In the past, girls/women have given me clues (sometimes REALLY, REALLY obvious ones) and I totally blew it. This has happened SEVERAL times. One of two things happened:
1. I just didn´t get their clues (which makes me feel like an utter moron, especially because I consider myself quite bright otherwise).
2. I DID get their clues, but for some weird reason (fear?) I just froze and waited for them to take it further (when I of course should have done that).
When it´s already too late, I realize what I´ve done wrong and I feel SOOO bad about it, thinking about what could have been. I feel like such a loser. The worst thing is that I´m still a virgin, when I could have lost it ages ago. I hate myself sometimes.
I guess that what´s done is done and all I can (and should) do, is to try and learn from it. I indeed try to do that, but still I can´t forgive myself. I often have sleepless nights because of this. IIN?
1. I just didn´t get their clues (which makes me feel like an utter moron, especially because I consider myself quite bright otherwise).
2. I DID get their clues, but for some weird reason (fear?) I just froze and waited for them to take it further (when I of course should have done that).
When it´s already too late, I realize what I´ve done wrong and I feel SOOO bad about it, thinking about what could have been. I feel like such a loser. The worst thing is that I´m still a virgin, when I could have lost it ages ago. I hate myself sometimes.
I guess that what´s done is done and all I can (and should) do, is to try and learn from it. I indeed try to do that, but still I can´t forgive myself. I often have sleepless nights because of this. IIN?
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What's so bad about being a virgin? Seriously.
And as the others said, everyone does something they regret, but maybe next time you can just YOLO it and don't just freeze up like you do in the past. Ugh. I can't believe I just said yolo... whatever. Anyways point is, learn from the past and next time a girl gives you hints and you like her, go for it.
Well, there's nothing wrong with it in itself, but I really want to experience what it's like, because I know it's gonna feel SOOO good.
Your advice is pretty good though. Thanks!
When I had less experience, I met this woman as part of a group who were out drinking. We got chatting and, within minutes, it was obvious that we had the same ideologies, it was obvious I was amusing her, and it was very clear to me that I was smitten by her personality, her love of animals, and she was also really rather pretty in a boho-hippy way. Within 30 minutes, sparks were flying all over the place, and I mean sparks. People around the table were in awe of it and were making jokey comments. It's the sort of thing you see in films.
Anyway, then she told me what nights she had off. The conversation had been so easy, I wondered why she'd feel the need to say something so banal. Then she repeated herself and I was very confused. By the third time she repeated it, I was getting irritated by the whole thing. A week or so later, I told my friend about the thing with the nights off and he called me an idiot and said she'd been angling to be asked out. Sounds stupid now but it completely sailed over my head.
She was so right for me that I'll always regret it and I haven't really forgiven myself either. However, the upshot of that awful mistake was a resolution not to make the same mistake again. I've always been comfortable talking to girls but I was bad at reading the signals. I still have my moments but missing out that time has made me a lot better. Hopefully the same happens for you.
Oh, and Merry Christmas. :)
Oh, I just thought of an awesome song you should listen to: Next Girl - Black Keys