Help!
My husband's brother is gorgeous, cool and kind. Clever, too.
I've known my husband 8 years, and we have kids and are really happy as a couple.
But recently my bro in-law has been growing on me. A lot.
He stays over quite a bit, and for the last couple of days I've picked him up from work...(my husband asked me to).
My husband and I were having sex the other day, and suddenly his brother popped into my head - and I leant on his shoulder and pictured his brother.
Also, my kids took a picture of my bro in-law after his work, and it was on my phone. I can't stop looking at it; but I feel terrible everytime. Like I've committed some dreadful crime of infidelity.
It's so worrying - I'm starting to 'go off' my husband a little...and keener towards my brother in-law.
I would NEVER EVER EVER cheat on my hubby - and besides, the in-laws are extremely close-knit and nothing would ever actually happen.
Is this normal?
My husband's brother is gorgeous, cool and kind. Clever, too.
I've known my husband 8 years, and we have kids and are really happy as a couple.
But recently my bro in-law has been growing on me. A lot.
He stays over quite a bit, and for the last couple of days I've picked him up from work...(my husband asked me to).
My husband and I were having sex the other day, and suddenly his brother popped into my head - and I leant on his shoulder and pictured his brother.
Also, my kids took a picture of my bro in-law after his work, and it was on my phone. I can't stop looking at it; but I feel terrible everytime. Like I've committed some dreadful crime of infidelity.
It's so worrying - I'm starting to 'go off' my husband a little...and keener towards my brother in-law.
I would NEVER EVER EVER cheat on my hubby - and besides, the in-laws are extremely close-knit and nothing would ever actually happen.
Is this normal?
I have AS and needed the commitment, and I was pregnant. Happily.
I still love my husband, but I fancy his brother.
cheap slut comes to mind, and cheap slut for thinking about fucking your brother inlaw, what makes you think he would want to sleep with a woman who would cheat on her husband anyways. your a losser
And I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I just said I kind of crush on his brother.
I also said I have AS - I find emotional feelings very confusing, sometimes I can't divide sexual attraction and emotive warmth. They kind of merge into one.
But today I had a lovely day with my husband, I was shotgun in the car and he was driving, and just looking at him I realised how much he meant to me, how he has understood me and cared for me over the years...how he is the best and only friend I could ever have. Then I looked back at our boys, and that's when I knew. He is the only man I shall ever truly love.
His brother? No. Not really. Not anymore :)
It's true that some people marry way too early, but let's assume that's not the case here.
Also, I have AS, so relationships are really complicated for me.
You probably have a crush on your brother in-law, and that can be harsh on a relationship. But it's temporary, so try to put things in perspective.
Take some time to appreciate what you have with your husband. It's not everyday you meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. I suggest going somewhere romantic to rekindle your relationship. :)
Do not talk to your husband about this, it will probably hurt your relationship as well as the one between your husband and his brother which would be incredibly selfish.
For fuck's sake try to get over it and focus on your family.
I hope this helps all the best!
:D