I never really talked to my dad about myself, anything that happened to me, my opinions barely. We never did anything together and I was never with him when my mom wasn't around. She was a stay at home mom, he worked/watched tv and would basically lecture at the dinner table. He never asked about school or anything. Now he tells me mom would tell him what was going on with us after we went to bed. WTF is this normal?

Try starting off with a simple and good thing about yourself that happened in school. See how he reacts.
I'm not sure if you're a boy or a girl but if you're a male:
in my perspective, spending more time with a mother rather than a father tend to make the child tender and gentle which pretty much leads to being more feminine or homosexuality. (I might be wrong but it happens)
If that's not what you want then I suggest that you have more conversations with your dad and keep the relationship strong.