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Is it Normal that my husband sleeps in another room every night?
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It is currently March 28, since about the 2nd week of December (09) my husband of 4 years (in July) began watching television in a separate room located in the back of the house. Since that time, he falls asleep there and has not come to sleep with me, in our bedroom. He says he's doing homework (last semester of Air Conditioning degree), but I constantly catch him doing word finds. Other that not sleeping with me, he is distant like never before, not touching or hugging me like before. I make advances, flirt with him, tell him straight out that I need and want to be sexually intimate with him, but he does not respond. We have had sexual intimacy once a month (last was Feb 19). He is constantly at his mother's house (12 miles away). His mother also is constantly calling him to go over and do some petty job/repair for her. My husband is one of 5 siblings (one brother who lives 3 minutes away from his mother), yet my husband is the one who is always there to do the job, when I need many tasks completed here at home, his mother's jobs are obviously priority. I am fed up with this nonsense. He leaves home at about 5:30 am, goes to class at 8:30 am 'til 12 - 1 pm, then goes straight to his mother's house, coming home 'til 'bout 11 pm, and it's every day! He also has a niece (daughter of my husband's deceased sister) who has 3 children (7, 6, & 1) and EVERYONE helps her with her children. My husband says it's her business to go out and do what she wants, but I tell him that it's my business too since he's the one watching her children, while she's out having fun and while I'm home alone, without my man. His brother calls him and he jumps as high as the brother says, only because he's in the Naval service. Plus, he's constantly hiding where he's at and what he does. Is this normal or am I overreacting?
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You should talk to him and tell him how you feel, he might be forgetting you and your feelings
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Thanks for the input, CharleSD, I WILL talk to him again. How long would you suggest, as a MAN, that I keep trying to remind him before I might see a change? Seriously, maybe I have just lost touch of how men may react/function, etc.
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Eva_Braun88
Something is up. And I believe in helping out family, but he is stuck up his family ass. You need to get him to confess what's up with him if he doesn't leave his ass you don't deserve that.
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If it bothers you, you have to adress it. The key to a good relationship is communication, if he still dosen't change keep talking to him.
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@: Vashie
Thanks for the advice. How many times would it be fair to "talk" to him? In other words, how long should I truly wait to see if he does change? I want, so bad, to be optimistic...
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School is not an excuse to let relationships fall by the wayside -- definitely talk to him.
Especially if he's concealing where he's at? Total red flag! Hope he's not cheating...
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I understand 'bout the school not being an issue, or at least "not supposed to be" because I was working on my masters AND tending to all our needs.
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He is not into you anymore :(
I would have a serious talk with him and give him some space, if not you should tell him that you will leave him and you should.
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Yes Replicator, that definitely crossed my mind & I was more on that wave of thought. Thank you for your honesty. He has all the space he wants, as I don't ask him to do anything around the house or run any errands. I have to do everything. He says if I need anything done, I need to ask him to do it. Why would I "have to ask" if it's extremely visible AND it's his house too? Well, my parents did recently give us my inheritance, a 4-bedroom house. How long should (would it be fair) I wait for a response/change (better or worse)?
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I agree wit "replicator" when man wants to be with a woman he makes it happen/ also r u sure he's always at his "mothers" house and not somewhere else?
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It's normal for some people.

I am in a relationship and we sleep in separate rooms. I initiated it and he has complained non-stop about it since it happened about 2-3 years ago.

There was a major thing that happened in my life that made me feel this way.

I'm not sure what's going on with him, but you need to discuss it with him like suggested above.

Try to work things out with him. It may be too late. But you will never know if you don't actively try it.

Good luck. Hope you two can come to a comfortable agreement.
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@: hazed
Thanks Hazed. That I know, nothing too noticeable has happened between us or with him, only that the distance began ever since his brother came back from Japan... But I wouldn't think that this would push him, do you?
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Watch the movie fire proof with him.
then confront him.
follow the movie.
ignore the god parts if you dont believe.
its a sad but amazing movie, and this reminds me of it.
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ItsTheKanninbal
Maybe hes watching porn?
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It sounds like he is escaping his problems. It could be that he can't face that the relationship is not going anywhere anymore, or it could just be a spell of depression. You need to talk to him. He is escaping to his mum's place as its a comfort to him. Try not to be resentful of the time he spends with his mum as there is always a chance you will pitch yourself against his mother - and she has known him longer than you!!

In short, until you speak to him properly, it could be anything from boredom in the relationship or depression. I reckon he is depressed.
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He is cheating on you.


With his iPhone.
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U must be getting fat
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