Is it normal that I'm terrified of being judged?

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Not normal. Fear is the prison of the mind.

I know what people are thinking about me most of the time. They are like a very easy to read open book. I'm good at reading thoughts through observing body language and facial expressions.

Where I'm from people aren't thinking about me. They all live in their own little worlds and think about themselves. This is also true for most people everywhere.

Don't get me wrong, I know bad people exist. I just don't think you have much to be terrified about.

This is very normal. In fact I actually feel the same way. I'm afraid of being judged, but I know that it'll happen so the best thing to do is not to care. I've learned that not everyone in the world is out to get you, there are some really nice people out there.

Don't go too far down that path. My father is terrified of being judged and takes criticism so much to heart that it turned him into a hateful bastard. My sister is getting married today (may already even be married right now) and my father is the reason I'm not there. I made the mistake of criticising him a fortnight ago (ironically, the criticism was that he can't take criticism, which is patently true as he uninvited me from the wedding and told me I'd never see anyone in the family again).

My advice to him (not that he'll read this) is the same as my advice to you. People will criticise you at times, sometimes fairly, sometimes unfairly. Take it on the chin, even learn to laugh at it, and laugh at yourself. At the very worst, all criticism amounts to is someone else's thoughts (that may not even be valid). The rampant fear of criticism is what has caused most problems for my family. It's not about the criticism itself; it's about how you deal with it.

its called social anxiety disorder

My advice would be to pretty much say "fuck um". Hardly anybody that sees you is going to judge you (unless you have a dick tattoo'd on your face or something). Spacey is right when she says that most people go around in there little worlds and rarely ever think about another person.

If you do meet people that judge you, who cares? If they are going to judge you up front, they are not the people you want to be around, and they don't have the kind of opinions you want to respect anyways! Love yourself and fuck what anybody else says!

I get this sometimes too. But honestly, you might be over thinking things. And they could even be feeling the same way that you're feeling when you're walking through the street. They could be wondering if you're judging them as well.

Try not to worry about it. If you let it get to you too much, you could end up isolating yourself from the outside world, and all because of your own paranoia. Not fun.

i have the same problem. i just tell myself that no matter what, no matter who i am or how i act, SOMEONE is going to have negative thoughts about me. you might as well just do you and you'll be a lot happier. (i know, much easier said than done)

You really need to stop caring so much. That person walking on the strwet that looked at you funny, they won't remember you tomorrow. They won't care. You'll be completely erased from their memory at some point, and will never see them again. Those people you see day to day aren't going to think of you outside of the time they see you, maybe not even then, most are busy with there own crap to think about irrelevant people.
You need to stop being extremely paranoid, it's a self destructive road that leads to nowhere. Speaking from experience.

yeah im also terrified of the judge

I have a speech impediment and I'm the exact same way.