Is it normal not being myself with anyone?

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sounds like u're on the verge of forming your character...and it seems u want people to accept you,no matter what...so,u drift away from your normal self.Sit down and think what's the real you and then behave as such at places...you'll probably get less friends but those u'll get will be true

This is pretty normal. I act the same with everyone myself, but part of me envies you. I wish that I could act like a different person sometimes, and just decide exactly who I want to be in a certain situation.

However, I guess I can understand the sense of 'loneliness' that must create. Like, all these people that you pretend to be have friends and loved ones but none of those people are friends with the real YOU.

If it bothers you so much though, you should try to slowly insert the "real" you into these alternate personas until everyone you know slowly becomes more accustomed to your true self.

It's normal, and in fact may be an inherent part of your personality. The fact is, people think it's a bad thing to be like that. I don't. The reason for this is the fact that some people are hard-wired to be like that. We're all born with certain personality traits, as indicated in research on personality typology. These born-in personality traits allow psychologists who research this field to typify you within one of four personality coloration categories. Nobody is 100% one color personality or another, but it serves as a solid guide to help you understand yourself. Chances are, you are what Carol Ritberger would classify as a Green personality type. Greens are, inherently, chameleons. We can change ourselves in any given situation to adapt to the people we are with. It's completely normal. If you're around a "red" personality type, you'll act more red. Around a "yellow", then you'll act more yellow.

What is most important isn't figuring out how to stop doing this, but how to adjust your behavior so that you don't become false to yourself. Every green thrives on being a chameleon, but greens also need to reset themselves every day. If you continuously push yourself to be the chameleon, you will gradually fall into a depression, since you'll be getting further and further away from your center. Don't be afraid to use this chameleon nature to build networks and friendships that most other personality types are incapable of, but don't let it consume who you are.

I remember when I cared about others' feelings. I'm guessing you're a teenager, or have the mentality of one. Only teenagers and kids care about what someone else thinks. If an adult can't handle an opinion, they shouldn't have any of their own. Adults should listen to others for more information or wisdom, then adjust their personal opinions accordingly, but being concerned about another's opinion is for youngsters.

It is normal, I do the same and to be honest I would prefer it than sticking to one personality because it makes it more possibe for people like us to survive in the concrete jungle.

I'm an 18 year old but I still play Pokemon and Mario. I still like dressing up (I still have masks in my bedroom) and playing pretend pretty much every day. I still eat food aimed at 10 year olds. I still read fantasy novels and dream about meeting fantasy characters. I still watch cartoons sometimes. I still enjoy getting in a mess. I still tease my little brother. Everybody has kid left in them. For me at least the kiddiness just can't escape. I'm a really fun person.

And yet when around other people, I act frickin dull and bored to make people think I'm serious...

I don't know whether this is normal or not, but I do it too. I seem to just lie to everyone about everything about me, but I did find someone who I didn't lie to, who I could be completely myself around.

I agree with emilydoll.

Except for the God part. God is a crutch for people who can't handle reality.

I am the same way, I think of myself as a camilion (Spellt it wrong that lizard that changes it's skins)

I think u r trying to find ur personality so while u do this u act how u r acting... If i were u i wouldnt be worried its just a time everubody has had or will have some day

It's normal to feel this way. You will grow out if this. You might be thinking to much And over analyzing. Trust in yourself always. Trust in God and pray this to pass.