Hi,
this is my first submission and i hope I'm not doing it wrong.
So the problem s that my friend is becoming increasingly two-faced and closed off from me.
Once upon a time, she and I were like BFFFF....you get the idea. We would share everything with each other be it family or emotional issues. But after the December holidays, or winter break, when we saw each other again, I was really happy to see her but she was REALLY grumpy and refused to provide responses to my questions or would give me a look that said "Your really annoying you know?" or mumble something along the lines of "Geez, shut the hell up."
Call me needy but her attitude has been really infuriating, whenever I ask "What's wrong?", she just gives me a death glare.
Funny thing is, if one our friends from our group of five comes up and talks to her, she would gladly respond with a smile, even a chuckle.
In front of teachers, she would act all emo-ish and pseudo-philosophical and act really mild-mannered and so oppressed by her (insert cause here) and the teachers buy it!
About a week or two before, I finally snapped and let out all the frustration that had been building up. Of course, being the increasingly two-faced person that she was, she responded innocently with a "who? Me?" look and went on her merry way.
After a while, I felt bad for blowing up at her and said sorry and was "forgiven".
Basically, I'm just wondering if this was normal because i know that friends drift apart but that gives her NO right to treat me like something lesser than dirt and even include me out of my own circle of friends.
Sorry if at some point of time this seemed more like an anger rant than anything else.
this is my first submission and i hope I'm not doing it wrong.
So the problem s that my friend is becoming increasingly two-faced and closed off from me.
Once upon a time, she and I were like BFFFF....you get the idea. We would share everything with each other be it family or emotional issues. But after the December holidays, or winter break, when we saw each other again, I was really happy to see her but she was REALLY grumpy and refused to provide responses to my questions or would give me a look that said "Your really annoying you know?" or mumble something along the lines of "Geez, shut the hell up."
Call me needy but her attitude has been really infuriating, whenever I ask "What's wrong?", she just gives me a death glare.
Funny thing is, if one our friends from our group of five comes up and talks to her, she would gladly respond with a smile, even a chuckle.
In front of teachers, she would act all emo-ish and pseudo-philosophical and act really mild-mannered and so oppressed by her (insert cause here) and the teachers buy it!
About a week or two before, I finally snapped and let out all the frustration that had been building up. Of course, being the increasingly two-faced person that she was, she responded innocently with a "who? Me?" look and went on her merry way.
After a while, I felt bad for blowing up at her and said sorry and was "forgiven".
Basically, I'm just wondering if this was normal because i know that friends drift apart but that gives her NO right to treat me like something lesser than dirt and even include me out of my own circle of friends.
Sorry if at some point of time this seemed more like an anger rant than anything else.
If she acts like she can't stand to be around you and you can't stand the way she acts either, then the best thing might be to walk away before this become a full on schism or explosive argument. Better to part (fairly) amicably.
Give her some space because it seems that's all she wants from you.
Sure, you'd like an explanation, but the chances are she doesn't want to give you one, so suck it up and get on with your life.
If you continue to try to force her into a confrontation, you could end up horribly embarrassing yourself because you will seem like a bit of a crazy person who won't leave her alone.
Don't avoid her, but don't seek out her attention.
Be pleasant if you have to deal with her, but don't try to get in her face or be all buddy-buddy with her unless she's ready (on her own terms) to explain her behavior to you.
This may not seem fair to you, but that's just life and it is rarely fair.
Plenty more people in the world to deal with - people will let you down, people will piss you off, but when people change and treat yo like shit, then it's time to just say, oh well, I guess we aren't friends any more.
You will have a lot of different friends in your life, it's a little sad that this one appears to be fading but that's how it goes. Don't sweat it.
There's a guy I was hanging out with and he started telling Me what to do and that made Me sick to my stomach. He give's me phone calls and I just ignore them by looking at my caller ID. I don't have to explain to him why I'm dissing him, I'm hoping he'll get the picture and stop calling me so I don't have to fear the phone calls anymore. I wanna live in Peace!
hope I helped :D