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Is it normal to blush when your biological father calls you baby girl?
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My dad and I recently got in contact, I have never met him. But him and I are writing letters back and forth and he will say things like "I can't wait to hold you in my arms and talk to you about everything! I love you baby girl " or something like that. But, everytime he uses that term "baby girl" I blush a lot. And I don't know if it makes me uncomfortable or if I like it. Is this normal?
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I think its odd considering he never met you and if you decide to meet him make sure to only spend time with him in a public place. Him talking about wanting to hold you in his arms is also creepy. You may be his child, but he never met you. The whole thing is too forward and I hope he doesn't mean any of this in a sexually predatory way.
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I definitely hope not. Because my mom said he was sexually abused as a child.
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I hope not too, but be careful please
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I will! Thank you
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No, that's over the top and phony coming from someone who's never met you, but then maybe that's the sort of person he is.

If it makes you blush, try and work out what feeling is causing the blushing: it's probably ordinary embarrassment at being addressed in such an intimate way by a father you've never known, and that's totally normal.

Can you tell him in a low key way that you find it uncomfortable to be called that at this stage? I think it's possible he's rushing things and Who?'s advice above about safety when you do meet up are excellent.
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@: Ellenna
How exactly would I tell him to stop? Do you have any suggestions?? Because it does make me a bit uncomfortable how I'm thinking about it.
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How about: "I feel uncomfortable about you calling me that, so please don't do it any more"
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It's normal for a father to call his daughter baby girl. It needn't make them uncomfortable. However, the fact that you two have never met yet might mean that he is meaning it in a sexual way, and you're feeling uncomfortable for a reason. I don't want to suggest this, and it's highly unlikely, but one of the most common cases of sexual abuse/incest will be a father who has not met his biological daughter until she is grown up.
This might just be in your head. If you are blushing because you like it, then see a psychologist or tell your father not to call you baby girl. If it's making you feel turned on, then get help. Also, if you plan to meet this man face to face make sure that it's in a public place with lots of people and you stay there for the duration of the meeting. If he makes any sexual advances on you, tell a close relative ( such as your mother if you are on good terms) or inform the police.
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@: Who?
No, I definitely don't like it, it makes me uncomfortable
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Ok. In that case, tell him in some way that he's making you uncomfortable in a way that you feel fine with. Something like "I don't want to rush and the way you're talking to me is making me feel uncomfortable," would be ideal, or something along the lines of what Ellenna suggested. If you're not sure about meeting your father, or you don't think you're ready yet, remember that you don't have to do anything if it makes you uncomfortable. Try talking to your mother about this if you can.
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yourmindisfuckedup
Totally normal!
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I don't know if it's normal or not, but if it's making you uncomfortable, you're well within your rights to ask him to stop.

Is it just the term baby girl that you're uncomfortable with, or all of the stuff he says? If it's just the term baby girl that you don't like, just tell him that. Just come out and say "Can you not call me baby girl? I really don't like it."

If it's also the stuff about holding you in his arms(yikes) and telling you everything, it would be completely understandable if that's also making you uncomfortable, because that is moving really fast. And if that's what it is, I would suggest just asking him to slow down a little bit. Something like "I'm really excited to have you back in my life, and I look forward to building our relationship and catching up on lost time, but we still just started writing and haven't even met in person, so maybe we can take it slow for awhile?"

He should realize that he was going fast and just got too excited and caught up in the moment, and of course respect your wishes...but if he gets angry or defensive about it, that's a huge red flag and a sign that you really need to be careful with him. Always remember that you're not required to spend time with him and that he's not entitled to have a relationship with you just because he's your father.

And, seriously, PLEASE listen to the other comments about meeting him in a public place. That is very, very important. Do not start blindly trusting this guy just because he's your dad.
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Cedric_Diggory
Maybe he has been in your everyday life. Maybe he has been that guy in the background, by the tree, when it rains.
Maybe he is that guy who sits in the car sometimes when you walk out from school.
Maybe he has been tucking you in secretly every night.
Maybe it's just your mom writing you those letters to give you false hope and, by doing that, try teaching you a lesson in life.
OH SHIT! MAYBE YOUR MOTHER IS YOUR FATHER!!!! QUICK! PULL DOWN HER SKINNY JEANS
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I wish my dad called me babygirl instead of a fucking piece of shit
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The media and TV a d this fucking generation have made it too where you can't even call your kids " baby " without them getting all uppiddy thinking it's some sort of sexual advance.

He was prolly nervous and didn't know what to say or how to talk to the new generation of kids.
He's prolly just trying appear cool to you.
But you like to flatter yourself and think even your own dad wants to fuck you.
Morons all of you.
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BIGFATCOCK
How old are you ?
How old is he ?
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totally normal, you respect him a lot and have never met him, so it's easy to create fantasies in your head of how amazing he must be.
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