Is it normal that I have no interest in casual sex?

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I thought a trait like yours was already extinct! I'm glad to know this. :)

Trust me! There is absolute nothing abnormal about you. Men like you give me hope for the future! :')

I think you need a higher than average sex drive or lower than average self-esteem to be totally into casual sex.

Same here. I have a friend who refuses to do it out of some moral considerations, but i don't have anything like that. Just don't get attracted by that kinda thing.

Dunno if it's normal, but there are many more guys like you.

Casual sex doesn't do it for me, makes me feel empty and hollow. But its good now and then to sample.

Yeah, don't worry about it. Some people aren't into casual sex. It's no big deal.

It sounds like you might be demisexual. Demisexuals experience sexual attraction to people who they have emotional attachments too (which can be somebody in a romantic relationship, but could also be a friend), but rarely or never experience sexual attraction toward people they have no emotional connection with. Here's a blog post that uses analogies to explain different kinds of sexuality, like asexuality and demisexuality: http://demisexuality.tumblr.com/post/21067993174/food-analogies-to-explain-asexual-attitudes-toward-sex

You don't have to be demisexual to not be interested in casual sex, mind. There can be other reasons, too, such as not being comfortable going into somebody else's home or bringing somebody else into your home, or difficulty trusting strangers. No matter what the reason is, there's nothing wrong with it.

There's a lot of pressure, particularly on young men, to be interested in sex all the time. The truth is, human sexuality is complicated, regardless of your gender. Have the kind of sex you enjoy with people you want to have sex with, and don't let anybody give you a hard time for that.

I'm the same. Couldn't care less about sex.

Making love is a whole 'nother story though.

I am the same way. It's not a moral issue for me, I am just more of a relationships girl, so casual sex isn't all that satisfying. Also, as an introvert, I don't feel comfortable getting that close to someone I don't know well. Maybe you have introverted tendencies, as well. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing and don't worry about being different from your friends. You will earn the respect of many women for being more discriminating.

Totally normal, I respect you. Coitus should be shared between two people who love each other.

"I just don't see it as a fun thing to do. I would feel awkward being intimate with a stranger and have no desire to be that close to someone I don't really know. People that know me say I am asexual but I have no problems being sexual within a relationship"



Sexually undeveloped. A textbook example infact, and becoming more and more common these days.

Well, I always feel uncommon because I cannot get turned on unless my fetishes are involved. Normal, regular sex would have no purpose for me. Don't down yourself about it. Everyone is different sexually, and some people have a stronger sex drive than others. And also, you say you have no problem being sexual within a relationship. Well, that's a good thing. A have a man like that!

The only sex I've ever had has been with people I've known for a while. I wouldn't want to discount the possibility of enjoying a one-night with a stranger, but I have a feeling it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as sex with a friend / lover.

I think with somebody you're going to see again, somebody you're actually fond of, you want them to enjoy it as much as you do. Strangers are surely just out to orgasm, which means they're going to be more selfish, less generous :P

So I think you're quite normal. I wouldn't seek out casual sex with a random person either. If it fell my way I wouldn't necessarily turn it down, mind you.

You should be wanting erryday , hahaha jk it's normal.

My brothers like this, I'd say its normal.

Totally Normal! Enjoy not being driven by a need to hump everything with boobs you find.

No it is ot normal but it is a very intelligent, beautiful thing>

I am exactly like this myself.

You are probably the most genuine gentleman I've ever read about. That is the kindest thing I've ever heard anyone say on this site. True gentleman you are. :)

i feel the same man my friends always say that i have no sex drive. i do just not for some random chick i met 5 minutes ago

why aren't you my boyfriend

If you were a god in the bedroom you probably would feel differently about casual sex.