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Is it normal that I dont feel anything when I kiss "the one"?
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And before anybody says anything -- he IS the one. He loves me, takes care of me and everything, and I love him too, but when we kiss, its like normal to me, no zing, no shiver down my spine, no feelings so intense that it blanks out all thoughts. I've discussed this with him and he said that he DOES feel zing with me.
What should I do to create that spark? And do others feel this way too? :( Also, I do get wet, which also confuses me, since I dont feel anything. :/
So I was wondering if its normal for an 18 year old to not feel zing with her boyfriend of three years, who she plans to marry.
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Sorry he ain't
It!
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@: --ash--
He is. :)
Trust me. :)
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My girlfriend is insanely hot. I don't know anyone that wouldn't snap her up in a heart beat. Although when I kiss her I feel nothing, when we sleep together, again nothing.

I don't think it's normal but feeling nothing there.. Not even really a sign of attraction is strange.
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Oh! I do feel a slight zing, sometimes, but its gone as soon as it came. And then it doesnt come back. :/ And I am attracted to him. Its just like...very calm attraction. :/ Not mindblowing, which is what I want.

Thank you, though. :)
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He's not the one.. A 'nice, great guy' isn't the description of 'the one.'
He's obviously someone you're very attracted to, and certainly love. Maybe you need more time, as he does love you and can perhaps pull you around.
You should like kissing 'the one' though, even people who don't like kissing much have a slim exception for their partner.
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I do like the kissing, sometimes, but like i said, its normalish. :/ I dont really know how to explain it. Its nice, but its not WOW. Is it compulsory for me to feel zing when I kiss The One?
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Perhaps you could also try having a break, spend a few days at a friend's and don't see him. Maybe this will spark interest enough that your kiss upon seeing him again will 'spark.' It could just be that the 3years have worn-down the magic.
Try new kisses, don't kiss all the time, and don't think about your body's reactions: unfortunately, when things happen like we're kissed, our body will almost always start preparing itself for sex, we're still very animalistic.
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I actually havdnt seen him for two weeks -- and then we got together yesterday. No zing. :(
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howaminotmyself
Have you ever felt that shiver? Some women, sadly, never shiver. You could try spicing it up a bit, role playing, dirty talk, toys, etc. And see what happens. Please don't get defensive, you are young. I think you may never feel that zing or your boyfriend isn't "the one." Of course you love each other, I'm sure you have much to teach other.
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I used to not feel the shiver either. Thankfully, I do now. :/ Maybe its a time thing?
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wigsplitz
I'm happily married and I just plain don't enjoy kissing much at all. Lots of people don't like making out, or making out often anyway. Kissing can seem like a "have to" and not necessarily a "want to", everybody gets all hyped up for their first kiss and relationships usually evolve physically beginning with making out-it's kind of foced on us and we're told we're supposed to like it. Maybe you're just trying to make yourself like kissing when deep down you don't really enjoy it? Or maybe sometimes kissing feels "forced" or cliche at the moment. Try kissing less often or only when you truly feel like doing it.
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Thank you, that really helped. :)
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how is the sex?
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Its like...getting there, getting there...but I never get there. :/
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And that's the problem.
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drummerguy
so he is definately the right one? the one and only??

wow you must be like still 16 in your head =)

gl getting divorced in 10 years
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He's definately not the one. Sorry honey, but there it is. You're young anyway, you probably won't find the guy you'll settle down with til your 20s or 30s
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Try eating more healthy food or read a novel/song/poem that makes you feel romantic.
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@: Capsule
Healthy food? Really? How does that help?

And I do read romance novels. :/
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U r a dip shit ur 18 and u think he's the one u arrogant little..... Girl ur not close to a woman the way u talk
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Yeah.... But as long as it makes I wet I mean porn might make me wet if i were a girl but doest mean its ya know " the porn"
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Yeah, I always thought there might be something wrong with me, which is why I asked, but I see now that A LOT of people dont feel anything.

I'LL STOP WHEN I WANT TO, RETARD. STOP CALLING PEOPLE BITCHES RANDOMLY. Jeez.
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