While there is a chemical outburst in the beginning of the relationship that makes you behave like rabbits, which eventually ebbs away, you should still have a regular sex drive.
It seems your libido has been put into a casket and thrown into a hole in the cellar. I assume you also never masturbate?(that is, you are not in the mood at all, and not just not in the mood with him?)
You should go and see your doctor about this. While a low libido may be normal, the total absence of any kind of libido is kind of unnormal for young females-
As for your boyfriend, unlike us, they have physical needs. That is, that stuff NEEDS to get out, one way or the other. If no sex or masturbation, nightly discharge. Their hormon levels increase and make them do pretty stupid stuff to get that release.
If you REALLY love him, you should go and buy some lube. So yeah, you are not really in the mood. Who cares? I'm also not in the mood to go to work on monday morning. Still do it. It may feel a bit weird and inconvenient to let him fuck you when you are not in the mood, but it will make him so incredibly happy. And if you really love him, you will want to make him happy, see it as a regular gift only YOU can give to him. Whats 15 minutes of being a bit uncomfortable to the happyness of a person? Heck, maybe you even learn to put on a bit of a show *shrug* Make him feel he did a great job there, giving you 2 orgasms in a row.(i am usually not advocating faking it, but if you just lay there like a log of wood and let him "do his business" only more problems will arise) And to be honest: There's a good chance he will eventually look elsewhere if you deny yourself to him.
^ This absence of a libido thing happened with my ex. Ruined the relationship too. We had both been under some strain in the relationship but this certainly didn't help. Make SURE he feels loved. Even if it's not through sex. Just make sure you show him you care and aren't losing interest in him emotionally.
While there is a chemical outburst in the beginning of the relationship that makes you behave like rabbits, which eventually ebbs away, you should still have a regular sex drive.
It seems your libido has been put into a casket and thrown into a hole in the cellar.
I assume you also never masturbate?(that is, you are not in the mood at all, and not just not in the mood with him?)
You should go and see your doctor about this. While a low libido may be normal, the total absence of any kind of libido is kind of unnormal for young females-
As for your boyfriend, unlike us, they have physical needs. That is, that stuff NEEDS to get out, one way or the other. If no sex or masturbation, nightly discharge. Their hormon levels increase and make them do pretty stupid stuff to get that release.
If you REALLY love him, you should go and buy some lube. So yeah, you are not really in the mood. Who cares? I'm also not in the mood to go to work on monday morning. Still do it. It may feel a bit weird and inconvenient to let him fuck you when you are not in the mood, but it will make him so incredibly happy. And if you really love him, you will want to make him happy, see it as a regular gift only YOU can give to him. Whats 15 minutes of being a bit uncomfortable to the happyness of a person? Heck, maybe you even learn to put on a bit of a show *shrug* Make him feel he did a great job there, giving you 2 orgasms in a row.(i am usually not advocating faking it, but if you just lay there like a log of wood and let him "do his business" only more problems will arise)
And to be honest: There's a good chance he will eventually look elsewhere if you deny yourself to him.
This absence of a libido thing happened with my ex. Ruined the relationship too. We had both been under some strain in the relationship but this certainly didn't help.
Make SURE he feels loved. Even if it's not through sex. Just make sure you show him you care and aren't losing interest in him emotionally.