By that I mean alone alone. No ties. I don't want to be bothered by family, I don't want a child, or a wife/girlfriend, or even a pet. I could have the occasional Acquaintance but that's it. I told my parents that I wanted to live alone and to not have a relationship and they were worried about me. They said something like "You're going to live an unhappy life" or something like that, Im not looking for an Is it normal thing, I just want to know what could possibly spark this.
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Often it is due to past experience. People who feel this way have had at least one very painful experience in their lives in which they wished to socialize but were treated in a very cruel manner. Could have happened before you were old enough to remember.
Betrayal, trusting people and having your trust revoked by their dishonesty, putting people on a pedestal and being shocked to learn of their imperfections could resemble this as well.
Also, not having a diverse enough amount of social experience could cause one to essentially not miss what they have never had. Social laziness can also cause this.
It's also quite possible that you prefer putting your energy I.into things like work or study, common amongst very productive oriented people, worker bees as you could say.
To be blatantly unwilling to socialize rather than feeling just apathy for the subject could indicate any one of these issues or more
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I just dont understand how some people get so panicky when it comes to being by themselves I, personally, prefer it.
There is indeed nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. However, wanting to be alone all the time and even wanting to DIE alone - as the O.P. says - just sounds plain freaky to me. I'm just being honest.
I'd like to see some hard proof of that, because I'm not convinced AT ALL. You mention the word "comatose" too. Well, I've been in a really bad coma and I could see everyone around me (although there are probably stages too in which one is totally cut off from the outside world). Even IF the presence of others isn't realized, it would still be a nice thought they'll be there later on, when the person IS still able to realize it. I think when your time comes, you'll ignore all you've just said and would like loved ones around too, regardless of any realization (which I think IS there). We humans are social animals.
And if you are in a coma you have no interaction with the outside world whatsoever. There was no way you were in a "really bad coma" and could see everyone around you.
You offer NO proof at all. I asked for it, but not a shred. Nice going man! Also, I presented more arguments, of which you refuted NONE. Again: nice going man!
"And if you are in a coma you have no interaction with the outside world whatsoever. There was no way you were in a "really bad coma" and could see everyone around you."
I have great difficulty staying friendly, because you just wave away what I've been through like it's nothing. I know what I fucking experienced. I hope you NEVER EVER have to and I really mean that sincerely.
It would depress them more than anything, and then I would be gone, so why would it matter to me? I'd think more about the impact that seeing me die would have on my loved ones, I wouldn't want to leave them with that image.
What's the point? Well, perhaps for closure or emotional purposes? After all, it is LITERALLY the last chance for... anything really!
It's good of you you don't want to depress your loved ones, but I know people who'd give ANYTHING to go back in time to say goodbye to a dead relative whose last moments they missed.
For example, my father missed the last moments of his father. He still regrets it, although my grandfather has been dead for 30 years.
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Just because its widely accepted from sociologists and psychologists and other slightly pseudo scientific communities that human beings are social creatures doesnt mean that EVERY SINGLE human being alive on the planet at this moment has to be social or else they are abnormal and something is gravely wrong with them. Its easy to write people off as being "damaged" or "traumatized" just because they like being alone, but there are many people who really dont overly enjoy face to face socializing at all and you would never suspect it because they can do it very well. It tends to take alot out of them and they really dont enjoy but do it because of this pressure society exhibits that people who live alone are "creepy". I can easily meld myself into a social gathering and outing in many ways, but I never really "enjoy" it and prefer being alone. If the OP is the same way there is certainly nothing abnormal, unnatural, and unhealthy about it.
Think away. I'm just giving my opinion. If that's not appreciated I don't really care. And the O.P. didn't say they'd like to be alone "more often then not" but rather they wanna be alone ALL the time. I personally also like to be alone quite much, but ALL of the time? I honestly think that's unhealthy. Sounds a bit like autism really.
"I say this respectfully only because I think you mean to give them good advice and wish them good luck."
I indeed have good intentions and I still think I have given good advice.
Your opinion is just that, an opinion. My opinion is that people can think and decide for themselves what they want for themselves.
Neither one of us are right OR wrong.
I'm just saying that I think it's unhealthy and there's a good chance they may regret it later on, that's all. If my comments are unwanted, they shouldn't have posted. They can do with it what they want, I really don't give a shit.
"Neither one of us are right OR wrong."
Then why the hell do you debate me as if I WAS wrong?
WRONG WRONG WRONG.
Now all of a sudden I'm wrong, whereas before you said neither one of us is right or wrong.
You've totally LOST the argument - we both know that - but unfortunately you'll never admit it. Oh well...