Okay, I started life believing you should save yourself for marriage but when I wasn't married by 30 I thought being in love would be enough. I dated a guy for 6 months and thought "I will sleep with him in 3 months if the relationship continues." Needless to say, I found out he was dating multiple women at the same time. I'm glad I didn't sleep with him but now I'm 40 and still a virgin. I've been spending a lot of time with a friend and am very attracted to him. Should I tell him now that I'm a virgin or wait? He's a very sexual person and the thought of telling him terrifies me. I know he has no idea that I am a virgin. I'm not a prude, enjoy masturbation but the actual act terrifies me because I've waited so long.