I often times hear stories about men who date multiple women at a time, or have at least one date planned a week. I just don't get how that's possible. I'm in a few different social groups, play some intramural sports, visit friends on some weekends - and this is in addition to a 40 hr/week job. None of these things seem to help me see any new faces, let alone women who are actually single.
I do manage to have dinner with a girl maybe once every 2-4 months, because she just happened to be at an event with a distant friend of mine, or I was lucky enough to strike up a conversation with someone on the dating site that I'm on. It never works out though. I know the saying "dating is a numbers game", but there seems little hope if I can only get 2-5 dates a year.
I've been to single events too and am on a dating site, but it seems so contrived, and the women don't come off as very interested in me. Just trying to get phone numbers from those people is like pulling blood from a stone.
I also don't have any close friends, limiting my opportunities to be social. I'm the kind of guy where if I threw a party of my own, I'm not even sure if I could get anyone to come.
I do manage to have dinner with a girl maybe once every 2-4 months, because she just happened to be at an event with a distant friend of mine, or I was lucky enough to strike up a conversation with someone on the dating site that I'm on. It never works out though. I know the saying "dating is a numbers game", but there seems little hope if I can only get 2-5 dates a year.
I've been to single events too and am on a dating site, but it seems so contrived, and the women don't come off as very interested in me. Just trying to get phone numbers from those people is like pulling blood from a stone.
I also don't have any close friends, limiting my opportunities to be social. I'm the kind of guy where if I threw a party of my own, I'm not even sure if I could get anyone to come.
It doesn't bug me though because as far as I'm concerned she either wasn't interested or if she was she missed her chance. I'm not going to contact her though the site.
Besides you cant honestly sit here and tell me you see any married men that are as happy as married women, or conversely any single women that are happier then single men? I sure dont.
But I can't even do that. Aside from harassing random attractive strangers that I might pass during the day, I just don't understand how I'm supposed to meet people.
I'm also not going to be so bitter to try to argue that everyone married or in a relationship is unhappy/stupid/douches/cheaters. There are many happy people in relationships.
Your reading comprehension is poor as well, the basic point from the last part of my initial post was that marriage benefits women more then men. Not that everyone that is married is a unhappy/stupid/douche, whatever. Does it sound bitter? Well, maybe, but I just call it like I see it. Lets call it the "bitter truth".
Enjoy your dates, well the one's you get. And good luck, I mean it, sounds like you will need it.
I said the problem was with the quantity of dates, not the quality. I accept the fact that not all people I meet will be compatable, and the only way to overcome that is to increase the number of people I date. Because I only seem to be able to come in contact with one single, datable person every few months or longer, the odds are stacked against that person being someone who I'd like to spend a lot of time with.
Approaching random people is not something that I do, and I don't believe at all that it's an effective way to meet people. I was trying to argue that, as ineffective ridiculous as it is, it appears to be the only way to have contact with so many new people each day/week/month.
Marriage benefits women more than men? That sounds VERY bitter to me, and is definitely not true. I have no doubt that you believe this though.
Just because you point out that approaching random people is stupid BUT seems to be the only way to meeting new people (which I can sort of agree with or at least understand) and I think thats a waste of time and wouldnt bother doing it myself that makes me bitter? Not really, I just choose not to make a fool out of myself, which you are probably doing, on the off chance this person I am talking to is a potential relationship. But by all means you lead the way, in fact I am one less competitor you have to concern yourself with.
You are also likely to be under 30 yrs old with the majority of friends not married, if any are at all. So you have no first hand experience of what marriage is.
I just came here to ask a simple question - if it's normal or not to expect x amount of dates in a reasonable time. The other possibility being that people lie about their dating lives, and the media portrays something that is not realistic. That's what this site is for, right?
All the other things about women dating cheating douches, men being inherently unhappy in marriage, and approaching strangers (which you completely misunderstood and aparently still don't understand what my point was) you brought up yourself and is completely irrelivant to the post.
I would also say that you're doing yourself a great disservice by trying to protect yourself from "making a fool out of yourself". Take risks and win. But again, that's not the point of this post and is a sidebar comment.
And you complained about having to approach random attractive strangers, I took it one step further by saying enjoy making a fool out of yourself in doing it. Why are you saying its something you have to do (and you do) and then complaining about it?? Sorry for choosing not to approach random strangers on the street, which sounds weird as all hell to me, because I dont want to look like a fool.
If you want to date, then date, dont complain about it. You aint gonna change the way it is, so either do it, or dont it. Make up your mind.
I don't really expect this one to pan out, but I guess that's enough motivation to make this a weekly ritual.