How is this guy an asshole? The man must of had prefferences for his ideal partner, she showed one of the things she had, which isn't her fault, but it isn't his fault if he doesn't like such things. How would you feel if someone had a major problem, you decide "I'll never be with them" because of that reason, does that make you an asshole? No, it just means that something came up that was unnexpected and against your preference for a partner. The man should of known in the first place so that he got to know if the wanted to be with the girl in the first place or not.
You should of told him this before the relationship started, that way he would of been able to make a decision before you developed feelings for him.
You should of told him at the beginning so that both of you knew if you still wanted the relationship.
I actually do agree with this. I mean, I see it in a slightly different light, but ultimately I agree he's not an asshole for it.
OP: I don't think people realize how traumatic medical situations could be. I'm lucky I found someone who can deal with the issues that arise in my health problems, but I can't say I'd blame him if it became too much. It can be very painful to watch someone you care about suffer and deal with other problems from that plus their own life, etc. The point is, I'm sure he's got a million thoughts about the situation. Picking a partner isn't like picking a friend. There are obligations, fears, etc.
I think you'll find it does make him an asshole!! If a guy had a constricted vas deferens told a girl he had started dating - not on the first date as you suggest but at an appropraite time - and she dumped him you would think she was a total bitch! It is a nasty self centred thing to do! No one can help what happens to them medically. It's not that serious ... presents no major symptoms aside from it being difficult to get pregnant. If I were you I'd keep that kind of stuff to yourself until you know a guy really likes you for you!
Don't try and tell me what my opinion on people would be in certain situations, because you clearly just demonstrated that you do not know what I would think. No, I wouldn't think she was a bitch, I would think she should of been told in the first place, and if it was something that developed later, then she has just as much right. So, because they can't help what happens to them, the people with them have to just go with it? Sure, it isn't the person's fault for getting a medical problem, but that doesn't mean the person's partner is going to be ok being with someone that has such a condition.
What? So keep it to herself? Her partner doesn't have the right to be told the conditions the person he is with has? "Hey, I killed my last partner. I didn't tell you because I thought I should keep that type of thing to myself". Same logic.
Not really the same logic ... putting homicide and a minor ailment into the same box is a bit broad! But I concede that we are all entitled to an opinion! It has made me chuckle to myself though imagining you on a first date reeling off a list of your minor ailments and past misdemeanours! Lol
You should of told him this before the relationship started, that way he would of been able to make a decision before you developed feelings for him.
You should of told him at the beginning so that both of you knew if you still wanted the relationship.
OP:
I don't think people realize how traumatic medical situations could be. I'm lucky I found someone who can deal with the issues that arise in my health problems, but I can't say I'd blame him if it became too much. It can be very painful to watch someone you care about suffer and deal with other problems from that plus their own life, etc. The point is, I'm sure he's got a million thoughts about the situation. Picking a partner isn't like picking a friend. There are obligations, fears, etc.
It is a nasty self centred thing to do! No one can help what happens to them medically. It's not that serious ... presents no major symptoms aside from it being difficult to get pregnant. If I were you I'd keep that kind of stuff to yourself until you know a guy really likes you for you!
So, because they can't help what happens to them, the people with them have to just go with it? Sure, it isn't the person's fault for getting a medical problem, but that doesn't mean the person's partner is going to be ok being with someone that has such a condition.
What? So keep it to herself? Her partner doesn't have the right to be told the conditions the person he is with has?
"Hey, I killed my last partner. I didn't tell you because I thought I should keep that type of thing to myself". Same logic.