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I'm a pretty laid back guy. There aren't many things in this world that I hate... After my wife had a bad experience with a female Gynecologist, she decided to try this male doctor. I really hated her decision... every time she goes to see him, I get angry and mean towards her. It has been 3 years since she started seeing this doctor... and I still get angry. Sometimes I get so furious that I won't speak to her for a day or two. Is this normal?
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I just recently had came across this thread and thought that I would add my two cents. I'd have to say that the OP is completely normal and with-in his right to feel the way that he does. What woman in her right mind would ever electively go to see a male ob/gyn if it could be avoided, especially if she is in a commited relationship or marriage. To me, that is just down right disrespectful to her man. There are plenty of female doctors out there for women to go to. Additionally the OP had stated that he confided with her that he is uncomfortable about this, but she continues to go. If I were the OP, I would divorce her ass..., as she obviously doesn't respect him! Peace!
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WordWizard
@: Hommer
It is perfectly normal. Nothing wrong with the women making a decision to see a different doctor. While most women prefer a female doctor for this type of thing a lot of them end up seeing men anyways. Also she might not be like her husband and is not seeing it as sex. Why are you going to want to think of your doctor that way? I know I would not want to. She may be more comfortable and possible feels judged when seeing a female doctor. Her husband is normal for being jealous but she is not bad for doing what makes her comfortable and we can't judge her for it.
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Whether she sees it as sex or not, the exams are pretty sexual. Not many men would like the idea of another man inserting lubricated fingers into their wife or feeling their breasts - especially when there are amply experienced and qualified women who're available but she's specifically chosen a man.

Saying it's normal for a woman to want a man is simply not true, the vast majority of women visit female gynecologists... and that she presumably knows it hurts her husband but doesn't care speaks volumes.

I would divorce her personally.
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@: Hommer
It is normal! And it is wrong of your wife to not care about it and to do it when she knows it bothers you. And all the rude women on here saying something is wrong with him........... newsflash this is for you your completely oblivious to everything in the world and all those Women argueing OUT THERE this is for you. YOU ALL SAY THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER LIKE MOST FEMALES SIDES TO ARGUMENTS. ITS NOT A SEXY THING ( FOR HIM IT IS IF YOUR GOOD LOOKING AND NOT FAT) HES A DOCTOR(WHEN YOU BECOME A DOCTOR YOU DO NOT STOP BECOMING A MAN) ITS HIS JOB( DOESNT MEAN HE WONT BE SEEING PALMELA AND HIS 5 SISTERS LATER) Our problem as guys Is not wondering if you like it. Its the pervert with the MAGIC apron on that instantly makes him not a pervert like all other men on this planet, that is reaching inside your vagina. I mean WHAT KIND OF GUYS DECIDES TO BECOME A GYNO?............................... AFTER TRYING TO ANSWER MY QUESTION IF YOU CAME UP WITH A LAME ANSWER LIKE OH WELL MAYBE SOMEONE IN HIS LIFE HAD VAGINA CANCER AND HE WANTS TO MAKE THE WORLD RIGHT ONE VAGINA AT A TIME. IF YOU CAME UP WITH SOMETHING LIKE THIS IM SORRY FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND HE PROBABLY NEVER WINS ARGUMENTS CAUSE YOUR BRAIN IS A FANTASY LAND. BOTTOM LINE IS THAT THE DOCTORS LOVE LOOKING AT YOUR YOUNG FRESH VAGINA. AND GIRLS THAT DONT CARE YOU SHOULDNT CARE ABOUT! CAUSE THEY OBVIOUSLY HAVE ON SELF RESPECT!
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@: Hommer
All these woman on here saying how horrible female drs are. Sounds like an excuse to help you sleep at night.
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@: Hommer
Umm no not at all, female gynos are really bitchy and rough. Since they are women they think every pain you have is just exaggerating. Men are so afraid of hurting you that they are gentle and since they don't have a vag they are likely to take pain seriously as it usually is. No woman should have to endure a bitch prodding and poking around down there because you are uncomfy but stop whining because I'm sure you wouldn't want a man feeling all over your junk.
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jpw
@: Inay
Di you ever think the reason that male doctor's are more gentle is in fact a sex act the are doing
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I am a woman who made a commitment to True Love Waits (to not have sex until I am married) when I was a teenager. At the same time, I thought about how I would never let another man except for my future husband to see certain private parts of my body. I definitely would not allow a male doctor/nurse to see certain parts of my body that should be reserved for my future husband at all. I find it strange that people think that male gynecologists are an exception and that it is fine for them to see private parts of other women who they are not married to. They are men who are not morally above other men at all. Medicine doesn't make it right. It's a huge cultural blind spot. My mom went to a male gynecologist for years. After I brought some things to her attention, she doesn't feel that male gynecologists are appropriate. She has not been to a male ob/gyn in about 11 years.

The way you feel about your wife going to a male gynecologist is normal. This shows that you really love her very much.

However, I do recommend that you not be mean to her anymore. Try to work on being more compassionate & gentle and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that it would bother you if another man (ex: the next door neighbor) could and access certain parts of her body. Try to help her to find a new female ob/gyn.

Some people think that male gynecologists can turn off their impure thoughts, but that's totally untrue. You should check out how one male doctor gave up doing gynecological examinations because he was convicted that it was wrong at <a href="http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63">http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63</a>.

You should join the <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/howhusbandsfeel"> "How Husbands Feel About Male Gyns" group</a>. You will get some good insights from other men whose wives went to a male ob/gyn before. One husband thought he would never convince his wife to switch to a female ob/gyn, but he was finally successful.

There are many people who feel the same way as you do about patient modesty in medical settings. You should check out <a href="http://www.patientmodesty.org> Medical Patient Modesty </a>. Check out <a href="http://patientmodesty.org/modestycomments.aspx?ID=2">Brandon's story</a>. I know you could really relate to him.
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Yes, it's completely normal to be angry. I get angry too! I try to explain to my wife to choose to go to a male gynecologist who will see her body naked, touch her private area and then place his fingers inside her is way too much! He will also do breast and rectal exams. No matter how much a woman feels that you are being jealous or over protective because this a "doctor". At the end of the day, this is still a "man". Intimate parts of a woman's body, should be for her husband ONLY!
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@: cheagle
You are saying you get turned on by disased, mutated, nasty, old, wrinkled, mishapen, disfigured vagina it wouldn't surprise me if they all got turned off of vaginas
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WordWizard
This is a medical profession. I am sure the doctor is not looking at it as he is wanting to have sex with his patients. He is doing his job and that is it. I think most people are mature enough to know this. That is like saying every man who gets prostate checked "BY A MAN" is sexually attracted to him. These are medical procedures and medical doctors. I am sure none of them are looking at it as sex.
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These men see diseased vaginas and such too not only that they see old nasty ones too and every kind under the sun if I were a gyno I would be gay by the end of the day
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Actually if the woman had any respect and love for her man then she would take into consideration his feelings. We live in a selfish world and often do not consider the feelings of our spouse. If my girlfriend/wife had a problem with me going to a female doctor I would honor her feelings and go to a male doctor. If my girlfriend couldn't do the same for me then she would have to find herself another boyfriend and I would get a woman that actually respected my feelings.
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Actually you guys live in a dream world, where women put their legs up as centerfolds for these doctors. What a joke! So you are saying that as long as the woman thinks it is OK, the male doctors get to continue spreading them wide open and pretending not to like it? I don't find it trivial when someone's fn wife spreads for another man... even if he is an almighty part God doctor. What a crock of shit. What does that doctor talk about at lunch with his doctor friends? So I guess if your wife starts studying the male penis and spends her life examining male penises everyday you would think it is OK. What about when the doctor goes home and visualizes your wife's pussy as he make love to his wife... is that OK? Like I always say, pull your heads out of your naive backsides and face reality. Women should wake up and stop being centerfolds to fn gynos. Like gynos don't look at hot women on magazines, or check out a young girl's nice butt. I guess it is all about ME when the doctor is picturing your wife's pussy at night when he is with his wife... or over his tuna sandwich.

Women should get a female doctor and stop pretending that men (even God-like doctors) love pussy.

And he may hold his nose with some exams, but not with others.... grow up!!
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@: runner
You grow up girl gynos are rough and insensitive and your wife should deal with that because you are being jealous vaginas aren't that pretty and gynos aren't seeing the beautiful pornstars you think they are women gynos are often less qualified. You know that once my aunt saw a female gyno and when she complained of pain the gyno acted like she was exaggerating and it turned out she was having uteral spasms, she found out when she went to a male doctor.
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Of course you would work at a bar and defend a man looking at a wife's pussy. Like I said, do you know that men spend money to see women spread their legs? If you don't care that a man looks at your wife's pussy, and she is the type of woman that doesn't care, then you guys are a great match. Next she can spread for an art student, or your next door neighbor, or whatever. But if there is not an emergency, and it is only an examination, it seems really naive and trashy to allow another man to go into your wife's pussy. If she had any class, she would keep her vag to herself and just get a woman doctor. What about the privacy between a man and a woman??

And there is a huge difference between fantasizing about a woman at a bar and seeing, touching, and smelling another man's woman. You guys need to get some morals.

But like I always say, if YOUR wife wants to allow a male to get access to her pussy,have fun. A nice relationship: You, your wife, and your wife's male doctor. Sounds nice to me.
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Relax runner, not every man was raised to put the pussy on a pedestal like you. If she dies, will you insist on a female mortician too?
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This argument is the ultimate weapon of male gynecologists. Well, okay... We can reserve male gynecologists for emergency cases maybe or for elderlies?
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jpw
You are some dip shit that not what he is saying its about respect for his feelings as he must respect hers but if she taught and thing about him and could see that tis was causing up set in there relationship and if it was so trivial this exam why not just go to a women doctor to keep her relationship on good grown its about give and take in a good relationship
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michaelskvortsov
I would worry about it. If she knows how angry it makes you and she's still seeing him, there's something going on. He's fucking her.
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Or she knows her boyfriend is a jealous dick, my solution GO WITH HER, she is allowed to have anyone she likes present. She could bring in a cop if she wanted. She also has a nurse in the room, a nurse must be present, a FEMALE nurse. Bet you didn't consider that. I once went to a female doctor who was so rough that I was sore. Would you want your wife to endure that, it means no sex for you buddy. Did you even think maybe try sending a trusted female with her. Think of it this way, so what if he is turned on by your wife's vag, if you guys go to the beach would you make her wear a 7 piece snowsuit so that no one gets turned on. People on the street could get turned on by her. It's not like he is in the office trying to give her the big O. He does his job and continues with his day.
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@: Inay
No matter how many pussy does male gynecologist encountered through their entire career, when they came across beautiful women or women with a nice vagina, men will really be a man regardless of their being gynecologist. Well, maybe they don't care with old women or those unattractive women.

Psychologically, men will really get attracted with those attractive ones. Though they will really hide their thoughts as such thoughts are always unseen. They will pretend that blah blah blah.. it's nothing... it's their profession. a bunch of pussy they had encountered already and how's your wife's pussy differs from those?... blah blah blah. But at the end, the unseen thoughts of men will always emerge. Most of them were able to control their actions during the process but, few of them had failed and thus end up in trouble. Male gynecologist will forever deny of their manly thoughts for those attractive ones. For sure, many will reject this post of mine but as I said, they will forever deny it. Anyway, the choice is always yours.
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jpw
@: Inay
i think you have a big problem you used the term jealous dick of course he is jealous any normal man would be you my not friend are the type of person who would get off on seeing an other person prodding your partner which i think is ok if that is the way you feeling and any doctor will advice you if you are a women not to bring your husband into such an exam the will tell you your husband may find it up setting for them to see an other man touching there wife in this way , know three women that doctors have told them to bring a girl friend if the like , now these doctors used the term man touching not doctors so even the used the term man
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I am a woman who made a commitment to True Love Waits (to not have sex until I am married) when I was a teenager. At the same time, I thought about how I would never let another man except for my future husband to see certain private parts of my body. I definitely would not allow a male doctor/nurse to see certain parts of my body that should be reserved for my future husband at all. I find it strange that people think that male gynecologists are an exception and that it is fine for them to see private parts of other women who they are not married to. They are men who are not morally above other men at all. Medicine doesn't make it right. It's a huge cultural blind spot. My mom went to a male gynecologist for years. After I brought some things to her attention, she doesn't feel that male gynecologists are appropriate. She has not been to a male ob/gyn in about 11 years.

The way you feel about your wife going to a male gynecologist is normal. This shows that you really love her very much.

However, I do recommend that you not be mean to her anymore. Try to work on being more compassionate & gentle and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that it would bother you if another man (ex: the next door neighbor) could and access certain parts of her body. Try to help her to find a new female ob/gyn.

Some people think that male gynecologists can turn off their impure thoughts, but that's totally untrue. You should check out how one male doctor gave up doing gynecological examinations because he was convicted that it was wrong at http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63.

You should join the "How Husbands Feel About Male Gyns" group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/howhusbandsfeel/.You will get some good insights from other men whose wives went to a male ob/gyn before. One husband thought he would never convince his wife to switch to a fenmale ob/gyn, but he was finally successful.

There are many people who feel the same way as you do about patient modesty in medical settings. You should check out http://www.patientmodesty.org. Check out Brandon's story at http://patientmodesty.org/modestycomments.aspx?ID=2. I know you could really relate to him.
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Thank you for this post! I felt like no one understood me when I voiced this discomfort. Finally, feel so much better! Thank you thank you thank you.
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"As for the prostate exam, I will try to find a female doctor... The prettiest and hottest I can find."

Now you're just being petty-- not only that, but hypocritical too. How do you expect your relationship to last if, instead of seeing things from her point of view, you get irrational, jealous, and vengeful?

You're making it all about you -- like YOU'RE the victim here -- meanwhile your wife has to deal with her husband treating her like shit over something completely trivial. Find your priorities soon, or expect her to walk out the door.

Your wife deserves better.
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What a ridiculous response. If his wife going to a male OB/GYN physician is a "trivial" matter, then certainly for him to seek a prostate, colonoscopy and testicular examination from a female is equally "trivial." If she neither cares nor considers his turmoil over another man inserting his fingers into each of her orifices and squeezing her boobs, maybe his examinations will put things in perspective for her.
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Actually, I'm a woman. Yes, I bartend, and it IS my job to be friendly/flirty with my male AND female patrons. My boyfriend is secure enough to know that while other men think I'm hot, I don't pay them any more attention past taking their tips ;) There WOULD be a problem if there was no trust between us, or if I payed more attention to them than I need to. It's just a job, I see guys that would be considered hot every day, but they mean nothing to me because I have someone that I go home to every day that I love. I'm sure MOST male doctors feel the same. Not saying there aren't rotten eggs in the bunch. His wife could very well be having an affair with the doctor. Point is, isn't there a greater risk to the security of my relationship with my job, than when I see my obgyn? Who is male, by the way. What is a doctor going to do, buy me a drink? Fired. Even IF my doctor thinks my kitty is hot... what? I don't get any bad vibes from him, no harm done. Have YOU ever had a pap test? No. They wear gloves, stick a tube inside you and swipe with a q-tip. Unless she gets pregnant, there's usually no touching involved; even then, he wears gloves at all times.

The main question of this thread: is his anger over his wifes decision normal?

Yes, by definition, feelings are normal. And I can even respect why he feels that way. But jealousy is blinding, and in my opinion, his feelings are irrational, and the product of many days/years spent brooding over it and justifying them. If he loves his wife, and she loves him, the issue of her doctors gender should be trivial.
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jpw
I STILL THINK YOU ALL ARE MISSING THE POINT HE LOVES HIS WIFE ?GIRL FRIEND IT IS NORMMELL TO FELL JEALOUS ABOUT THIS MAN SEEING AND TOUCHING HIS WIFE IN THIS WAY AND ITS NOT ALL ABOUT HIM IT ABOUT THE TWO OF THEM AND IF SHE LOVE HIM SHE WOULD TRY TO UNDER STAND IT AND MAKE MOVES TO TRY AND MAKE IT BETTER ?Marriage HAVE BROKEN UP OVER LESS ITS ABOUT THE TWO OF THEM SHE AS I SEE IT DONT CARE ENOUGH ABOUT HIM TO MAKE THE CHANGE SEE IS MAKING IT ABOUT HER
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OP I can understand how you feel. I feel similar. I wouldn't use the word jealous, sex has nothing to do with the issue, it just offends me and hurts me to have someone I care about examined that way by the opposite sex. That is the most intimate exam there is and for me men needn't apply when it comes to my wife. I only experienced this once when I had a girlfriend who went to a male. Anyway, I lucked out and my wife feels the same way. She only goes to women and won't submit to a male exam. It creeps her out to think of a man doing that. Feel however you want. If you feel it, than it is real. You don't need "rights" to feel how you feel. Anyway, you are married so you are already in pretty deep. I don't know what to tell you. I honestly think I'd divorce my wife if she did choose to be examined by a man. I don't think I would have married her if she prefered male gynocologists. It isn't really a good/bad, right/wrong issue, rather whether you are compatible in this area. Some women prefer males. Some guys don't care. If you do care then you should probably be with a woman who prefers a woman or doesn't care either way and will only go to women for your sake. If she refuses to stop going this will probably bother you the rest of your marriage. I don't know what to tell you to do. Ask her to stop. If she continues to go to men you either have to divorce her or deal with this feeling. Can you deal with it or not?
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i understand how you men feel about us going to male gynae and i myself only go to female gynae...

There are definetly also good and gentle female gynae out there.

My boy friend is always telling me how much more he loves me for being respectful of his feelings.
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Ok, I worked in the medical establishment for 6 years as a male. I did, in my job in surgery, see alot of unclothed people including attractive females. No sexual urges ever emerged....however...there is a curiosity factor. Most doctors are professional but there are a few that are out there. I am also married to a woman, a nurse, that is attractive, and...had alot of male doctors hit on her....regardless of her being married. So face it...half the doctors egos are so large because they are doctors that they think women will respond to their advances because of their status. Sadly, my wife did have an affair with one. Nearly destroyed our marriage. Also, when she was in the hospital to give birth, we had made it implicit that no residents attend. One showed up at her room and advised that he needed to give her an admissions exam. We protested....then he stated it was required. He had a rotation in the clinic she worked in in the hospital. ue to legal reasons, and our naietive, we reluctantl relented. It made me sick to my stomach. I found out later we could have said no but the way he put it he made it sound manditory. This doctor intentionally violated my wife and I am sure it was for his lust of her. We got smarter after that. Initially I did not have a problem with her going to a male obgyn and I went to the appointments also. She also went to some male plastic surgeons...without consulting me....and I guess that made the trust issue worse. I made it clear to her that I know longer wanted her to go to any male doctors for whatever reason unless their were no in the specialty. There are plent of female doctors in practice these days. In the old days ....no. If a man has an issue with his wife seeing a male doctor the wife should respect his wishes....period!!! If it is a bad female doctor...find another. My wife had a colonoscopy done by a male doctor...even though there are women doctors doing them. That was the last straw. Next time she will find all of her belongings in the front yard. I am not jealous....just don't want another man touching my wife. And by the way...it is a fact that doctors spend more time examining attractive patients than unatractive patients.....they may act thoroughly professional but they still are men and think like men.
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jpw
as a man who has tryed to take to my wife about this and for years she has being telling be that I am sick in the head for feeling like this to a point it has harden my hart, and I don't look at her in the same way any more do she has a women doctor , now her doctor and my doctor work in the same place and I found out by chance that she had went to my doctor for a pelvic EXAM over heard her telling her friend on the phone i will admit i lost it and she keep on saying i was tick for thinning like that that he is a doctor , it made me feel quite sick , i told her it was not fare that i would now have to change my doctor i could en face him knowing what he had saw and done again she said i was tick to feel like that , so now it was get back time ??? i had to get my prostate check wrong her doctor made the appointment to see her doctor and asked for them to ring to remind about the appointment but said my phone was broken to ring her to remind me ?? the shit hid the fan when she heard tried to cancel the appointment the wouldn't do that with out me saying she tried to contact me i wouldn't answer the phone went ahead with the exam , now her doctor is shit hot like a godess when i came home she went mad said she would have to change her doctor now couldn't face her after her examining me , now i know you out there will say i was wrong to do that but she still couldn't understand my i felt like that ?/
ps the say its not sexual those type of exams got my prostate check 2 times once by a male doctor and once by a women doctor be leave me it felt a lot nice er when the women doctor did it
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Continued. Bottom line. I know exams are not sexual in nature and not pleasant for women. However, I stand by any man that does not like a male doctor examining his wife and the wife should respect that. There are enough female OBGYNs as well as women doctors that perform colonoscopies that a woman does not need these performed by a man. It is also true that attractive women are scheduled for more exams than unattractive women...case in point my best friends wife is very attractive and she is told to have a PAP smear twice a year....the doctor found something suspicious....huh, huh....yeah...she is suspiciously attractive as is my wife....
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You just dont want anyone looking at YOUR woman. But dont be so hard on her! Its a doctor- not her fault. But its normal to feel that way.
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All she has to do is take a few minutes and find a female doctor, not a man that ,like all men, are biologically made to be attracted to a woman's vagina. You think he doesn't get excited when he finally gets down on his date?? She should face some reality and stop living in denial about the fact that a man is a man is a man! Think about this: A hot looking 18 year old babe comes in and the male doctor doesn't notice??? Yea right, he doesn't think about that when he is making love to his wife ever..... PLEASE!!
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@: runner
Females are rough doctors but of course you don't care because its all about you and your feelings
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jpw
@: Inay
Again you all keep on saying he is making it about him self he has feelings as well l am like him in the way i feel about these things we cant help the way we feel it is about respect and love if his wife loved him and seen how much this hurt him and truly love she would not wont to hurt him like this
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Answer one question for me then: Why do men pay money for magazines to see a woman spread her legs? And what logic in this universe says that ONLY doctors don't like a pretty woman with spread legs? You guys are living in a dream world. You really need to wake up.
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It may be true that most women don't like going for this exam. But I'm a jealous huband, not about my wife, for my wife. I don't want another man sticking his fingers in her, or looking at her. Somehow the notion is that doctors are more than humans, not the least bit interested in that.I think the thing that I don't like the most is the control, I don't want another man having this and I'm not willing to give it up. In this world where anything goes, and everything is ok somehow. My wife and I feel the same way, she has a male doctor, and I a female doctor. We both trust our doctors and like them. But we agree that for those exams we'll use the same gender doctor. If you have a choice and you care about your spouse's feeling make the right choice. I love my wife and she loves me, we will not do anything that will caouse each other pain. If you don't have a problem with this, thats ok. But he does, and his wife should care more about his feeling. There may be more wrong here than going to the doctor's.
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He should care about his wife's feelings and not be so insecure, or think for one second that this is a doctor and these exams aren't sexy so why she should have to be traumatized by literally putting her vagina in a strangers hands instead of staying with a trusted doctor obviously he isn't a pervert because women aren't THAT OBLIVIOUS AND CAN TELL WHEN A GUY IS BEING TOO PERSONAL
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You can only hope that a male gynecologist thinks of each woman as a patient...
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Your wife is not the first woman to go to a male gyne. I think you need to support her decision based on the bad experience she had and feel comfortable with this gynae. I think you need to grow up and behave more mature than becoming angry...after 3 years??? Dude you have a mental problem and I think you need to get your head examined.

I am a female and have always gone to a male gyne with no problems.
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All you males are idiots. Especially runner.

A gyno appointment is NOT sexy. No matter what you think. And I'm sorry but so what if the guy looks at ONE nice pussy now and then? It's not like they act on it. It's a job, and they have to see fat, old and diseased pussy all day. And there is always a female nurse in the room. You're just super insecure obviously and that's not right. I can understand you not being comfortable because as a guy you just don't understand. But treating her so badly is wrong. Try being nicer and leas insecure and she might be more willing to change doctors for you.
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Lol Missmeow your completely oblivious to everything in the world and all those FEMALES OUT THERE this is for you. YOU ALL SAY THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER LIKE MOST FEMALES SIDES TO ARGUMENTS. ITS NOT A SEXY THING ( FOR HIM IT IS IF YOUR GOOD LOOKING AND NOT FAT) HES A DOCTOR(WHEN YOU BECOME A DOCTOR YOU DO NOT STOP BECOMING A MAN) ITS HIS JOB( DOESNT MEAN HE WONT BE SEEING PALMELA AND HIS 5 SISTERS LATER) Our problem as guys Is not wondering if you like it. Its the pervert with the MAGIC apron on that instantly makes him not a pervert like all other men on this planet, that is reaching inside your vagina. I mean WHAT KIND OF GUYS DECIDES TO BECOME A GYNO?............................... AFTER TRYING TO ANSWER MY QUESTION IF YOU CAME UP WITH A LAME ANSWER LIKE OH WELL MAYBE SOMEONE IN HIS LIFE HAD VAGINA CANCER AND HE WANTS TO MAKE THE WORLD RIGHT ONE VAGINA AT A TIME. IF YOU CAME UP WITH SOMETHING LIKE THIS IM SORRY FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND HE PROBABLY NEVER WINS ARGUMENTS CAUSE YOUR BRAIN IS A FANTASY LAND. BOTTOM LINE IS THAT THE DOCTORS LOVE LOOKING AT YOUR YOUNG FRESH VAGINA. AND GIRLS THAT DONT CARE YOU SHOULDNT CARE ABOUT! CAUSE THEY OBVIOUSLY HAVE ON SELF RESPECT!
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I love how you idiots are claiming it's immoral to let a male doctor see your vagina.
I hope when you go to the ER or have surgery, you MAKE SURE you request same-sex doctors and nurses only.
A doctor is a doctor. When they are examining you to make sure you are healthy and that your chauvinist-pig husband hasn't given you an STD that he got from the strip club, they are just doing their job.
I've spent years trying to find an OB/GYN that I trust, and the males seem to fix my serious problems best.
Get over yourself and stop thinking like a 14 year old boy.
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It is immoral and disrespectful for a woman to electively go to a male ob/gyn when it can be avoided. What makes a marriage or relationship special is "exclusivity". Women are taught at a very early age that they're not supposed to let men see them naked, including their fathers, but then to say that once a man becomes a doctor, then they become immune to the sight of a woman. Way too many male doctors have crossed the line, and once a woman is violated, you can't take it back, so why take the chance. Not all doctors have a chaperone present, nor is it a law..., just wise practice, but the exposure issue still isn't proper. If a woman truly loves a man, then she would try to be as modest as possible. This is not a double standard, as men should also try to seek same gender for any intimate care, or at least have their spouses present during the procedure. While most women tend to say it is a "cold" and "sterile" process, whereas some women have been known to become aroused during the bi-manuel portion of the examination. Peace!
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I agree with this.
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you have to be the most dom ass I have ever heard that not the point i would be more worried if he was not jealous this women what if he was to go to a strip club and get up on the stage with the women and took off his clothes for all the others to see should it mater or have the women next door to come in and give him a rub-down for a bad back while he is naked its to re leave his pain should his wife mind like all you women out there to answer that one the same thing same thing wouldn't his health mater be the same ????? fuck en don't think so she would freak out ? she married the man she should matter what his feeling are its people like you who turn my stomach its people like you who break up marriages with your bull shit talk the should talk about it and understand how he feel and not lessen to those women who are still stock in the 60 s and women lib , he does matter his feeling matter and if she loved him she would do some thing about it and if not he should go to a shit hot women doctor get naked and come home and tell her about it and see how she feels about it
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It looks like your partner cheated on you that why you gave such a angry response to this mans question.
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That's pretty unreasonable. Trust me, when gynecologists touch us or look at us, it's not sexy and they behave completely professionally. I would bet money that it's not something your wife looks forward to, but she does it for her health. The doctor is just doing his job. He can't even afford to flirt with her because he has to be extra careful about that sort of thing at his job or he runs the risk of being sued for sexual harassment.

Your feelings may be normal, but they are not fair or rational.
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@: Kat444
Is it fair that she knows that it bothers me, but continues to see him?
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Her being comfortable with the doctor is infinitely more important than you being comfortable with the doctor, since it's her fucking vagina. So yes, it's perfectly fair that she continues to see him even though she knows it bothers you.

The idea of seeing a different doctor almost certainly bothers her. She's had a bad experience with a gynecologist before but she knows this male one now, she knows he's a good doctor. Seeing a different doctor whom she has never been examined by before would probably be pretty scary for her. Especially a female one since the bad experience was with a female one.

From what my wife says, seeing a gynecologist isn't a lot of fun even when the woman trusts the gynecologist. You are a horrible person for expecting her to do something that would make it worse for her just to cater to your stupid neurosis.
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Your so blind. Its ok not everyone is born intelligent. Blame your parents.
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Right on. There's not much more I can add to that.
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I feel like you, it's not right. To those that don't have a problem with it that's fine, but he does. Your wife should be more than willing to do this for you. We all have things that would bother our marriage, flirting with a co-workers, old flames, going to stip clubs. Maybe there nothing to them but we don't upset our spouse's. Marriage is about putting our spouse needs and wants before ours. This in no way is a sacrafice for her, but her unwillingnesss would indicate a bigger problem.
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It's her vagina and its awkward, the doctor is always so uptight because they don't want to get sued. They never even really smile at you because they are so nervous about some crazy chick saying its harassment then with assholes like you saying they are just pervs. Nt only that but her boyfriend could always ask to go with her and SEE THAT NOTHING IS SEXY ABOUT IT
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@: Inay
No man should have to witness another "man" feeling his wife.
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Just cause they are careful. Doesn't mean that they do not enjoy it which is what bothers us males. IF YOU WOMEN WERE INSIDE A GUYS HEAD FOR ONE DAY YOU WOULD DELETE YOUR COMMENTS AND GO THE OTHER WAY WITH IT AND NEVER SEE A MALE GYNO AGAIN.
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Yes. Going to a gynecologist sucks, and it sounds like she's had bad experiences with it in the past. It would be mean of you to force her to go to a new one now that she's finally found a doctor she's comfortable with.

You're making a huge deal out of a small thing. A gynecologist appointment takes very little time and typically only occurs once a year. It's well worth it to make sure she is healthy.
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@: Kat444
ones a year my understanding it was every 3 years and if you look up about these type of exam lots of doctors say noting has ever came out of these type of exam and there is lots of doctors don't do them I have talked to my sisters about this and the never had these don there doctor said no need the nurse does the smear test. and it is a big deal to him and to the likes of me its people like you that put other people down and make them keep quite and this is wrong , you and people like you who make men not talk ,and this will lode up on his mind and the worse could happen like many others I don't think I have to spell it out, and the lack of understanding of his wife shows she does not respect him his wife should know this type of love he shows to here these men like him 90 per cent of them will never cheat on there wife those who dont mind there wife going see noting wrong with on other man touching there wife see noting wrong with them touching on other women get the pitcher
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Ollieo
What is not fair is that you think you can manipulate her with your irrational and ridiculous feelings. No disrespect, but you really are on the wrong side of this.
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@: Ollieo
As a woman ....the basics of the fun trips to the gyno....Not fun it's awkward. Everything is cold and you want to bolt out of there....The female doctor practicly ripped me a new one. She was increadibly rough...it wasn't until recently on family guy i heard a joke about an indian female doctor practicly butchering the female junk...seriously...she did..i couldnt walk for days...anyway...your wife has a right to see a doctor and im pretty sure hes not alone with her...someone always comes in and makes sure it's all done professionally....just wait till you get your prostate exam...you'll be begging for a male doctor with small fingers....or hey maybe longer ones..who knows? I'm pretty sure you can go in with her. I know they let my ex fiance in for my pregnancy poke around check ups. :)
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I don't go with her because I'm at work... I don't think I would want to see that anyway... As for the prostate exam, I will try to find a female doctor... the prettiest and hottest I can find.
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fyi that wont help the situation at all
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She had a bad experience and finally found one she is comfortable and think of how traumatic it is for her to see someone new. This isn't as easy as you think gyno/patient relationships last long because you have to trust them. You would put her through the trauma of going through having to get rid of the one good gyno she has found and literally put her vag in a STRANGER'S hands
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You are a fool lady. You women keep saying that YOU don't like it. We men all agree that YOU don't like it. The BS is that the male doctor is not human and doesn't EVER get a thrill when looking between the legs of a pretty woman. You must be very naive to give a male that view of you just so you can be comfortable... hell, find a better female doctor! Just make sure you let your boyfriend look at all the vaginas HE wants. After all, if you let some male doctor see yours, your boyfriend deserves the same. Male Gynos are just as horny as every other man... don't be a fool.
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@: runner
good one
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@: runner
Wow this guy is not blind! Finally 5000 percent agree!
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it is not about the fact he is alone or its cold or you dont like it. what is hard to get about the fact that he is most likely enjoying every second of it. even though he hides behind is professionalism. wowpeopleareblind
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jpw
what a lode of bul one you say you bring some one with you to make sure every thing is done right and this women gyno was rough not know your rights make a complainant women say this so the can go and have a man doctor , male doctor are probably more gentle after all it is a sex type act , and its a good one you say you brought your ex fiance in with you for your pregnancy poke around check ever think why he is you ex , and as fare as going in with my wife to see another man sticking his fingers into her and thinking its ok you would wont to be a perve ,
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@: Kat444
Why was this thumbed down?
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"I'm a pretty laid back guy. There aren't many things in this world that I hate"

So you just had to pick something like this to get worked up about...

As Alaskaraven said, it may be normal to feel that way, but it is totally unreasonable of you to mistreat her. How would you feel if you went to a female urologist and your wife acted that way towards you?

Mate, you've gotta get over yourself. She's just going to the doctors.
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This is just ridiculous and my bf has the same issue with me seeing ANY kind of male doctor. Im expecting in 5 months and im sorry but my obgyn is a male and is completely respectful . He was voted the best obgyn in the town that i live in and if i have to choose between a so-so female doctor or an excellent male doctor who is 100% devoted to mine and my child's health im going to have the best. The way i see it is it's all insecurity issues, ya u may think the doctor has another agenda but wheres the trust in your wife? has she ever done anything to make u distrust her? has she ever cheated on you? If no then u should be secure enough in your man hood and your relationship to know that it is JUST a doctors visit. Ask yourself if she goes to a woman doctor who doesn't have as good of credentials as the male doctor or as much knowledge and messes something up or misses something and she gets sick or worse dies are you going to be thinking "damn i wish she went to the male doctor that would've taken care of her better" or are you going to be saying "she went to the woman doctor like i asked and now shes gone" like i said if she's never been unfaithful to you then you shouldn't be jumping down her throat for going to a male doctor. Ive had women gynos b4 they are less personable more judgmental and have a worse bed side manner. My health is more important to me then anybodies insecurities and for the sake of your wife i hope she feels the same way.
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Sorry Mommy2be, but this issue doesn't have to do with a male's insecurities, it has more to with respect and honor in my opinion. Why would any woman want some strange man to intimately examine her if it could be avoided? To me, that is disrespectful to one's spouse. There are just as many competent female doctors for a respectful lady to go to. And before anyone tries to play the 'lesbo' card here, a lady can simply inquire if the female doctor has given birth herself and/or has a famly of her own. If the process is clinical as you've indicated, then why have so many male doctors crossed the line? It was just this year that a male doctor admitted that "he couldn't control himself" and engaged in oral sex with a patient. Do you want to take that chance? Why would any woman put herself in that kind of position.
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@: Hommer
Because men are gentler doctors and those pervs are one in a hundred especially because of course you only hear those stories, since when does the news broadcast "male gyno professional and gentle" no one cares that's how it's supposed to go they broadcast pervs because its unexpected
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It has nothing to do with insecurities or trust issues, it's about what is morally right and respectful. Just because you find nothing sexual about it doesn't mean the doctor doesn't. These exams are very intimate and a certificate on the wall and a white coat will not change the nature of a man. Common sense!
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I always have a female gyn. b/c they are better listeners. No, how you feel is NOT normal. The pelvic exam is one of the most "unsexy" experiences that there is. Her MD probably shuts his eyes and holds his nose when he's down there!
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TO PRIVATE WOMAN I have to say, thank you for having some common sense and integrity in a world filled with loose morals and phony people who don't want to be honest with themselves and pretend that people doing improper things are OK if they are doctors, or actors, or whatever.

You are exceptional
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@: runner
I agree with you runner. It's just morally wrong for a male doctor to examine a woman in that way. I don't care what dishomest people says, it is morally wrong, end of.
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You must have the tiniest of wieners if you are this insecure.
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OK Austin, YOU be the doctor for a while and tell me that you wouldn't notice, or take a little extra look at some hot looking young babe that is just your type. I dare you to be honest and realize that these male Gynos obviously pick an choose when to take a little extra look, or when to remember those hot legs, butt, and Vag. I am sure that the same percentages of doctors as any other professions lie, cheat, and fantasize about young hot women. Gynos are not only NOT Gods, they made a conscious choice to spend most of there days between women's legs. You don't have to be an Einstein to figure this one out Dude!!
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@: runner
Nah these men are just professional and are interested in such a complex organs, would you be upset if your wife's heart doctor had to see her boobs?
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Women should only be seen by female doctors
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Dude, aren't there more important things to worry about? Is this from insecurity? Are you feeling inferior to the doctor? Is he better looking than you? Have you even seen him?

Also, if you looked at 30 vaginas every day and half of them were diseased, filled with yeast infections and such, you would probably not even want to have sex with your own wife. I seriously doubt either of them are deriving pleasure from this.

Finally, how would you feel every time you had to go have a female doctor spread your asshole open and look inside? Would you enjoy it? Now imagine that after that experience you had to go home to your wife and catch a bunch of crap from her about it.
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You obviously wouldn't enjoy it, but the female doctor might if she thought you had a nice ass! Seriously, are you to blind to see that the doctor is in total control and get to decide whether or not she does enjoy looking at your backside? Be honest Pal, how about looking at Vaginas all day and seeing the occasional hot looking young babe with a tight everything. Oh, you wouldn't get any pleasure ever from that... you and ALL the doctors on this earth are Saints I guess. Keep sending your hot wife to a male doctor if you want, but don't ever put someone else down for not being as naive, foolish and utopian as you.
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@: runner
These tight sexy women come in like once every 3 months and most women don't look like that, anyone going into gynecology for seeing hot chicks is in for a HUGE let down
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jpw
Some people would why do you think there is so many different porn films made , you made no point in what you are saying she rather respect him or she don't
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People get territorial over their spouses, and feeling upset because another man is looking at your wife is acceptable. However, the fact that you're mean to her and taking frustration out on her as if she were cheating on you is completely unfair. She's doing this for her health, and it's not a sexual encounter at all. Consider talking this one out with a counselor, since your wife absolutely doesn't deserve to be treated this way.
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It's not sexy, we get that...but this issue isn't about maturity, it has more to do with about protection, and respect for a marriage or relationship!
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Dude, don't you have bigger problems in your life?
1...visiting a gyno whether male or female isn't fun. But it has to be done. I've had boths sexes examine me and IT'S NOT FUN BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE FOR MY HEALTH.
2...I can relate to her being female and having had bad experiences with some female gynos...cold vibes, rough handling.
3...females have heavier hands being that they have less upper arm strength than males, so female gynos have a tendency to be more rough than guys in that regard, even female tattoo artists.
4...Someone said it up there correctly, male gynos have to deal with diseased and old ass pussies too, not just your wife...in addition to only see a gyno 1-2x a year for the pap smear and breast exam. It's not a blindsight, it's how comfortable she feels. If the male gyno was a pervert or manhandled her, she would have changed doctors. Do yourself and your heart a favor...because stress increases heart disease rates...stop worrying so much about when your wife sees her gyno for medical exams and start worrying if she sees him more than 2x a year unless she's pregnant.
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I am a 45 year old man and my wife has been going to the same male gynaecologist for the past 15 years.Earlier she had been to a couple of female gynaecologists but somehow was not satisfied. This doctor in fact lived in our building and in an emergency situation she had to go to him. And since then will not change him.
Trust me, ladies do not like going to gynaecologists, whether male or female. It is not a pleasant experience. They have to go to them out of necessity. So it is essential that the person she goes to makes her comfortable. What if the person is a male. She is going to a professional for treatment not sex.
I see this doctor in our building occasionally and the thought does cross my mind that my wife has been stripping naked before him and letting him see and touch her private parts. But this does not disturb me at all.

First he is seeing breasts and pussy from morning till night and most of them are for some problems. It is not a pleasant job. Once in a while if he sees a beautiful woman, i would say it is a small bonus. He can only see but not do anything.

Trust is important. I trust my wife. And if my neighbour gets a small bonus now and then so be it. There is no need why i should get perturbed or be harsh on my wife.
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@: singh
the next time you put your finger in your wife pussy ask her does she not like it same think you my friend i think sit in the jon and pull your dick and gets turned on by the fact of anther man doing this to your wife nows whos sick
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Alright, it is completely normal to for your wife to see a male gyno. I even have a male gyno who's my normal doctor. Now the reason why is because i feel comfortable and know that it's buisness, nothing more. He already knows all the my weird health issues, so I don't feel completely judged. It's important for your wife to feel comfortable, not you. You're not the one who is being examined down below. Trust me, after a few 20 or so yeast infected vaginas, the doctor is probably not even phased by it. He probably won't even care about it, sexualy I mean. I've had a female gyno before, she was dead wrong about what was wrong with me, she kept telling me that my diet was making me feel poorly down there, went to my male gyno and he found I had a yeast infection, endometriosis, and a cyst on one of my ovaries (TMI I know, sorry). Don't worry, a female nurse is usualy present if it's a male doctor, if there isn't a female nurse with him, then that's the time to be worried. Realy to tell the truth I don't even think she should tell you when she's going or about the experience there unless it's harms your health or is dire to her or to your wants (such as wanting a baby). Lastly, if you feel so inraged by it, ask not to be informed about it unless it has to do with your health too. (I'm not a religous person so this is an individual and moral belief to myself, I don't expect you to agree) I beleive a marriage is not about placing your lover's needs and wants before your own, it's about having trust and being able to confide in one another. It's about teamwork and acceptance, support. Your feelings are valuable, but be open minded and look at the situation from both sides. Maybe if you have insecurities about the situation and can't find common ground with your wife, then you should reconsider your marriage.
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I am a laid back guy. I just had the last straw regarding males touching my wife...period. I worked with Docs. They may be professional when they are doing there work but they are still males. Period.
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Honestly, I am not a jealous man. Am married for 4 years, but before it we flirt for almost 9 years. Totally 13 years we are together.
Anyway, when we got married I kindly requested my wife to choose a female gyn, if one day she will go for a REGULAR control. And she accepted witout any objection. And 3 months ago in Jan, she told me that she got appointment from a gyn. And honestly I didnot ask her if the gyn was male or female.Later in the evening of appointment day, I asked her how was her control, and she told it was very good etc. Then I asked her if the Dr was male or female. She said it was male, but said he only checked her with ultrasound from abdo.
1 month later, I found a barcode inside a book and asked to my wife. She said that she had a pap smear and will get the result with that barcode. I didnot know the detail of a pap smear test and checked it from youtube.com . And I was shocked. You all know the details of the test.
Now my point is, in my country you can choose Dr. From the website of the hospital, but she has choosen a male Dr. despite my kind request, altough she accepted my request and although there were female doctors also to choose. For urgent matters she of course should go whoever available, male or female, but this is a routine test, not urgent, there is no pain or no illness.
After the appointment she told me that she only had abdominal ultrasound, means she lied me and this shaked my confidence very much.
For a male who loves his wife, there is a high intimacy, and once it's gone it's difficult to build again.
I love her, I had no doubt that she loves me, and no doubt that she has never cheated me, but she lied me.
After all these, I left home twice and each time went back since she was calling me, crying, telling me she loves me, telling she only went to have abdominal check, but after Dr.suggested a pap smear to avoid any cancer cells etc. Also promising she will never go to a male gyn again. But I hate the fact that a man saw her naked and touched her private parts.
I love her, I really love her too much, but I cannot get rid of the idea of leaving her for ever and getting divorced. I hate the feeling that a man saw her naked and touched her private parts. Very strange feeling, but that's what I feel.
WHAT SHOULD I DO ???
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I think OP should calm down a little. Unless your wife has previously cheated on you to provoke these feelings, it's her body, not yours.
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The way I handled it was by turning it around into something sexy. Just think, while you're at home, your wife has her feet in stiruups, no panties. Just her pussy spread wide open for another man to see. He gets to feel her clit, push fingers up in her pussy and even finger her asshole. Best of all, he is so close he can actually smell her pussy. Hell, man, let it be erotic!
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Men will always be a man when came across attractive women.

Think of this:
A very experienced male gynecologist is given a chance to examine the genitals of Paris Hilton/Angelina Jolie/ or any of those young hollywood beautiful women....

Do you think their inner thoughts won't say "HUWWOWWW!" ???
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Yes, you are 100% normal. You know why? Because your wife is your property! That's right. She resigned her rights to think or feel or have an opinion that wasn't sanctioned by you the day you wed. Have another man putting his fingers (plus a cold-ass speculum, a swab, and a little pincher thingy) into her pussy is wrong! It would be tantamount to your Chevy deciding to let your covetous neighbor take it for a spin down the block! Imagine; that cervix, those ovaries, that uterus--they are all yours! You don't want some other man knowing what YOUR cervix, ovaries, and uterus look like! It's all yours! Again, it would be just like your neighbor sliding his ass over YOUR bucket seats, fingering YOUR ignition, grasping YOUR steering wheel, and worst of all, revving YOUR engine. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO REV THAT ENGINE BUT YOU!

Now, some folks have advised you to divorce your seditious property. But marriage is a sacred bond wherein your wife's pussy, uterus, ovaries, and Fallopian tubes become your sole property! Divorce can't erase such a beautiful covenant! The only recourse you have, should she continue down this disrespectful path, is to tie her up in a gunny sack and call for a holy, public stoning!

Seriously? Get over yourself or move somewhere your fragile ego is protected by law. Or, give yourself a coronary by worrying about trifling crap.
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Yes, you are 100% normal. You know why? Because your wife is your property! That's right. She resigned her rights to think or feel or have an opinion that wasn't sanctioned by you the day you wed. Have another man putting his fingers (plus a cold-ass speculum, a swab, and a little pincher thingy) into her pussy is wrong! It would be tantamount to your Chevy deciding to let your covetous neighbor take it for a spin down the block! Imagine; that cervix, those ovaries, that uterus--they are all yours! You don't want some other man knowing what YOUR cervix, ovaries, and uterus look like! It's all yours! Again, it would be just like your neighbor sliding his ass over YOUR bucket seats, fingering YOUR ignition, grasping YOUR steering wheel, and worst of all, revving YOUR engine. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO REV THAT ENGINE BUT YOU!

Now, some folks have advised you to divorce your seditious property. But marriage is a sacred bond wherein your wife's pussy, uterus, ovaries, and Fallopian tubes become your sole property! Divorce can't erase such a beautiful covenant! The only recourse you have, should she continue down this disrespectful path, is to tie her up in a gunny sack and call for a holy, public stoning!

Seriously? Get over yourself or move somewhere your fragile ego is protected by law. Or give yourself a coronary worrying over trifling crap.
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You are some dip shit you are so tick you even posted you respond twice
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I've worked in the healthcare business for thirty-five years and you are normal and justified in your concern. I've only met one OB/GYN in all these years who didn't truly LOVE his work, if you take my meaning. The one guy who wasn't a horn-dog was a gay guy in rural North Carolina. LOL (true story!) My wife only sees female physicians, regardless of specialty. I have managed dozens of physician abuse cases over the years and know the truth of this situation from long experience.

People, and especially women, live in a total fantasy world relative to male physicians and female patients. When I go to my internist with an upper respiratory infection I'm not even asked to remove my shirt. When my female colleague goes to the same doc for a similar complaint she's asked to strip and put on a flimsy gown. Why? Because guys love to see women naked and an extra few years of professional training doesn't change that basic fact of life. So, ladies take charge and realize that you are the customer. When the CMA says "get naked" simply say, "There's no need for that today," unless you have a breast, genital or rectal problem. The doc will never have the nerve to bring it up when he come in the exam room and you'll feel empowered - as you should be!
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I am male and worked in surgery for six years. I worked with reputable doctors as well as doctors I wouldn't let operate on my dog. I also witnessed a lot of doctors hitting on single and married women....there was always one nurse carrying on with a doctor, both married. My wife is a nurse. She was hit on by male doctors also. These particular types of doctors don't care if you are married. When my wife was pregnant we specified to the male OBGYN that we did not want any residents involved in the delivery because my wife worked in a clinic where most of the male residents did rotations. Well, before her delivery a male resident showed up saying he had to do an admissions exam. We told him no, no residents. This A hole told us that if we did not submit to the exam the hospital would not be liable for complications. Sickenly, I watched as he examined my wife. I found out later this jerk had gotten a female resident pregnant, "supposedly this resident was a Christian" and refused to do anything with the female resident about the baby. We complained to our male OBGYN that we were upset about the resident's exam and he just told us we were overeacting. I suspect, that this resident, who had worked around my wife in the clinic, found an opportunity to examine her body by feeding us that lie. I have not trusted male doctors since. I am far more wiser now. My wife knows that I abhor any male doctors performing OBGYN exams on her.
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@: Eaton
In addition to throwing the resident out of the room, you should have filed an ethics charge against him, which would have placed a big ding against his career from that very early stage. Patients have a legal right to refuse care from any provider for any reason.

At the risk of being crass, here's the bottom line - he worked with your wife, found her attractive and wanted to see her naked. It's as simple as that. And I've seen it a hundred times.

Go get him!
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I have gone to male gynecologists but never felt comfortable. Then I read an article entitled "Gentlemen Don't Look Up Ladies' Skirts" and my whole outlook changed.
The website is www.modestyxxx.com The article is very sophisticated, nothing improper, and it is researched and written very well. Take a look and comment.
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Would you feel better if she were seeing a woman? Or, would you think that they were LESBIANS and take it out on her too?
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its normal that you would be bothered and a little mad.. but, two days man ? no. thats not normal. the dude is a doctor.
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Ollieo
You are not laid back at all. That is appalling behaviour on your part and you should apologize to your wife
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So what if the doctor is fantasizing about your wife? I work at a bar and get hit on all the time and it's my job to act friendly to make tips, as far as I'm concerned, that's more dangerous than a doctor looking at your wifes vagina for clinical reasons and keeping his thoughts to himself. If she's being faithful, what's the problem? You can't tell her to stop interactions with every guy who thinks a dirty thought about her.
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Well, there's a bit of a difference between a friendly bartender, or a friendly dentist doing their jobs. For all too long male medical providers have lorded themselves over female patients, for control and for titillation. Think not? when I visited my internist complaining of high temperature and a recurrent productive cough he looked down my throat, listened to my heart and lungs under my shirt, gave me two prescriptions and said, "See you next time." A week or so later when my wife had the same symptoms, and her female family doc was out of town, she went to see my guy. The assistant said, 'Strip and put on the robe.' She didn't strip, told him precisely why (You're not working down there, so I don't need to undress) and got the treatment she needed.

Here's the simple point: If you and your wife are open-minded and /or another man seeing your wife naked, running his hands over her body and inserting his fingers into all of her orifices doesn't bother you, then there's no issue for you here. However, if you're like many of us and find that that sort of intrusion into the inimate relationships with our wives is unacceptable and makes us uncomfortable then we should be empowered to voice our discontent and attempt to change our wives behavior by asking them to seek out female providers.

Check our "Female Pelvic Examination" "Female Breast Examination" and "Female Rectal Examination" on YouTube before you get too comfortable with the situation.
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usually with male OB's they always have a female nurse present so there is no doubt about what happened during the exam etc.
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YES NORMAL. Why don't she sees a female gyno instead?
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Females are rough, insensitive, and always think you are exaggerating so they usually misdiagnose
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thisissomuchfun
Gyno's are not at all interested in your wife's vagina in a sexual way and most women never enjoy getting that sort of exam...

So would you be fine with her being jealous of you going to a female doctor to get a rectal exam.

I think you may be a chauvinist.
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It may be normal to feel that way, but to express it and mistreat her? Not reasonable. Would you rather she die of ovarian or cervical cancer?

Personally, I think they BECAME OBGYN's to look at kitty all day- like rock n roll- tell me you didn't start a band for the ass...

but after awhile, it would be like looking at naked men all day- I would certainly still appreciate a beautiful body, but a dick is a dick. Nothing interesting or attractive about it unless it was attached to someone I love...
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If you became an obgyn then you are in for disappointment because most women don't look like pornstars and only come in once every three months
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jpw
yes you are right but you all seem to be missing the point i am like this man if there was no women obgyn you will have to put up with it . but there is women and if you know what you are talking about sticking you your finger up a womens privets wont find any of these cancers , a blood test and a smear test will find these and a nurse can do this, if it is so important to do these vile exams why do so many doctor don't do them and say you will find noting so who is wrong those who do the exams or those who don't
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No, that's not normal. Gynecologists see thousands of women and he's only going to be thinking about your wife as a patient, her vagina is no more exciting to him than a table or a lamp because he's seen so many of the damn things.

Your wife should take your feelings about this into account but if she would rather put up with you being a complete jerk for a couple of days than let a female gynecologist examine her (which probably takes less than an hour, I'm a man so I don't know exactly) it sounds like she's really, really uncomfortable with the idea of finding another female gynecologist. You should respect that or she'll probably leave you.
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I just recently had came across this thread and thought that I would add my two cents. I'd have to say that the OP is completely normal and with-in his right to feel the way that he does. What woman in her right mind would ever electively go to see a male ob/gyn if it could be avoided, especially if she is in a commited relationship or marriage. To me, that is just down right disrespectful to her man. There are plenty of female doctors out there for women to go to. Additionally the OP had stated that he confided with her that he is uncomfortable about this, but she continues to go. If I were the OP, I would divorce her ass..., as she obviously doesn't respect him! Peace!
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I think you are wrong in your opinion. It's a well known fact that male doctors have turned out to be perverts, and for thousands of years women were only seen by other women. I think you have issues that need sorting out, no offense. A man is perfectly right to feel bad about his woman getting examined by another man in the most intimate way possible.
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What a bunch of garbage. The biggest lie in the world is that Gynos don't like vagina! What a joke. They may not like everyone, but don't be so foolish and naive to think that often times an attractive woman comes in the office and the Gyno recognizes it. Just like any other job in the world, a man notices a woman and many times wouldn't mind getting into her pants.

The "lamp" comparison is a bunch of crap!!! Grow up and face reality.
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@: runner
Men will always be a man when came across attractive women.

Think of this:
A very experienced male gynecologist is given a chance to examine the genitals of Paris Hilton/Angelina Jolie/ or any of those young hollywood beautiful women....

Do you think their inner thoughts won't say "HUWWOWWW!" ???
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I say no, that is not normal or healthy for that matter. If I were your wife I would literally knock some sense into you. Do you even know what goes on during a gyno exam? they don't feel you up. they just stick a cotton swab in the vagina to take a sample. There is no pleasure here, in fact its quite uncomfortable. So get over it, this doctor sees about 100 vagina's a day.
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@: darkash
They may not feel you up, but if they think you are attractive, or sexy, or whatever... they will obviously see the details of your Vagina, legs, hair, lips, etc. and certainly enjoy what they are seeing. They are, after all, men that have been chasing the stuff since college. How dare you as a woman give them that choice. And by the way, what man doesn't like putting something inside a hot-looking woman's vagina?? Time to get out of denial lady!
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@: runner
I once took my now wife and then 16 year old girlfriend to the hospital with bad stomach pain. An older doctor examined her from behind internally with one nurse in the room. When he left five other doctors came into the room and, while one of them examined her internally from the front the other four (interns i assume) watched. She was never asked if it was ok and she hated it. I was 16 years old then and she was a virgin when we met. They are the only people i have truly hated in my life and i think they showed absolutely no compassion or morality for her. What if it were their 16 year old daughter in that room ?? She had a simple stomach bug and after talking to a nurse some years later she told me that with the symptoms my wife showed, the examinations were completely inapropriate and they should have asked her permission. I am 50 years old now and it has hurt me all my life. They took part of our innocence and intimacy away and from us and i will never forgive them for that.
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@: 1john
That's a terrible story - I am so sorry she and you went through that experience. Every patient has the legal right to refuse not to participate in clinical training programs (nurse, docs, PAs, etc.). Further, all patients have the right to insist on a same sex provider - nurses and physicians. In instances of procedures or surgeries you can demand "same sex only" staff in the procedure or operating room. You can take charge of this, but you must be assertive - healthcare people revel in control of patients. If anyone gives you pushback, exert your rights, threaten to go to the hospital CEO's office and remind them that you are first and foremost THE CUSTOMER and are purchasing a professional service from them. Let them know that you'll be delighted to take your business elsewhere, and that you will not do so quietly.
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