ItDuz - you'd be surprised how often you cross my mind when I'm not on this site. There are two people here that I struggle to work out, and you are one of those two. In some ways, we are very similar indeed. I have a worldview and it's very rare that someone says something which changes it. I'm obstinate about what I believe and I defend it like a lion. Like you, I know I'm not always right but I can be challenging with people who say I am wrong. I want to know for sure that I am wrong and, if I am, then I change my worldview.
To answer your original question, I know you're not mad at people. You discuss things quite fiercely but you never seem to bear a grudge, so I really don't believe you were ever mad. Like you said in one of the replies, you're interested in the issues that are being discussed. But I'd be lying if I said this was my first impression of you.
The negative side of this reply (from your point of view) is that how you see the world is exactly that; it's how YOU see the world. There are things you can't have experienced, same as me. I don't think either of us have ever been to war. I don't think either of us have ever been raped. I've not suffered anything sexist or racist beyond the very mild. I'm not an animal that's been tortured or a child groomed by a paedophile. Yet these are things I have a strong opinion on. The truth is it's not my opinion. It's largely the opinion (or what I think may be the opinion, in the case of animals) of those who have suffered it. My own opinion, whatever it was, is unlikely to be as valid as people who've been through it so I add what they see to how I see the world.
The other thing is that you're often on the right track but are so blunt that people go against you. Yeah, there are stupid questions here. You go for the jugular with those. Keep your eye on how other people respond to them. These people think the same as you and get the results you want, but in a slightly different way.
You remind me of me when I was younger. I came at everything head on and couldn't understand why people just couldn't be blunt. I felt like I was fighting the whole world. Still do, sometimes. But less often.
As always Dappled you know what to say I agree with about 97% of what you said. About the rape thing I was almost raped when I was a child by my step brother and my uncle was a pedophile who my father left to look after me when he went out to drink but then again I only came close to being raped so I cant say I know what rape feels like. There isnt anything else I can say because everything else I agree on.
To answer your original question, I know you're not mad at people. You discuss things quite fiercely but you never seem to bear a grudge, so I really don't believe you were ever mad. Like you said in one of the replies, you're interested in the issues that are being discussed. But I'd be lying if I said this was my first impression of you.
The negative side of this reply (from your point of view) is that how you see the world is exactly that; it's how YOU see the world. There are things you can't have experienced, same as me. I don't think either of us have ever been to war. I don't think either of us have ever been raped. I've not suffered anything sexist or racist beyond the very mild. I'm not an animal that's been tortured or a child groomed by a paedophile. Yet these are things I have a strong opinion on. The truth is it's not my opinion. It's largely the opinion (or what I think may be the opinion, in the case of animals) of those who have suffered it. My own opinion, whatever it was, is unlikely to be as valid as people who've been through it so I add what they see to how I see the world.
The other thing is that you're often on the right track but are so blunt that people go against you. Yeah, there are stupid questions here. You go for the jugular with those. Keep your eye on how other people respond to them. These people think the same as you and get the results you want, but in a slightly different way.
You remind me of me when I was younger. I came at everything head on and couldn't understand why people just couldn't be blunt. I felt like I was fighting the whole world. Still do, sometimes. But less often.