When I was younger, I was extremely promiscuous, to the point where I was lucky that I hadn't obtained any sexual diseases, but I think I started young enough to cause psychological damage.
As I got older, I stopped sleeping around as much as I did and managed to maintain relationships that usually fell apart about a year in and ended about three years later.
I simply lost interest in sex with that person and to the point where, being intimate with them makes me feel completely disgusted. They disgust me completely, no kissing/petting/hugging and definitely no sex.
However, I can carry on as a really close friend, laugh and joke and talk. As soon as sex is initiated, I am completely turned off and want nothing to do with them.
I do have a drive however and find that it's more inclined towards fantasy and consideration of a new partner, but I know this is part of a cycle and I can't break it.
I am female and in my mid thirties now. I started having sex as a teenager and I know that there must be something wrong with me.
As I got older, I stopped sleeping around as much as I did and managed to maintain relationships that usually fell apart about a year in and ended about three years later.
I simply lost interest in sex with that person and to the point where, being intimate with them makes me feel completely disgusted. They disgust me completely, no kissing/petting/hugging and definitely no sex.
However, I can carry on as a really close friend, laugh and joke and talk. As soon as sex is initiated, I am completely turned off and want nothing to do with them.
I do have a drive however and find that it's more inclined towards fantasy and consideration of a new partner, but I know this is part of a cycle and I can't break it.
I am female and in my mid thirties now. I started having sex as a teenager and I know that there must be something wrong with me.
Some people (male or female) are naturally inclined to be more promiscuous or not "settle down" into family life. It's simply a instinctual "branch" of behavior which has worked to some degree or another because it has continued on for thousands upon thousands of years without being "filtered out" by natural selection.
This really isn't a question of whether or not something is wrong with you (there isn't) it's more a question of are YOU happy with the your life, with not having a single permanent partner?
I can see from you merely asking the question that cultural and social pressures have made you believe that something isn't "right" with how you are when it may very simply be that settling down with one person just CAN'T be your "thing".
You've made it clear that you quickly become unhappy in such a situation and forcing yourself to stay IN such a relationship would do nothing but be damaging to both parties (and any potential children).
I can't offer anything more than opinion one way or the other, but I will say if you are happy "drifting" then do so! I'm nearly 30 myself and haven't "settled down and started a family" and have no plans to do so any time in the future.
Also, Ignoring the other comments thus far wouldn't be a bad idea. These other people are making fun of you and it is not appropriate to do so. Calling you a "slut" is downright rude and inaccurate and as for the advice to "settle down and have a nice family"... This is possibly the WORST advice that could be given to someone who feels like you do, especially if YOU aren't ready to do so.
Some people don't want to "settle down" until much later in life, people NEVER do and there is nothing wrong with them.
You very well may be one of those that never does weigh anchor and will be very happy with your life. The only REAL downside is you will just have to put up with those who do not and can not understand why you are the way you are.
Cheers and I hope you follow the road that makes YOU the happiest!
Also, to the people calling me a whore and slut, your immaturity is obvious. For the person claiming I have STD's, I do not nor have I ever.
I have not been promiscuous in several years, since my teen years. Being in my mid thirties now, I don't think I actually need to do the math for you, or do I?
FYI, please don't think of TV as an example of "the norm", because thats the real reason so many people are lost today.
Sex is fun. If you get bored with the sex, try fun, new ways to have sex. Suggest adding a partner now and then, male or female. You'd be surprised just how many guys are open to that, and most I know would love doing it.
And screw the sexual moralists who treat sex as a crime whenever it's not THEM having it.
Like you, I learned young too, though it wasn't exactly by choice, I was definitely too young. It's normal for past experiences to have a strong impact. But this doesn't mean there's something wrong with you! You're trying things out and learning about what you like. You seem to be aware of what works for you. Go with it! :)
dress up?
handcuffs?
Please.. if you need suggestions, contact me. I have a whole slew of ideas that might help.
I believe that you have not had sex in a while. The feeling your having inside is caused by you being turned off from having sex to much when you were younger. I wouldn't advise people to have sex, but in your case you should. If you still feel turned off, then this isn't a commited relationship. Understand??
The question is: Do you want a long-term relationship? If you do, then you'll have to suck it up and get used to boring sex; I did. The only downside to exciting sex with new partners is that you don't have someone to rely on when the chips are down. Sex partners won't stick by you when you need someone. If you need that, then you need to negotiate a relationship where you and a partner back each other no matter what the circumstances. If you are ok without that kind of support then you are a free individual and should do what makes you happy regardless of what others say. The main thing is that you know yourself and your needs and do the right thing; whatever that is.
I would suggest go bang everyone you please as long as you are healthy and just tell them all about you if they persue a serious relationship with you. This way they had it coming too ;)
What is not fun is play with ppl feelings. As long as you clear it out from the begining that this is all about sex and, you just can't help it to be in a longterm relationship, NOONE WILL GET HURT AND NOONE WILL GIVE A FUCK, they would proply fck your brains out and move to the next chick.