My friend dated her boyfriend exclusively for two years. When he put on 50 pounds of fat when his job was stressing him out, she dumped him. She said it was because he repulsed her now, otherwise there was nothing else wrong with him. I told her she was being a bitch but she thinks she's justified.
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People who are actually serious about a relationship, don't mind the little things so much. They understand that certain things outweigh(ha, what a coincidence) other things. If, by him putting on a little weight was the only thing that turned her off, and for her to disregard that they had a two year relationship together, and if he was a good guy throughout that two year relationship, then I think its shameful she'd overlook that because of a little gain in weight. Especially since weight is something that can be changed.
She sounds immature. I'm also wondering what her reaction is gonna be like if he loses the weight. Will she run back? I think he'd be a fool to take her back.
Just like if a man doesn't want to be with a woman that got fatter, she doesn't meet the physical attraction he wants, and so leaves.
I hope there is a lot of negative comments about this girl, though. I have seen a few stories about this when a guy does it, and everyone was furious.
But your comment is making me think about it a little differently... Oh hell, I'll post the comment anyway.
Obviously, the relationship did not mean enough to her for her to attempt to help steer him in the right direction and I feel bad for the both of them. My only hope is that he saw the relationship in as shallow and superficial of a manner as she did.
However, I can not judge. If she did try to help him and he refused any help, then maybe it is a good thing that they broke it off. 50 pounds in a few months is a hell of a downhill fall as far as not taking care of yourself goes and I would hate to be in a relationship in which my partner does not have the concern for his health necessary to keep himself in halfway decent shape and I wouldn't blame a partner for feeling the same.
However, I am married. If my husband left me for my weight or vice-versa... that'd be a pretty bitch move.
If you have gained weight, it doesn't necessarily mean you're not taking care of yourself, or a useless partner. In the last couple of years I have gained about the same amount of weight, due to taking anti-depressants to combat a traumatic emotional event I had a couple of years ago. I haven't been able to lose the weight since.
BUT I eat very well, and certainly don't consume enough calories in the day to warrant the extra weight I'm carrying. This may not relate to the story, but is just an example of how life can change, you can put on weight, and it isn't a measure of how healthy you are, or how well you look after yourself and your partner.
But then again, if she's repulsed then it makes sense.
As for all of you who think she's a bitch: When would you leave your partner? When he/she gained 60 pounds? 100 pounds? 200 pounds? Don't say "Never!" as nobody would believe this.
Plus if she feels like the relationship is questionable do to one of them doing acts that can be seen as relationship deal breakers, she may grasp onto an excuse like weight to not let him truly find out something she knows
-hamid
Kudos to the girl for le4aving the fatso. A healthy relationship has the physical attraction, the sexual factor.
(unless they eat for comfort, but that's more of a depression thing)