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Is it normal that i always want to help the broken or injured girl?
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I'm a teen who has the same reoccuring problem. I meet a girl who is very seeet,funny,smart,charming,etc but it always turna out she's been hurt or injured or damaged some how by someone and I want to rescue her. Be her hero. Is this normal or doni have a white knight complex?
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flutterhigh
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
I'm like that too. This one time, I found this girl tied up to the train tracks. I wasn't sure what happened but nevertheless I ran up and untied her, and later that night we started having wild sex. She had a real fantastic body; too bad her head was missing.
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: flutterhigh
Haha.....funny........
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flutterhigh
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
Didn't translate as well to anecdotal humor as I would have hoped.
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: flutterhigh
It was darkly humorous.
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dappled
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
I used to be like this. My friends called it lame duck syndrome. I grew out of it.

Well, I say I did. I just realised that I met my ex when she had a broken ankle and was on crutches. And I have a long running daydream of dating someone who uses a wheelchair.

Ack! Self-realisation stings!
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Juniper
1 year, 5 months ago | pl
@: dappled
Dude that's not so lame, that's kinda cool. It gives hope to those who are in wheelchairs! That's why God/evolution made ppl like you, so that those ppl could still find love. :)
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Juniper
1 year, 5 months ago | pl
@: Juniper
As long as you're not taking advantage of them for sex, and love them as ppl too, it's not stupid or wrong. At least you're not going after 8 year olds (I hope)!
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: dappled
I meant more emotionally damaged.
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dappled
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
It's more of a worry with emotional damage. You run a real risk of looking like you need someone to be dependent on you. There's a fine line between wanting to help someone and wanting a pet victim.

I suppose the question is: would you be attracted to someone if, with your help, she completely recovered and became a confident, outgoing, happy person? Or is there some part of you that would prefer her to stay damaged so that you're always there to pick up the pieces?

I'm not criticising, by the way, but there are plenty of women who would be wary.
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: dappled
I can say in all honesty that i would indeed be attracted to her.
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: dappled
Thanks for the advice. I genuinely appreciate it.
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dappled
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
You're more than welcome. It sounds like you do want to be a rescuer (as opposed to a manipulator). I did have to say it's a fine line, though, and I mentioned both because, if it crossed my mind, it'd cross other people's minds too.

You pretty much said this in your original post, though and so I do believe your motives are good. It takes patience, tolerance, and care to be there for someone with problems. And I think these are pretty good attributes to have. I hope you'll get your chance to make someone's life better. It's a win-win situation. Good luck to you!
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shuggy-chan
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: dappled
2nd this, but i'd warn u that if u start this process, u have to be carful with them. People like that may test ur will and patience more then u realize, u have too real man it and not half-ass it. Or u could make things worse for them. im lived this. its tough, i wish u luck
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NothingxCrazy
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
I tend to gravitate towards people who have more emotional damage but I think it's just because I, myself, have some damage. Maybe I think if I help them I'll help myself.

Needless to say, the relationship I'm in now has showed me that it's a bad foundation for a relationship.. Haha.
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Shackleford96
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
I think that I have this too. Every girl that I have ever been attracted to was emotionally damaged in some way. I always found out later though.
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feather0612
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
Even if a girl wasn't hurt she'd want to feel like her man would be her white knight if there ever was a situation she needed rescuing. And most girls are hurt in some way, it's whether they admit it to themselves or others that makes the difference. It is definitly normal.
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AnonymousUK
1 year, 4 months ago | pl
Nearly every girl I've liked / been close too has had some sort of issue like their boyfriend used to hit them, they self harmed etc. I don't go looking for girls with issues but when I get to know them it always seems like they have similar problems.
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Katywompus
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
Do you genuinely care or are you just trying to get into her vulnerable panties?
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Katywompus
I have more class than that.
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Katywompus
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
Just checking. I guess your just a caring guy then.
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Katywompus
Im more than a little insulted. To take advantagr of someone in that way is juat wrong and twisted. It happens every day though and it's tragic. Guys like that give men a bad rap.
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Katywompus
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
I didn't mean to insult you :( I don't know you so I had to ask. There are a lot of guys that are assholes like that. I'm glad your not one of them. Its nice to know there's some good guys out there still. Not that women are any better sometimes. They may even be worse
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DolphinAngel
1 year, 4 months ago | pl
Just 3/4 words: "Who's your daddy?"
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flohr92
1 year ago | pl
not only normal but also very sweet. be the hero! :)
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SoccerStud88
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
stop taking advantage of helpless girls OP
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: SoccerStud88
I wonder why it is that the world has come to a point where everyone immidiately assumes the worst in people. Have we all lost faith in fellow man?
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SoccerStud88
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: Failedcasanova
i assume the worst in you
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Failedcasanova
1 year, 7 months ago | pl
@: SoccerStud88
Thats just wonderful.
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