Is it normal I'm still with her

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Well, it is a normal thing. People forgive each other and move on in their relationships. However, if its still bugging you, then you haven't truly moved on or forgave her. If it were me, I would wash my hands. In my eyes, the second loyalty and fidelity is broken between two people, there isn't anything left worth saving. Can one ever truly trust someone with that same trust? Relationships without trust and forgiveness are damned at Chapter 1. Do you have either? Has your relationship ever been the same since it happened? If your anger is mainly geared at the male she cheated on you with, then you may as well water that flame. The only person responsible is her, you weren't dating him so he's done nothing. Your love and trust wasn't in him, it was in her and she broke it. If you forgive her, then stop thinking about it. If you can't stop thinking about it then you haven't forgave her and you're trying to whip a 3 legged horse. That, my friend, is not normal.

You also seem to have a lingering shadow of doubt: "Should I of even took her back". If you find yourself asking that question, you haven't forgave her. My child you're making no-one suffer. The only one suffering, in fact, is you. A bit of advice: Go ahead and think of building a relationship like building a castle. If you truly love her, then sacrificing your well-being to be with her is foolhardy. There's a possibility she'll do it again. If you don't really love her enough to truly forgive her, then you're simply wasting your time and hers trying to build a castle out of straw.

But then again, I've developed a bit of bias against cheaters. In my opinion, once a cheater always a cheater. Idk her, and never will. There's a possibility she regrets it all and wants to be with you. The one thing you have to do is talk to her about it. Actually, that's all that's left to do. After all, communication is a strong foundation to your castle. Without it, I doubt your straw castle could even stand.