I'm in love with a girl. She's in love with me. Everything would be like a dream if it wasn't for her ex. He is the most toxic, evil, manipulative man on earth (think rape and violence). I can handle this guy. I'm itching to punch his eyes out of his head to be honest. She was married to him and has kids with him.
But his continued presence in our lives is making me crazy. Whenever she goes round his place to see the kids, he will take a shot at trying to stick it in her or persuade her to go back to him. He sends her texts at 3am, he tells her he wants a piece of her, he bought her a valentines present a week ago. My main problem is that my gf seems unable or unwilling to sort it out. She's scared of confrontation and likes to keep the peace. All i want from her is to show some balls against the tactics of this prick, so i don't have to keep doing it.
What i don't need is 'she's with you don't worry about it' or 'just ignore him' or 'she's got kids with him so deal with it'. I would love some genuine advice about what to say to her and what to expect from her, how to minimise his influence on us, how to move forward with our lives with this guy's ghost following us around. Thanks folks xx
But his continued presence in our lives is making me crazy. Whenever she goes round his place to see the kids, he will take a shot at trying to stick it in her or persuade her to go back to him. He sends her texts at 3am, he tells her he wants a piece of her, he bought her a valentines present a week ago. My main problem is that my gf seems unable or unwilling to sort it out. She's scared of confrontation and likes to keep the peace. All i want from her is to show some balls against the tactics of this prick, so i don't have to keep doing it.
What i don't need is 'she's with you don't worry about it' or 'just ignore him' or 'she's got kids with him so deal with it'. I would love some genuine advice about what to say to her and what to expect from her, how to minimise his influence on us, how to move forward with our lives with this guy's ghost following us around. Thanks folks xx
Not only does this solve your baby daddy problem, but it solves a problem of being with someone who made such a great mistake to get with that particular type of person in the first place and have kids with them, which tells me there is other things wrong with her as well.
Otherwise, aside from doing something stupidly illegal which will probably make her life much more difficult and complex, you'll just have to accept the situation for what it is. She's going to have to be the one to take the action. I can understand why you hate him, but you need to keep things civil, otherwise he can go to court and prove that SHE shouldn't have the kids around because of YOUR behavior.
In the end, he is the man that she chose to have kids with and unless something happens to them, she is bound to him forever so you'll have to learn to cope with this.
Personally, I would say that no women would be worth enough to have that much drama in my life, so I would just ditch her and find someone else without all the "baggage" etc... But that's just me. This guy isn't going to go away because of the kids thing, and short of whooping his ass, there is nothing you can do to stop him being a cunt. I'd say either try and tolerate it, or just say fuck it and find someone else without all the fucking drama. You don't need that shit in your life man!
But look on the bright side - you have no commitments with this woman. You can walk out tomorrow and never look back and there would be no issue (legally at least). It's time to sit down and think it though. Is it really worth it? How long are you going to allow her and her baggage to put you through this?