Is it normal to feel afraid about marriage when you're born into a culture that practices arranged marriages?
I'm somewhat of the shy awkward girl in class and I don't date or even talk to guys much. Honestly, I'm okay with that (for now) but I get uncomfortable whenever my parents talk of finding someone for me, because I can't imagine something like that happening to me or more like happening successfully. In my religious culture, everyone gets married one way or another, whether it's by personal choice, the parent's decision, or arranged by the church leaders and congregation, but lately I've been distant from the church community and even my parents and it's kind of bothers me that they would expect me to follow their expectations. I'm okay with the idea of marriage, but not the pressure to consent to it as if it's normal. The problem is I don't have the right idea of arranged marriages.I just don't think I have the confidence to handle a drastic change in my life.
Ok so my life isn't normal, but I am normal about it? That's mainly my question.
I'm somewhat of the shy awkward girl in class and I don't date or even talk to guys much. Honestly, I'm okay with that (for now) but I get uncomfortable whenever my parents talk of finding someone for me, because I can't imagine something like that happening to me or more like happening successfully. In my religious culture, everyone gets married one way or another, whether it's by personal choice, the parent's decision, or arranged by the church leaders and congregation, but lately I've been distant from the church community and even my parents and it's kind of bothers me that they would expect me to follow their expectations. I'm okay with the idea of marriage, but not the pressure to consent to it as if it's normal. The problem is I don't have the right idea of arranged marriages.I just don't think I have the confidence to handle a drastic change in my life.
Ok so my life isn't normal, but I am normal about it? That's mainly my question.
Explain to anyone concerned that marriage is your decision and if you do marry, your husband will be your choice of partner.
When you meet someone right for you, you will know it. You don't need to have a fight about it with anyone else, just calmly explain that that's not your plan and you will get to it when you want to.
Just that you mention church and I don't know any Christian denominations who do arranged marriages.
I think it is normal to be afraid of marriage, especially if you are still young and at school.
so no need to fear