I don't mean he has to shower me with gifts, or buy me clothes and stuff on every date. And I know too well that if a guy pampers you with luxuries, it doesn't necessarily mean he loves you, especially when he's rich and the money means nothing to him. However, what if he spends NOTHING on you? Then in my opinion, he definitely doesn't love you since he refuses to give anything REAL other than romance and sweet talks. Sweet nothings don't hurt his wallet!
If we are both uni students, I only expect him to buy me gifts on holidays and pay for dates. I will not go to those expensive places and give him a hard time though. But he has to pay..And by the way, I don't think a woman paying on dates makes her independent. An independent woman is someone who can make a living for herself, not someone who gives a man an excuse for not spending anything on her. And some women may feel so independent after paying on dates, but I doubt those men feel the same way. they probably think they don't have to spend anything to get this girl. PEACHY.
Let's face it, we live in a gendered world.
If we are both uni students, I only expect him to buy me gifts on holidays and pay for dates. I will not go to those expensive places and give him a hard time though. But he has to pay..And by the way, I don't think a woman paying on dates makes her independent. An independent woman is someone who can make a living for herself, not someone who gives a man an excuse for not spending anything on her. And some women may feel so independent after paying on dates, but I doubt those men feel the same way. they probably think they don't have to spend anything to get this girl. PEACHY.
Let's face it, we live in a gendered world.
lets be honest *girls*, who does not like to be pampered every now and then (evrything in moderation remember that) by your boyfriend?
Its the thought that counts sometimes if my boyfriend goes out of his way to buy me a salon spa treatment for my aching back muscles, yes i will damn right appreciate it if he got me that for an xmas present, rather than nothing at all.
how would you feel??
well, if this relationship gets intimate we will share things including expenses, but in courtship i definitely expect the man to pay!!
sometimes nice girls get dumped because they refuse to be a princess. sometimes too much of a princess gets dumped too cuz she refuses to be a girl
I just feel like saying go thank 40 or 50 yrs of all your female buddies and bs for totally fucking up and confusing us guys once again.
Equality keeps rattling around in my brain , where'd that come from. Buy him a few things and maybe he'll get the message.
There are more things in life than having someone to pay for your dates, sweetie!
If it means so much to you, then talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand.
I love spending on her but I like uthawange when she also wants to pay.. I am also a student so money is not mine to spend. Its just me i guess