Is it normal that when I finger myself I don't find pleasure?

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You're doing it wrong, love.

As a woman myself, I do not get pleasure from fingering myself. It just does not do it for me. For pleasure I have to use a toy, someone elses fingers or actually have sex. Fingering yourself isn't for everyone.

It is normal.I am masturbating and I don't like lingering by myself at all.It's not if you are doing it right or wrong.
I just find more pleasure at the clit.

let me show you

You are more than likely doing it right.

Perhaps you don't like it? Masturbation is not for everyone. >_>

make sure it's the right hole!

or buy a sybian.

Try clitorus stimulation. It works like a charm for me, and it's so much easier (and more sanitary) than fingering.

My boyfriend can do it perfectly.. C;

The same happens to me, ive tried rubbing my clit a million different ways and fingering but nuthin helps or makes me cum. I think i need sex.

I feel the same way just thinking about doing it. I don't come close to the act. =/

Your tiny woman fingers are too weak, you need to find lumberjack or a dock worker to rough house your vagina with their stumpy digits

Its suppose to feel naughty!

Perhaps, you're doing it wrong?

I guess it just doesn't work for everyone. Or you're not doing right.

You may not be in the right spot. I don't usually finger myself because I can't get the same results as if someone else was doing it. Focus on your clitoris either with vibrators or your own hands.

How did I know?

The problem is you're fingers aren't big enough. You need to try just one finger but make sure it is between 6 and 8 inches in length and about 1 1/2 to 2 inches in girth. That should get the results you're yearning for.

I am the poster of this

If you have a guy do it, it should feel better. You might have loosened yourself out to. I would recommend using 2 fingers.

It's really just down to your own preferences
I don't find any pleasure in it myself
Try just stimulating your clitoris

same with me

totally normal. a human organ designed for that job feels soooo much better. yum.

I don't get anything out of it either. Try using a vibrator while doin it though, it makes it so much better.

Try humping a pillow or something. I'm a guy and I can't give mself a hand job. Not everyone has the same masturbation techniques.

Try getting fingered by someone else. It's great.

Try clitoris stimulation. Slowly, think about a guy f**king with you and relax!

yeah my ex girlfriend, god rest her soul. Never liked masturbation she preferred me for pleasure. God I miss her.

When I was a teenager I totally thought that was masturbating and was convinced I didnt have a clitoris because I felt nothing. Its good when someone else does it but for self pleasure you gotta turn yourself on mentally and rub away...

I used to have the same problem): I'd have phone sex n I couldn't finish but then I realized I had to keep going harder n harder n faster n omg!! The first time I came I squirted in my hand it felt soooo good. If you need inspiration watch a lil porn or think of something super sexy. If your hand isn't doing it buy a mini bullet n press it against your clit n it'll start tingling soo good(: I hope you cum hehe not to be a creep(;

Oh also! When your down there you'll start feeling a lil tired (idk if that's the word??) but keep going!! Dnt give up!! Go go go n then it'll be like BOOM!!!! Toe curling deliciousness(;

I never could give myself an orgasm until recently. I was just doing it the wrong way. For me just sticking a finger in doesn't do it. Fingering myself in cowgirl position straddling a pillow while rubbing my clit works the best for me.

Most women who squirt are merely releasing urine. I've caught it in a glass and tasted it...with several squirters. Jim

A lot of girls have difficulty experiencing pleasure, and just as many find it next to impossible to orgasm during sex. Its perfectly normal but its frustrating as well.
There are lots of reasons this happens, and all of us are different so its not easy to figure out why. It could be a lack of experience? Or maybe your partner isnt helping much? Maybe try a toy? They can help. Or like others said, get a guy to do it for you? That works for me!

Can i do something for u baby, i will put all my creamy load in ur tongue, and u'll enjoy its taste, even when you will feel my fingers and mouth right inside ur pussy! (Just kidding baby!)

Its normal if it dosent happen to u, different ppl have different type of orgasms, u can see mine above.....

how old are you? do you have a large family?

Personally I don't finger myself, when someone else fingers me I like it but not when I do it for myself so I think that's normal. Try rubbing your nipples and clit maybe...works for me :p

Get aroused then work your Clit or G-spot, imagination helps but then again so do vibrators :)

I'm sure I can pleasure you and make you cum with my tounge :p x