Is it normal to be in a relationship, but have crushes on others?

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I'm married to my country, but I do have the hots for the Queen.

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Knight Nigel Wellington XXI

I sure hope so. I am married and still have crushes sometimes. But they stay in the realm of fantasy, where they belong. As long as you don't act on your crushes, your relationship is probably fine.

Another closeted polyamorous individual. suppressed by tha rules of a failing society. i dnt understand tha beliefe that its ok to feel these feelings but its wrong to embrace them because you are owned by another. will this not plant a seed of resentment between a couple? my wife has a huge crush on a guy she works with. i told her to bring him home one nite and get to know him. now they are very close. instead of resenting me we are closer than ever! i have a longterm girlfriend who i love dearly. she comes over a few times a week and we all play together. there are no secrets or hurt feelings between any of us.

I have the exact same thing. I have been in a loving relationship for 4 years now and I am perfectly happy.

However especially one particular girl who seems to float in and out of my life has really made a fairly large impression on me.

I myself have not discussed this with my girlfriend but she is aware there is some chemistry between me and the other woman. Even though the sometimes refers to it sarcastically she does not feel threatened by it at all and even mocks me about feeling this way at times.

What I am trying to say is that especially men are very easily infatuated by attractive women but when in a stable relationship in which such urges are discussed in a rational way this doesn't have to be a problem.

It is nature that causes these infatuations and not emotional and/or mental attachment, as opposed to what it is like when being in a relationship.

when i was with my girlfriend i never even looked at a single person in that way. but when i was watching family feud the question was how hard is it to not cheat on your significant other on a scale of 1-10, and i was like say something between 1-5, and the top answers were 8-10, it blew my mind