Ya, for kids it's called bullying and for adults it's called harassment.
When I was taking a programme at a technical college, a classmate was expelled for threatening to murder me. I could have also pressed charges, but I didn't.
I think that if I was in high school, he would have got a detention and that's about it.
It doesn't seem very fair, but it is an undeniable fact that ALL teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex. And that means that they are still somewhat mentally impaired when it comes to impulse control, rage, and decision making. That's why they are not held accountable in the same way that adults are.
You are correct that most bullies have been victims at some point in the home. Their esteem is affected so greatly that they try to achieve some sense of control or attention in their tiny little worlds by harassing and pestering other people/children. Sad but true.
If your child was not the victim of bullying, but actually doing the bullying, how would you teach them that bullying is wrong?
"If your child was not the victim of bullying, but actually doing the bullying, how would you teach them that bullying is wrong?"
That's the problem. Many parents don't recognize it, such is the nature of the households those kids come from.
A good parent would pull the kid out of school for the safety of the other children, have the child psychologically evaluated and do what it necessary to calm the violent behavior, perhaps implement therapy to accelerate the child's understanding of empathy and, if need be, medicate the child.
In either scenario, just letting the issue go and dismissing it as "Well, they are just children, they don't know better yet" or that they can not be held fully responsible for their actions and candy-coating it in that manner may be better for the bully, but it is detrimental to the victims. The victims don't care about their bully's situation, they suffer either way.
My point here is that in candy-coating it with a term like "bullying" it distracts from the fact that the suffering that the victims are experiencing here is no more or less real than the suffering of adults. I am talking about treating a situation of harrassment with all of the severity it requires regardless of the age.
When I was taking a programme at a technical college, a classmate was expelled for threatening to murder me. I could have also pressed charges, but I didn't.
I think that if I was in high school, he would have got a detention and that's about it.
It doesn't seem very fair, but it is an undeniable fact that ALL teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex. And that means that they are still somewhat mentally impaired when it comes to impulse control, rage, and decision making. That's why they are not held accountable in the same way that adults are.
You are correct that most bullies have been victims at some point in the home. Their esteem is affected so greatly that they try to achieve some sense of control or attention in their tiny little worlds by harassing and pestering other people/children. Sad but true.
If your child was not the victim of bullying, but actually doing the bullying, how would you teach them that bullying is wrong?
That's the problem. Many parents don't recognize it, such is the nature of the households those kids come from.
A good parent would pull the kid out of school for the safety of the other children, have the child psychologically evaluated and do what it necessary to calm the violent behavior, perhaps implement therapy to accelerate the child's understanding of empathy and, if need be, medicate the child.
In either scenario, just letting the issue go and dismissing it as "Well, they are just children, they don't know better yet" or that they can not be held fully responsible for their actions and candy-coating it in that manner may be better for the bully, but it is detrimental to the victims. The victims don't care about their bully's situation, they suffer either way.
My point here is that in candy-coating it with a term like "bullying" it distracts from the fact that the suffering that the victims are experiencing here is no more or less real than the suffering of adults. I am talking about treating a situation of harrassment with all of the severity it requires regardless of the age.