I have to say I disagree with pretty much all of this. I would rather have a steady stream of shitty dates than none at all. That way at least I know I'm getting somewhere and it's only a matter of time before I find someone I want to be with.
But I can't even do that. Aside from harassing random attractive strangers that I might pass during the day, I just don't understand how I'm supposed to meet people.
I'm also not going to be so bitter to try to argue that everyone married or in a relationship is unhappy/stupid/douches/cheaters. There are many happy people in relationships.
So let me get it straight you just posted a story about the frustrations of the dating game, but you would rather have the stream of going nowhere dates? Sure your not a woman with your flip flopping? Well anyway, good for you, at least you arent giving up at all. I see it now, your just venting. Enjoy harassing random attractive strangers, just realize you are probably the 8th guy that day to try to talk to them, and if you did a bad enough job (which your use of the term "harrassment" instead of "talking to" suggests) then you will probably be a good joke to rehash on the next girls night out.
Your reading comprehension is poor as well, the basic point from the last part of my initial post was that marriage benefits women more then men. Not that everyone that is married is a unhappy/stupid/douche, whatever. Does it sound bitter? Well, maybe, but I just call it like I see it. Lets call it the "bitter truth".
Enjoy your dates, well the one's you get. And good luck, I mean it, sounds like you will need it.
It looks like you're the one who has poor reading comprehension.
I said the problem was with the quantity of dates, not the quality. I accept the fact that not all people I meet will be compatable, and the only way to overcome that is to increase the number of people I date. Because I only seem to be able to come in contact with one single, datable person every few months or longer, the odds are stacked against that person being someone who I'd like to spend a lot of time with.
Approaching random people is not something that I do, and I don't believe at all that it's an effective way to meet people. I was trying to argue that, as ineffective ridiculous as it is, it appears to be the only way to have contact with so many new people each day/week/month.
Marriage benefits women more than men? That sounds VERY bitter to me, and is definitely not true. I have no doubt that you believe this though.
Still venting huh? I understand what you are saying completely even though you do a poor job of it. Stop complaining about it and defending it in the same post. Man up and meet women or be content with being single.
Just because you point out that approaching random people is stupid BUT seems to be the only way to meeting new people (which I can sort of agree with or at least understand) and I think thats a waste of time and wouldnt bother doing it myself that makes me bitter? Not really, I just choose not to make a fool out of myself, which you are probably doing, on the off chance this person I am talking to is a potential relationship. But by all means you lead the way, in fact I am one less competitor you have to concern yourself with.
You are also likely to be under 30 yrs old with the majority of friends not married, if any are at all. So you have no first hand experience of what marriage is.
Is it me though? I mean I know I am a lil crazy, but dude is saying he doesnt like going through the process of meeting women, which you have to do, and then on top of that he is complaining that its a waste of time.
He's definately contadicting himself lol Wants to date women but not jump through the hoops. Maybe he should just go to the bar/clubs and get laid like everyone else? He definately didn't react well to you trying to sympathize with him, I wouldn't take it personally, he's probably just pent up xD
I just came here to ask a simple question - if it's normal or not to expect x amount of dates in a reasonable time. The other possibility being that people lie about their dating lives, and the media portrays something that is not realistic. That's what this site is for, right?
All the other things about women dating cheating douches, men being inherently unhappy in marriage, and approaching strangers (which you completely misunderstood and aparently still don't understand what my point was) you brought up yourself and is completely irrelivant to the post.
I would also say that you're doing yourself a great disservice by trying to protect yourself from "making a fool out of yourself". Take risks and win. But again, that's not the point of this post and is a sidebar comment.
Yes its completely reasonable for you to have found a relationship and wife after approx. 23.7 dates, the .7 having been rounded of course. Wtf?? And the media portraying something unrealistic?? What? I wont believe that. Television and magazines are 100% truth all the time. How could they get published otherwise?
And you complained about having to approach random attractive strangers, I took it one step further by saying enjoy making a fool out of yourself in doing it. Why are you saying its something you have to do (and you do) and then complaining about it?? Sorry for choosing not to approach random strangers on the street, which sounds weird as all hell to me, because I dont want to look like a fool.
If you want to date, then date, dont complain about it. You aint gonna change the way it is, so either do it, or dont it. Make up your mind.
But I can't even do that. Aside from harassing random attractive strangers that I might pass during the day, I just don't understand how I'm supposed to meet people.
I'm also not going to be so bitter to try to argue that everyone married or in a relationship is unhappy/stupid/douches/cheaters. There are many happy people in relationships.
Your reading comprehension is poor as well, the basic point from the last part of my initial post was that marriage benefits women more then men. Not that everyone that is married is a unhappy/stupid/douche, whatever. Does it sound bitter? Well, maybe, but I just call it like I see it. Lets call it the "bitter truth".
Enjoy your dates, well the one's you get. And good luck, I mean it, sounds like you will need it.
I said the problem was with the quantity of dates, not the quality. I accept the fact that not all people I meet will be compatable, and the only way to overcome that is to increase the number of people I date. Because I only seem to be able to come in contact with one single, datable person every few months or longer, the odds are stacked against that person being someone who I'd like to spend a lot of time with.
Approaching random people is not something that I do, and I don't believe at all that it's an effective way to meet people. I was trying to argue that, as ineffective ridiculous as it is, it appears to be the only way to have contact with so many new people each day/week/month.
Marriage benefits women more than men? That sounds VERY bitter to me, and is definitely not true. I have no doubt that you believe this though.
Just because you point out that approaching random people is stupid BUT seems to be the only way to meeting new people (which I can sort of agree with or at least understand) and I think thats a waste of time and wouldnt bother doing it myself that makes me bitter? Not really, I just choose not to make a fool out of myself, which you are probably doing, on the off chance this person I am talking to is a potential relationship. But by all means you lead the way, in fact I am one less competitor you have to concern yourself with.
You are also likely to be under 30 yrs old with the majority of friends not married, if any are at all. So you have no first hand experience of what marriage is.
I just came here to ask a simple question - if it's normal or not to expect x amount of dates in a reasonable time. The other possibility being that people lie about their dating lives, and the media portrays something that is not realistic. That's what this site is for, right?
All the other things about women dating cheating douches, men being inherently unhappy in marriage, and approaching strangers (which you completely misunderstood and aparently still don't understand what my point was) you brought up yourself and is completely irrelivant to the post.
I would also say that you're doing yourself a great disservice by trying to protect yourself from "making a fool out of yourself". Take risks and win. But again, that's not the point of this post and is a sidebar comment.
And you complained about having to approach random attractive strangers, I took it one step further by saying enjoy making a fool out of yourself in doing it. Why are you saying its something you have to do (and you do) and then complaining about it?? Sorry for choosing not to approach random strangers on the street, which sounds weird as all hell to me, because I dont want to look like a fool.
If you want to date, then date, dont complain about it. You aint gonna change the way it is, so either do it, or dont it. Make up your mind.