All seduction gurus make it sound as if most men are too scared to look a beautiful girl in the eyes but although I'm shy usually and afraid of approaching girls I never had a problem looking girls in the eyes but I have a feeling that it's mostly girls who never look me in the eyes, whether it's the fast-food employee or a girl I cross in the street, they ALWAYS look away very fast. Is it normal?
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4. Wear expensive jewellery.
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Don't bother too much with those 'seduction gurus'. As soon as someone starts calling himself a 'guru', you know he's got a screw loose.
In my opinion, there's only one thing that really works when flirting with someone. Be yourself. Not the nervous or shy version of yourself, of course. Be the best version of yourself. Be the kind of person you'd like to hang out with. Someone who's confident about who he is.
But don't go around with that 'seduction guru' and 'negging'* crap I've heard so much about. Lowering women's self esteem so they'll get less picky isn't just childish. It's evil.
*To those who don't know negging: it's basically insulting girls to get them to like you. You know, because assholes need love too.
Oh and dude it might just be your gaze, some guys (myself included) have that thousand yard stare thing. Some people can't help it.
Maybe they just shy,or not very sociable.
Girls call unattractive men's stares creepy and handsome men well the girls themselves would ogle them.
I would recommend not looking a complete stranger in the eyes for a long time, UNLESS you're actually talking to them, otherwise it is just scary.
Lastly, if you keep drowning in your own doom and gloom, you won't get anywhere.
I do know the feeling you are describing though.
I don't go out much but when I do there's always someone glaring at me. If I catch them they turn away, and then resume their glare session when I look away.
It's weird isn't? It makes me uncomfortable. :\
To answer your question; if it was just a glance, I might be flattered and a little embarrassed.
Well flattered is good, but why embarrassed?
I don't know really. :\ Maybe because I'm shy?
However, I don't want to give off the impression that I am interested. Because then someone will ask for my number and I'll say no. Then they'll think I'm just being a tease and I don't want men to view me like that.
(although the aliens never came to take me to the church XD)
LOL I told them to use the 2nd method. :P
Creeps exist everywhere.
If you did not see the part where Captain_Kegstand said "glance",
I'll quote him for you:
"What if it is a particularly hot guy having an interested "glance" at you?"
There is a big difference between glance and stare/glare.
Not once did he ever say a hot creepy guy.
Now, allow me to quote you:
"See, you confirm my thesis that creeps don't exist. Only men you don't give permission to stare because you find them unattractive."
That's just ignorant. Who wants someone staring at them? Attractive or unattractive... I know I don't. Maybe if you are desperate for attention you would like it but not me. I find it rather rude and invasive. Also, I never said I did like it.
Now, I will quote myself:
"To answer your question; if it was just a glance, "I might be" flattered and a little embarrassed."
I said "might be" not 'I would be'
"I know when I see a girl or a guy look at me, I want to turn away as fast as possible. Especially if they look like creeps! I really have a strong distaste for creeps and perverted looking people. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but it is the truth."
I don't like it when anyone stares and me. Female or male. If they give off the creep or pervert vibe, I dislike it even more. Maybe you can't tell, but I can tell when someone is a creep or a perv. I've made it my business to discern if someone is or isn't a creep/perv. I can't be 100% sure all the time but I'm pretty sure I am. It is not that hard.
"I don't care if she/he is attractive or not. A creep is a creep."
Don't listen to these people that say you're unattractive. Thats just stupid. They don't know what you look like and they have no idea how you're looking at them. You could just be glancing, whatever. Some girls are just shy.
About me:
I am not normally shy but if a woman really strikes me, then sometimes I can kind of drop my eye contact down to a minimum, partially out of fear that she will think I'm staring, party to hide my feelings so she won't feel on the spot, and partly out of fear.
Well with this woman cashier, every person before me and after me of both sexes, young and old (I watched in a non-creeper fashion) got good eye contact from her, but when it was my turn she could NOT look at me, and I've been told I am a solid 7 or perhaps a little higher in the looks department, so it can't be that, and I have music students and we all get along famously, so it's not my style/personality either. I got the sense she was attracted to me too, and was similarly afraid. In fact, this is my new signal that is more reliable than a woman being friendly (which usually means nothing).
mi·sog·y·ny - /mə
ˈsäjənē/
Noun:
1. The hatred of women
by men.