out my hair is real (not fake like their's). So yeah, I feel your pain!
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bullies are just insucure about themselves so they try thier best to belilte other people you sound like a beatuiful and wonderful person so you should not let those awful people get to you there just jealous. i have a snoty ugly arogant cousin who is said to be jealous of me. some people say i'm pretty weather or not people find me at pretty or not is stickly their opion. however i have brown hair brown eyes b cup boobs and olive skin. i'm naturally thin.
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People are mean and they don't like to feel inferior to others, by what you say, it sounds as if you make people feel inferior by just being you. Look for people who won't be swayed either way and try to be their friends. You'll probably have to go the extra mile in order to show that you're different and not like the self absorbed pretty people, that will mean putting up with unfair treatment by being patient and going out of your way to show that you care. Some people will still hate you but a lot of people will notice and respect you for it.
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Knowing from experience..it's normal and tiring.
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omg, this happens to me too!! I thought I was the only one :(this made me feel a lot better :)thanks for posting it haha!
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i don't know from experience because i'm average looking, but i do have very attractive friends and some rather homely as well, so i could tell you from this perspective, that i'm sorry but that is really just how the cookie crumbles, people have a sense of justice and fairness in them, and they don't think its "fair" for you to be so beautiful, so they try to even it out by delivering their own twisted kind of justice, just keep in mind that everybody has their own obstacles in life, and this problem is yours, so try to keep your dignity while dealing with
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Janith
I get it too. It's why I don't tell people how many guys try to talk to me on a daily basis. I don't want the drama.
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with a slight change in the the severity of ones goodlookingness, will come a slight or drastic change in the perception of oneself in another's eyes; depending on the the 'nonjudging' qualities of the viewer. These non-judgemental people are the decsent ones. I can relate.
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oh bless you, well you seem like a decent genuine person to me and obviously you know that so if they cant be bothered to see the real you, fuck `em. they just jelous anyways most girls would kill to have your body, just ignore these stupid people and live your life! :) x
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im sure you are not the only beautiful woman that walked in a room.what about all those georgous burnetts out there. you'll be ok try your higher power. nothing is promised to us in this life look change- be it age - be a car wreck, etc. dont sweat the small stuff. im sure HAILY BERRY suffer the same affiction
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pp2
This is normal because.....Confidence is often mistaken for being cocky..... I am always perceived as a b**** and I just tell myself that the people that don't really kno me have lost out. Don't sweat the small shit it's their lost.
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I'm not stunning, just decent looking and feel better about the fact that my looks don't bring all the average people to me, because that way it acts like a filter. Plus I don't want to deal with lots of people in the first place, I'm an introvert.

I know that people wouldn't go out of their way to be with me because of my looks. So, the ones who stick around probably really do like me.

I don't know, I guess I get what you mean. You don't have that certainty. It can be isolating.
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justinbieberbaby1990
yeah, its normal, there just jealous :D
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They are just intimidated by your beauty thats all, If I were you I would just work it.
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This just goes to show you that being beautiful isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Midgard
Actually it's about as awesome as it sounds.

As a very attractive male I get preferred treatment everywhere I go, people are kindly disposed to me and people are easily dazzled by me.

Haters wouldn't hate unless there was something to be jealous of.
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Wow, that is so unfair. I think they must do it out of self-defence. I mean, if they just sit and stare at you open-mouthed, which is probably what they feel like doing naturally, their admiration will openly show and they might be seen to be vulnerable. It's such crap though. There's nothing wrong with observing and appreciating beauty. I'm an average-looking woman with stunningly gorgeous friends I am proud to call my friends. Not just because they're great friends, but I actually feel honoured that such beautiful women want to be my friends. In fact, in my life I've come across VERY few truly gorgeous women who are stuck-up or mean. Most of them are absolutely angelic people, very smart, classy and thoughtful, if a bit reserved at first. And who can blame them when everyone is either trying to back-stab them or get them into bed? And for something that's purely aesthetic! Beauty, as the ancient Greeks defined it, is a universal concept related to form, colour and contrast. It's only seen with the eyes. But the eyes are not eternal, they too are physical entities and will one day be gone. So what's all the big deal with aesthetic beauty? It's not like it's a part of your soul; you couldn't help being born that way. And what is beauty anyway? It's what society tells us is beautiful. But different people have different opinions of beauty. I don't find Brad Pitt attractive though most of the rest of the female world does. Go figure.

I say if it really bothers you, dress down, wear spectacles, cut your hair short and dye it mousy brown, put on some weight and chuck out all your make-up and high heels. Easier said than done but it WILL help with your problem.
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I have purposely gained weight; I have shorn off my hair;I have dyed my hair; I have dressed in oversized clothes; I have dressed in genderless clothes;I have stopped bathing; I have 'put-on' an exceedingly introverted persona, avoiding eye contact and wearing a grumpy expression when people inevitably begin to approach after tittering with their friends in the sidelines about planning to come over to flirt with me. None of it helped.

Yes, I got to where I was more invisible to people but it took so much effort to constantly be avoiding the comments and interactions. They would always range or lead from fetishistic to bitterly offensive. I was in deep depression.
By my mid-20's,I was also very physically unhealthy, I decided to stop letting what seemed like 'The World' make me live unhappily in a scared little shell. It has taken me almost 10 years to force myself back to my happy,active and yes, apparently "cute" and "sexy" true self of my pre-puberty days (never mind I am a-sexual and celibate and dress completely covered-up in loose clothing).
I have been 'blessed' with maintaining a youthful appearance.Random males on the street still shout to ask me "Are you eighteen yet?" and middle-aged women still condescend and eye me nastily up and down, some more 'friendly' than others but still not relating to me, objectifying me as much as males do.So, my coming-of-age's torture has not ended.Yes,I am labeling it as "torture".It is not melodrama on my part,it is commercialism and close-mindedness on Society's part to think this could not be torturously unwanted attention.
A grown woman of intellect and passion and ability treated like a slutty little sex kitten is incongruous. When she is expected to ignore reality for everyone else's imposed reality, it is torturous. It is like Petruchio insisting to Katherine that she agree that the sun is the moon,only, I am not a shrew and neither was Katherine.That character and my own and every human spirit, regardless of perceived gender or sexual use are all as intelligent and equal-minded as any other human. It is enraging to force us to pretend we are inhuman whether we are told we are above or below humanity. It is insanity making to expect us to be an icon of desire or detestation when we are human, not statues,vessels or objects.We reside in the vessel as you do in yours and we are no more responsible for it's outward appearance than you are of yours. So, if 'you'(haters) hate my vessel so much in comparison to your own, mark that fact when deciding how to care for your own and leave mine to me.It is mine, not yours(readers,"World") and has no regars as to your ego or even mine; it just houses the spirit which experiences ego and pain and hope as any other human's does.
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Same here. I was a chubby teen, I lost the weight in my 20', suddenly I was described as stuck up instead of shy. I gained so much weight, and know I am generally ignored (was a relief). I started to lose weight two months ago, and I am getting my beautiful face and body back... guess what? I am being given dirty looks everywhere I go. I started my weight loss plan because my husband wants to see me skinny (he met me chubby) I told him this was going to happen before... he didn't believe me, now he sees what I went through before. It's a type of descrimination, created by insecure people who are diks.
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This happens to me every single day, I don't like the way some people treat me. I used to have random guy friends but their intentions were to date me, and when I rejected them, they stop talking to me, they're mean, they don't even greet me. Girls even think I'm trying to steal their boyfriends, I always get alot attention from young and grown men even older 50+. Girls say nasty things about me. I don't have many friends and I've never had a best friend my whole life, everybody controls what i do where i've been, even strangers know my name and everything about my life. Married men check me out, flirt with me. The only part I enjoy of being beautiful is you get lots of freebies from men, they offer me gifts and money, hot men call me sexy, and cute. I'm only treated well by hot guys and for me that's fantastic, I'm only friends with hot men. I don't care if people hate on me anymore.

I've learned that if a girl hates you she's jealous and if a guy hates you it's cause he knows he can't have you.

This goes for every beautiful girl in the world who's been hated on for no reason. Good luck. XO
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This happens to me all the time and I have learned to just deal with it.I was at the bank the other day minding my own business and these three women were snickering about me having no jiggle I was lined up at the bank and I knew they wanted me to feel bad.I'am 5'5 124 36-25-36 and and they were obviously trying to pick on me.I ignored them and what I usually do is try to kill them with kindness because once you see the faces or the boyfriends faces zoom in on you and then the women get catty I don't like that.I'am the nicest person always try to compliment female friends because whenever I meet someone new I want them to not be intimidated or feel threatened for any dumb reason and I try to be nice as possible sometimes it gets annoying to do that because I just wanna say screw it why do I try so hard to win over these women if they are threatened by me?.I also think when certain women have a beautiful inside and are kind they are drawing in people and other women hate that because they do not posses those traits and all I can say is that keep on being happy,kind and loving towrds others because I love it when some woman tells my friends is she a b..... or she thinks she's all that and my friends tell them she is the nicest woman ever once you get to know her she is the kindest.I feel like my reputation gets easier once I prove I'am not just looks I also have heart and also giving.I came here looking for others like me because some days it does get to me and makes me feel sad to work even harder and hear negative ,catty remarks ,it can be hurtful.
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I'm a guy and women love me for my looks and personality, but many people often act the same way to me. This and constant staring and women hitting on me, has has actually given me an anxiety disorder.

Extreme sex appeal can be both a blessing and a curse.

Good luck, I can sympathize.
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I love the idea of a support group
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wallst02
I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm 25 and for the past 10 years of my life I've gotten the same reaction many people like me and many don't. I'm handsome and have always been but when I was in my late childhood years and early teens I was overweight. Then when I turned 15 I lost the weight and immediately it seemed like the world had changed. I was either desired, admired or envied by it seemed to be everyone. Like the person said it's amazing how the admiration comes hand in hand and it does leave hand in hand also. As I get older I'm realizing that eventually the attention will fade and I will just be what I am a person. We can't get fed up in our looks and youth, though I cringe every time I realize I'm going to be 40 one day it has to happen. I just put on 30 pounds in the past few months and immediately noticed a decline in attention. I just am realizing what my mother always told me depend on your looks and you'll lose them depend on yourself and you'll grow.
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same bs i gutta deal wit....It's the constant attention I cant stand...I'm a male 28, short 5'7" but that doesn't seem to deter the stares. kinda feel like I'm always
on display. Plus I've always been a lil timid and sometimes I really just dont want to deal with it and I may come off as stuck up. Guy's always hate on me..Matta a fact I was at a new gym today and I over heard some dude talking under his breath to some girl.Honestly it can make one feel pretty shitty sometimes.I'm also latino and having to deal with straight latin american male natives is an EFIN NIGHTMARE!!!!!
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I never considered myself to be good-looking, but I grew up in a town where most people are pug-ugly, something to do with generations of inbreeding or something like that. I was always being told that I was always being told that i was pretty, once a woman came up to me in the street & told me so! a total stranger! I also got bullied for being prettier & more developed than my classmates at school, & when i was a teenager I had to cope with bad comments from ugly boys.( sour grapes) I`ll honestly say that a girl is better off being average or even plain, that pretty, because I can`t see any advantage to being pretty, you just get picked on by ugly people, & pesterd by creepy guys.
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Spankthemonkey
Haters hate. thats why they call them haters.
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Girls probably claim to hate you yet immitate your clothing choice or hairstyle, correct? Immitation and Jealousy are the best forms of flattery.

It puts into the light their insecurities, best to just ignore it, ugly people just as much shit, LoL. I think it's better to just be average and blend into the background while the freaks of nature and the bombshells get hated on, it's been happening for centuries.
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I would enjoy meeting you. You seem good in your heart! Much love from Canada! Peace!
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I personally Go for personality rarther than looks :P
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Omg! This is crazy because I go through the same exact thing! That's how i found this site. But anyway, this is normal for someone thats beautiful because its not many females out there that can stand out. So when them females do appear they get plenty of attention. Dont feel bad! If any thing feel blessed! It took me years to learn how to handle this. I'm sure I'm younger than you but I'm African American with an in between tanned complexion many people believe I'm mixed but I'm not I'm 5"10 and I think people stare at me because of how I carry myself I'm also a model. People always tend to hate on me and say mean things about me before meeting me and when they do they pretend to be friends with me because I'm so nice. Many girls like to come over my house and steal things since I'm the only child. But I just though I'd come and say a few things because I finally found someone else that goes through this! But like I said keep your head up and stay confident and feel blessed by the best. If you would like to share stories my twitter name is princesszahzah15. Hope I helped
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Wow. I can SO relate to this post...that's how I found it. Googling the same queation!! Let me give you my quick backstory. I grew up quite chunky. I was always told how beautiful I was by my pretty, thin friends. ( I was not competition, I was the fat funny friend) And for a "fat" girl, I was . I am blessed with beautiful skin, (thanks grandma), voluptous curves, dark hair and green eyes. I was always well liked & popular growing up. I am a good hearted person. To the core. Not conceited at all, never thought my s*it did not stink. In fact, I am often told how down to earth I am.
Now that I am in my early thirties, work out regularly & eat right, I have to admit, I DO stand out, and am definitely above average looking.
I am married to a wonderful man, and I talk to him about this all the time! I get hated on for NO reason! He feels sorry for me.

When I go to the gym for example, I dress no different than anybody else. Black Yoga pants, and a tank top. It's not like I am wearing a sports bra only & a full face of make up. Yet men & women either treat me like I don't exist OR they gawk at me. Right down to my personal trainer. He used to be SO nice towards me when I started training, now he ignores me that I lost a ton of weight...It's weird...almost like I feel guilty about how I look. How stupid is that??? I spent my adolescent years HATING my body and feeling like an ugly duckling, yet now I feel like beauty is a curse. Every now & then I will meet a women that can relate and we will click. SO yeah, I feel for ya!!! We should all start a support group.LOL!
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Well, you thinking you are beautiful, down-to-earth, intelligent and so forth kind of gives me the impression you are full of yourself. I could be totally mistaking confidence for arrogance. But I wouldn't focus too much on what others perceive you as.
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reading this, an obvious point comes to mind. you should be with me, because wed always be in the bedroom, noone would have a chance to stare ;) na oj. well a lil bit. people are just jealous you gotta somehow ignore it, and if its really bad go out with someone extremely ugly, then people would look at you like our a saint for helping the needy
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Wow, it's almost the exact opposite for me. I'm not good looking at all, but people talk to me a lot, and in a nice way. I get stared at too, because I'm thin and have nice assets, but people say that a body like mine doesn't deserve a face like mine. But people come to me with their problems and trust me, and I'm quite trustworthy, so I have gained friends and an amazing boyfriend because of that. When they stare or insult, offer a smile that could light the world and show them who you really are.
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also i have to reject many gay men because they want me, so many people think i'm homophobic, and i don't give a f*** about it, but i'm not, i'm just straight and have the right to choose
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I'm a male and this is completely an issue that I deal with all the time. People hate on me HARD really HARD and I'm the type of person who just minds their business. I'm especially hated on by men.
I don't get along with men unless I flirt with them, but I fare pretty well with women most times.
Strangers just start drama with me and send me negative energy, bad vibes and body language.
Even today I was in the computer lab at school and this dude came in rolling his eyes at me, puffed up angry and sat with his back completely to me, when the chairs sit forward at the computer, he was assigned the computer next to mine I was minding my own business and had never met or spoken to this man a day in my life. He was so negative and nasty towards me that i got up and left to another lab within minutes. The sad part was that he was also an attractive guy and had no reason to have a problem with me but he decided to create one with me for whatever reason
I dress nicely so people look at me and think I'm a snob but the fact of the matter is that their disrespectful treatment of me makes me walk with my head taller
I cant help that I have a slammin body, a very attractive face and I carry myself with confidence, I have to do so to offset all of the negative energy that's directed towards me constantaly
I also feel that people go out of their way to try to lower my self-esteem and that's unfortunate.
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Theres shitty people and then theres good people. End of story. Just ignore the shitty ones
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It is normal and happens to me all the time. People I believe are just intimidated by me so they try not to pay me no attention and act rude and arrogant. I can see women doing it because most women are always competing. But with men I don't get.
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Listen, girls get jealous of each other alot that's normal and some guys feel intimidated by beautiful women!! That's just how some people are and u can't change that!! If u r genuinely kind caring and beautiful on the inside then it will show in the outside too!!
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No, we should be celebrated. All beautiful people have to unite. OP please reply.
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I also have huge boobs I think mean likes that :(
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Wow ! I'm not alone ! Thank you !! Man ! I get ignored a lot ! I mean a lot !! But it seems to be a mask from people . they stare & then it's like they put on the I don't like you mask ? Sometimes I'll mesmerize a restaurant full of women, or get what I call leaners . People leaning in to get a look . & sometimes it's the ignore me crowd but well .... Why go out of your way to ignore someone ? It's an attempt to put down an attractive person , I believe .
Rarely il be out & about & people just won't trip at all . I just blend in.That's refreshing . I can just relax . But it's rare . Well... I'm just gorgeous , not a joke , I just am , & it's ok for me to say that . It explains people's reactions to me . & It's not a curse either . Or a boast , just a fact . Better to be attractive than repulsive eh ? John merrick , the elephant man, probably got the same reactions many very attractive people do . It seems to exist at the extreams . It's true beauty is in the eye , but I think there are just some people who are attractive to a vast # of other people . Cary grant or Raquel welch types . So... If your gorgeous be gorgeous . Hey, be yoseff !!
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