There is nothing anyone could ever say to me that would upset me or make me think less of myself. I usually just stare at them blankly while my mind is thinking about how strange they are.
To tell the truth, anyone compared to my mother is only an amateur, so maybe my abusive childhood was beneficial.
I'd be interested in your thoughts.
To tell the truth, anyone compared to my mother is only an amateur, so maybe my abusive childhood was beneficial.
I'd be interested in your thoughts.
If a person I didn't like or care about in any way called me a pathetic, rotting c*nt it wouldn't have impact upon me at all. However if someone I genuinely cared about and respected called me something as slight as "boring" it would hurt me much more.
That's a good way to describe it - thick skinned.
Mother certainly achieved something then.
There was this girl that thought of herself as the "pretty girl", and she was pretty, but she was very negative to the people around her, so I took her down a couple pegs by pretending to be friends with her and constantly impply negative things about her to her intentionally. Not heard much about her since, but apparantly she deleted her Facebook because of the things I had said to her. I was told by her friend that she decided to delete her account because of the reasons I made her feel.
I think that anybody can get insulted and dragged down, it might just take a higher level of negativity to do so.
My one weakness is jealousy over my bf and although he is aware that I don't like him flirting none of our female friends would ever guess.
I think the others are right, I might have to value your opinion but in truth I don't value anyone's, especially if it relates to me and how I appear to other people. Maybe I might reconsider how I was doing something, following their advice but I could never take a personal insult seriously from anyone.
As I said, everyone's only an amateur!
I wouldn't assume that people don't know your weakneses, people always find a way to do so, and if one of them are jealousy, people catch on to thoe types of weaknesses quite easily.
I think that the jealousy is something you can fix, and so that it isn't a weakness. I would guess that since you're jealous you might think that your partner might find someone better than you? Not saying that he thinks there is, just wondering if those are the types of things that come with the jealousy. I think I might be right, but I can't be 100% certain. I just think that if someone is jealous of their lover flirting that they feel a bit deprived of the love the partner gives to others that should be given to you, his partner.
I would have to agree about petty insults such as name calling, etc. But once someone wears you down due to manipulations and emotional abuse, those petty insults start to be 100% worse that you were before your emotional state was torn down, if that makes sense.
I stare blankly because I can't actually work out WHY anyone would try to put another person down and also because I know they are only wasting their breath on me. There must be some deep psychological reason people feel the need to do this?
I couldn't actually tell you any insults I've received except one guy told his gf I made a pass at him. On that occasional I burst out laughing. It was so pathetic that he thought he was so handsome but everyone knew it was more than extremely unlikely. Probablility = 0.
I think my jealousy is based on the fact that he should want to be with me and if not, well just let me know. Don't play games, move on.
It's a dog eat dog world, people do it to find themselves as the alpha of their surroundings, and others do it just to hurt people.
I also have to say that your third paragraph shows that you aren't really emotionally numb, so I wouldn't worry about that.
Perhaps because of your history with your mother, you have a wall up around you which means even in your relationships you don't allow yourself to be emotionally involved with or reliant upon other people, even if you appear to other people to be. That means these people can't hurt you, because you don't really care for these people - even your boyfriend; as you say, if he walked out "you'd shrug your shoulders, go out with the girls and probably pick up another one."
I really am amazed at some posts on this site where teens worry about what others think of them, but I never have.
Or you could be in a self-delusional state of mind. You should seriously consider the possibility that you just are not fitting in with rest of society.
Let me introduce myself, my name is _______
Pathetic women!!
I can also understand what you mean in regards to insults or what others think. My parents were great parents, never offensive or abusive and even an "insult" from them wouldnt have much of an effect on me. Anything else from anyone else is just laughable.
It wouldn't kill me.