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Is it normal for my boyfriend who is a virgin to be scared.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for a very long time. We have recently discussed having sex and have attempted to a few times but he is scared. I am not a virgin but he is. I don't know what to do.
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
Relax him with the rich, smooth flavor of Marlboro cigarettes.
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That was actually a good one.
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w3c
WalkedIntoTheRoomYouKnowYouMadeMyEyesBurn

My favorite song :)
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@: w3c
Yey :)
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Haha, this one actually made me laugh!:P
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That my friend was very good
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I read this with the slow chocolate voice of Mogan Freeman.
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
That is how I said it too.
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Yes this is normal. Why? He hasn't ever had sex before so he is worried. He is worried he wouldn't measure up to your standards because you have had sex with other guys that are more experienced. He doesn't want to lose you.

Sex shouldn't ever be forced or the focus of any relationship. I personally as a guy, believe sex after marriage is the best option for a girl I truly and deeply love. Just take time together and talk things out and think productively and positive be understanding and considerate of each other.

I am sure he cares for you, and would love to be with you.
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Well I've only done it once and thanks for the advice
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Oh and he proposed to me yesterday I said yes
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but of COURSE the guy that believes sex after marriage has a username of 'alabama guy'! But of course.
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Phht- don't down him for his beliefs. It's very nice that he thinks it should be a special gift. <3
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What a lovely reply- it's nice to hear that some guys are willing to wait until after marriage. The idea of making it a special gift for your love is great. :D
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Just handle it how virgin women want to be handled. Be gentle, understanding, arouse him properly, if he's not ready, tell him you'll wait as long as it takes. It takes a lot of patience, but I'm sure it will be worth it. It might be good to reinforce in his mind that he's not going ot be bad at it. A lot of guys get performance anxiety and think their girl is going ot leave the cause he thinks he'll do it wrong
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Of course it's normal. I'm surprised that some people said no. There are so many things to worry about first time especially if your partner isn't a virgin. Am I small? will I look like an idiot? she has something to compare me to, what if I can't last? I think the best thing to do is just try not to make a big deal of it.
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try and relax him, maybe initiate things yourself.
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He's scared of your experience.
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How cute ^^! Well I don't know how old u are or what kind of experience u've had but a blow job usually loosens a guy up a bit haha =P!!
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Really? that'd make me even more nervous
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hey ur very pretty, and have beautiful boobs xx
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tommythecat
"Me and my boyfriend have been together for a very long time."

"We have recently discussed having sex"


His wrist must be sore.
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What is it he's afraid of? If he's just nervous, the only thing that will make that go away is to actually go through with it. He can't sit there and expect it to go away on its own. He has to man up and get the job done.
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Anal?
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Awwwwwwww that's so cute. I never heard of a virgin guy go out with a non-virgin girl. That's so special.
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Oh god the first time I had sex I was so nervous I kept getting all up in my head and loosing wood like fml it was scary but once I got started and saw her enjoying it and I was enjoying it all that melted away and I was in heaven.
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Trust me on this what I am going to tell you. I am a guy who was in a similar situation, I was 18. she was 21. I was virgin and she was not. We went to her apt and we drank wine and beer for a while and it relaxed me so much. She still has a smile on her face today and it has been a long time since we did it.
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It's normal. I'm a virgin as well and the thought of having sex for the first time is kind of scary. Is he very religious? Sometimes, that can play a role in not wanting to have sex before marriage. Be very gentle and understanding of him. Take things at a pace that he's comfortable with. If he's still frightened tell him that you'll give him as much time as he needs. You don't want him to feel like he's being pressured into it.
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Guide him through it, everyone is scared their first time.
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lick his balls.
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