Is it normal that my wife is insecure an controlling of me.

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Sorry, but what the actual fuck? If this was gender reversed, you would all be insulting the guy and telling her to leave him.

My opinion, don't sit down with her and talk, she is emotionally and metally abusing you. She is thinking about herself and only herself, and she's making everything else in your life taht you hold dear dissapear. Next time she says "I'm going to leave if you go out", bring out her bag, open the door, and tell her to leave the house keys on the table when she leaves.

Have some self-respect. She is abusing you, don't let her. She is talking about finding someone that will treat her right, yet you're the one in need of a partner that would treat you right.

Leave her, she isn't doing any good for you. Try find someone that respects and loves you.

She is acting ridiculous. Both of you need to sit down and calmly talk to each other about this. Talk about how you feel and about why she feels the way she feels. If that doesn't work, dump her and find someone that isn't controlling and insecure. If you stay with someone that doesn't allow you to have friends, you may wind up living a very miserable life.

All you can do is continue to tell her she is the only one you want but that you also need some time with your friends so you appreciate the time you have with her more. Her insecurities come within her so really you just have to keep reassuring her that you wont do anything to jeapodise your marriage. It's important to have friends in life. Good luck

Well sadly this is probably something you should have thought about before you married her. I doubt this behavior manifested after marriage. While I dont quite share the total cut and dry approach that ItDuz has put forth, most of what he lists is good advice. At the very least you need to stand up to her and the daily controlling influence that she exerts on you. At the very least call her bluff on leaving and stand your ground on it. You will probably be surprised at the results.

Makes me wana run out and get married right away. Any other guys have that same feeling? Dont be shy now.

See your friends behind her back or take her to couples therapy.

Divorce. You aren't happy and she is emotionally abusing you by manipulation. You deserve better than that. Period. I'm sure she has her friends so why can't you have yours. If you aren't a fan already go read Dan Savage's Savage Love. He is really good at relationship advice and will tell you the same thing. You deserve better!

Divorce her, dude. This bitch has problems. She is slowly turning you into a victim and this is the first step that abusers take, which is isolating their victims. It's only going to get worse from here.

I guess she were sthe pants

Have you tried punching to her about how this makes you feel?

I'm gonna have to agree with ItDuz on this one. If she keeps saying she's going to leave then tell her to do it. I doubt it if she would. I'm not trying to break up your marriage as I am sure that is something you hold dear. However, I do think you need to be more assertive and let her know that you are going to go out, hang with friends, and be merry, and that if she really wants this marriage to work, she's gonna have to trust you. I'm not married, I've never been married, and I don't plan on getting married anytime soon, so I can't say what it is like to be in a marriage, but I will say that I think it's time for you to put your foot down and take control of your life.

I bet at one point she got hurt either by you or a previous partner. This relationship will not last if the situation stays like it is, at one point you will get fed up and just start doing whatever you please and/or feel generally stuck and unhappy with your life. I am not saying you should break up with her but it is obvious that something has to change, find out why she does it and work on it.

For example you could start going out but calling her several times during and take it from there, you cannot live like this forever though.

why does that turn me on... Gee whiz. lol