Is it normal that I'm 30, never married, and have no children?

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no doubt, with the schooling and residency of your profession, you are a very busy lady. i think it's normal for professionals to find spouses later in life, as they have been so busy preparing for their careers.

you are normal in my opinion.

Don't feel that way. I just turned 30 too and don't even have a boyfriend or a prospect for one. My younger cousin was the first girl in the family to get married (even though relatives would say, " oh I thought you would have gotten married already ", and a year and a half later....her husband left her and her youth has been marred by the experience. (Hahaha..ha). Anyway, I like my own company, have a good job, like having my freedom, and I'm just not worried about husbands or babies. Sometimes I feel like I'm less because society does that to us, but I think this is less pressure than it used to be. I do know a lot of other people who are in their late twenties to late thirties who are not married and don't have or even want kids. ( I don't want them, but this is just my preference). Don't let it bug you. If you love your boyfriend, stand by him and just be together and not worry about marriage. If you aren't sure he's the one, nothing's stopping you from looking at other possibilities.

Don't sweat it. Just because you're 30 and unmarried doesn't mean you're a failure. Besides, in this day and age, the whole getting-married-and-having-kids deal is for the thirtysomethings and fortysomethings.

Look at it this way: You spent your 20s training for a very good career. Your 30s should be fantastic, in terms of career satisfaction -- if being a physician is really your thing, and it sure sounds as if it is -- and that's when the moolah may come rolling in, enabling you to get married and start a family.

I didn't get married till I was 28. I'm 40 now, still happily married. No kids, but that's how we like it. ;-)

It's sad to see most people in society follow a straight line.

I do not believe it really matters if you aren't married by 30. It's your life, live it for yourself, not for others. Don't rush things just to be like everyone else.

Now, if you are lonely, and want to meet a special person, then I'd understand. But you're only referencing a label. Being married.

Marriages don't seem to last all that long anymore anyway. Or if they do, most times people are just there so they aren't lonely. You think they are genuinely happy?

Anyway, the status quo is not where your life should be. You should live it according to your experiences. Those friends of yours will not have to put up with a guy who you say isn't financially ready, and who your family doesn't like. You will. Do you really want to settle to fit in with a group of people so you fill in the little box that says married on a form? Really?

Good luck finding the best route for you in life.

Plenty of men and women are in their 30's, and have yet to get married or have children. This is the 21st century, and what you're going through is completely normal. Some people don't really find what they're looking for in life until their mid-30's or late 40's. They're often referred to as late-bloomers.

I'm a male, in my mid-30's, never been married, and have no children. I've never considered myself odd. Society may put that kind of pressure on you, especially because you're a female. But, are you really trying to impress them, or simply doing for yourself what you believe is right?

You're normal. And probably lucky as well.

The same thing happened to me when I was 25. Everyone around me was getting married, buying houses, having babies, etc. I was stuck ina rut, and I pretty much wanted to end it all. Thnkfully a year later, we bought a house and got married. Still no kids yet (and probably not for a long while), but everyone keeps asking when we're having a baby! WTF? Are people supposed to have all this done at a certain age? I think people need to wait until they're ready. There's so much pressure being put on us these days. Good luck to you though! :) I'm sure it will eventually happen. Maybe you and I will both be 35 when our first baby comes along. You never know...

dude watch HOW I MWT YOUR MOTHER it's awsome and maybe you will feel better. he's thirty and single. lol dude really. it's normal. it can happen to everyone. you just haven't found "THE ONE" yeah cliche i know but it's true. it's normal. people are getting married and having kids much later than before. word. relax dude you have time

lol it was HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER

You sound perfectly normal to me!

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