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Is it normal to be distant to people?
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I am always bothered by being distant to many people. Many of them regard me as pretty, smart and engaging. I gain friends and admirers, but in the end, I keep away from them. It bothers me that every time I get into a relationship, whether it is for friendship, love or something platonic, I keep away from them. At first, I think it was boredom, but how can I be bored from people? I tend to rationalize myself with either me or them being unworthy. When I do get friends, I either get too patronizing or critical. If it is a guy, I end up getting hit on and not being taken seriously. Can somebody reassure me that I am normal and not like a sociopath or something.
Do you think it's normal?
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Rumpranger39 (17642)
2008-11-13 09:08:23
I understand I'm not much of a people person myself. To me you sound normal, keeping a close friend is a great deal of work, and it sounds as if you would just rather not be bothered. As long as your happy don't worry about it. When a friend comes along that if worth your time and energy you will know! I hope this helps.
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Fuhad (17617)
2008-11-13 16:29:35
You are a loner, you like having people around you yet at the same time you like being on your own and in your own space. I am exactly the same, thats why i plane to get a boat and travel. lol

As long as you don't lead people on with false hope you will do well, i always say do what makes you happy.
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OliverSquare (17699)
2008-11-14 14:30:19
I would have to say nothing wrong with you. you probably are one of the few people in the world that love people but have an extremely low tolerance for stupid bullshit.
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GreyScale (18039)
2008-11-27 20:13:09
Fuhad is completely right.

In addition, you just haven't found a person you can get along with at a deeper level. Once you do, your world will be flipped upside-down. ;)
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sleeplesss (19095)
2009-01-30 13:15:32
Yep I'm in the exact same boat you're in: attractive, a friendly demeanour, but people tire me out and I just can't be bothered to make an effort when it's the friends I didn't have to make a real effort with that turned out to be the best ones. Problem is I'm a nomad and have moved around and lost touch with them, almost. I hope when I get older that people will be more interesting to talk to--I do find older people much more interesting (I'm 24).
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CalvinNHobbes (23209)
2009-05-19 18:51:35
You should seek out the man you want, and pursue your college education. Quit waiting for men to "hit on you". You might be shallow, but probably you just have some hang up like esteem problem or general apathy. You should eat capsaicin tablets and give some guy the BJ of his life. You'll feel better.
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4w04se (25055)
2009-07-04 16:17:13
Woh.. that's like me talking... I like the people I know alot and wish I can keep up with them.. But, at some time I feel that I'm not really that close as other people are. But, it's just the way I am.. and it comforts me. It does bother you .. But, you have to decide which way makes you feel like yourself?
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chickenfoot (28283)
2009-09-09 08:14:59
I do the same thing, I don't mind talking to people and I have a lot of friends but usually I much prefer being on my own and will rarely start a conversation or make plans.
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