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Is it normal to be annoyed over people who need a "pat on the back"?
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I get so annoyed by people who need recognition and praise for every little thing they do. I don't understand why some people think praise is in order for simply doing what's expected, normal and part of life. I don't think there should be an expectation of praise for anything, if you get it it's nice but you shouldn't require it. IIN?

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thisissomuchfun
Why do you have a problem with other people who enjoy a lot of external validation? I don't understand how their need for it would affect you personally.

Many people didn't receive enough approval from their parents/guardians while they were young and developing their self-esteem. So, the adults with the greatest influence over them during their childhood, taught them the things they accomplish are not valued. That feeling stayed with them on into adulthood and it is very difficult for them to overcome.

Praise people (sincerely) until they don't feel a need for praise any more---which will eventually come.
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I like this comment.:) I agree.
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It affects me when I'm the one they are expecting praise from! There's a few such people in my life, one of which is a very close family member. He's irritating because he fishes for praise ALL the time and funnily enough, he almost never shows appreciation himself, in fact he has virtually no common courtesy or consideration for others.

It also affects society as a whole, when people don't do the right thing because there's nothing in it for them. People have the attitude that "if nobody is watching, why bother".
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howaminotmyself
I get what you're saying. Some people are needy, for whatever reason. Some people come by it honestly and are compensating for something that might be lacking while others may be spoiled and never taught that acting like a three year old is annoying.

However some things do deserve praise and as a society, I think we fail to acknowledge good people far too frequently. I always give a sincere thank you when someone holds the door for me. And I appreciate one in return. I don't do it for the thanks, but I am annoyed when people don't acknowledge it.
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tommythecat
So you hate 90% of the world.
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I don't hate them, they just irk me. I've never been into all these silly people games. I find it all so asinine.
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You r a idoit
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I hate the people that say "Good job" for the littlest things you do.

I threw away a piece of paper you fuck wit i didn't end world hunger.
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Good job being irritated!
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It's beautiful isn't it.
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Good job pointing that out, Lt.
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Ok just stop right there.
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Nice job being a positive influence on LtDan!
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
I will pat all smokers on the back.
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Because they're having a coughing fit?
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
No, because they are doing the Lord's work. Those aren't clouds up in Heaven. That is cigarette smoke that has drifted up from Earth.
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Oh, right! I forgot where clouds came from.
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
Happens to the best of us. Now do your part in building Heaven.
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Gaining praise is like meeting a goal. One should seek it, but not demand it.
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Its ok to want someone to acknowledge when you have done something good, but to get in a strop if you dont get it or if you are attention seeking then it is infuriating. You can tell if people are just doing this to attention seek. I hate them people too.
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