I suppose it depends on how well you two get on, that you both share the same sense of humour etc.
I'm a mother and I often go on holiday with my friends rather than my husband and son. They've no particular interest in my kind of holiday, and I've no interest in theirs either. Sometimes we just need a break but maybe you should tell her you want to go. I assume you would offer to pay for yourself and not expect her to pay for you too.
Your mum is not having a mid-life crisis! I've just heard one of my school friends has just had her first baby at 43 yo. Your mum is young and thinks you and your sister are old enough to be left now. I don't know how or why she doesn't need a job to afford a mortgage etc but good for her.
I took my son to Poland last year on my own and I was exhausted every single day! I had to take responsibility for him, where we ate, what we did, when we did it, etc. It was a heavy weight / burden for me and I will not make that mistake again! It would be like you trying to walk a puppy through a city centre without a leash. A mother's nerves are in tatters trying to anticipate what will make her 'baby' happy.
Your mum is a young woman and needs some freedom to genuinely relax, have a laugh, enjoy some music and dancing that she likes - with her friend. It honestly does not mean for one second that she loves you any less! She has done her duty by raising you and deserves a little break.
Don't begrudge her it - or you will spoil it for her. She may tell her friend that she doesn't want to go anymore, but at a later date she would resent you stopping her.
I know you are used to her belonging to you - but she still does. Think about this.... when she gets back she will share some funny stories with you and it will make her more interesting as a person. She will be delighted to see you too and (secretly) she'll probably wish she took you, as she may argue with her friend but let her find that out the hard way! Your mum just needs some life experiences and a few laughs.
Wish her well and don't worry, she'll miss you more than she can imagine at the moment.
OMG. This made my day, joybird. Thank you SO much! Great advice and great input. I seriously needed a mother, herself, to give me her own prospective. You are great. :)
I'm a mother and I often go on holiday with my friends rather than my husband and son. They've no particular interest in my kind of holiday, and I've no interest in theirs either. Sometimes we just need a break but maybe you should tell her you want to go. I assume you would offer to pay for yourself and not expect her to pay for you too.
Your mum is not having a mid-life crisis! I've just heard one of my school friends has just had her first baby at 43 yo. Your mum is young and thinks you and your sister are old enough to be left now. I don't know how or why she doesn't need a job to afford a mortgage etc but good for her.
I took my son to Poland last year on my own and I was exhausted every single day! I had to take responsibility for him, where we ate, what we did, when we did it, etc. It was a heavy weight / burden for me and I will not make that mistake again! It would be like you trying to walk a puppy through a city centre without a leash. A mother's nerves are in tatters trying to anticipate what will make her 'baby' happy.
Your mum is a young woman and needs some freedom to genuinely relax, have a laugh, enjoy some music and dancing that she likes - with her friend. It honestly does not mean for one second that she loves you any less! She has done her duty by raising you and deserves a little break.
Don't begrudge her it - or you will spoil it for her. She may tell her friend that she doesn't want to go anymore, but at a later date she would resent you stopping her.
I know you are used to her belonging to you - but she still does. Think about this.... when she gets back she will share some funny stories with you and it will make her more interesting as a person. She will be delighted to see you too and (secretly) she'll probably wish she took you, as she may argue with her friend but let her find that out the hard way! Your mum just needs some life experiences and a few laughs.
Wish her well and don't worry, she'll miss you more than she can imagine at the moment.
Cheer up ;o)
I wish there were more people in here like you.
I want to stop the IIN teens making the mistakes I did, or that I've seen others make with disastrous consequences.
Just you holler any time xx