I am 30 and female. I strive on being perfect and help people all the time. I go to church every Sunday and try to do the right things. Everybody loves me. Except when I am in a close relationship, I can be mean, unforgiving and manipulative. I don't want to be around people who have problems as they bring me down. I want to be only around those who give me positive feedback and have a positive outlook on the future, not with someone who always complains about their ills or problems. Especially family. I have severe irritable bowel syndrome so I don't want to be around anyone or anything that makes me feel stressed or ill. But unless others do exactly what I say I push them out of my life as they are not good for me, including my mother and my boyfriend of more than five years. Is this the right thing to do? Am I normal or just a heartless, mean, manipulative person as my brother says I am?