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Is it normal to have no real friends??
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is it something wrong with me??

i know lots of people, i go out a lot, when we go out for drinks most people like me cuz i try to be happy all time, but at the end of the day they i feel so lonely because they dont call me to go out, i have to call them over and over to find out what they are doing, and when the do call me its just because they know i have a car and i have money, they are fake as hell, they talk behind my back, and behind everyone's back, i got used to it, i just figured most people is fake these days.

i just cant find a real friend, im very smart, and i know about everything plus i know how to move around, so they keep calling me when they have problems, since i always try to do what is right i do help them, but when i need help, noone is there for me.

is there something wrong with me??
Do you think it's normal?
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groogy (25104)
2009-07-05 21:22:26
well i think you have assessed that they aren't good friends. it's hard to find a good friend and it depends on what you want. do you want to hang out with peeps that go to bars dance around like jackasses thinking there to good for the world. are understand the fact that maybe you are to good for them real friends are supposed to make you feel happy and like you for you. it's always give and take as well. i found my best friend in the whole world at the gym. i had zero friends and spent most of the time on my comp.i guess it's the same as a gf your not going to find one unless you put yourself out there. it's normal not to have a real friend i guess more of the question is are you happy bending over for them when they wouldn't do the same for you. don't be a push over are no one respects you trust me.
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holylouboutin (25118)
2009-07-06 03:36:38
wow, that's exactly what happen with me, i dont have real friend either.
i stay home a lot now, giving up finding friend but still imagining myself having loads of friends.
i think im a suck at socializing :(
though people like me because i love to laugh.
i always feel embarass about my self because im fat.
mom is my only good friend
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-07-06 05:14:26
Have you tried to get close - for example doing things, being personable to build a relationship with one or a few of these many friends (not as a group)? If not maybe start there - people behave differently as individuals than as a group.

Also when you are giving help - have you used this opportunity to assert yourself by sharing how you feel (used) and what you'd like to see different?

I guess I'm saying its worth trying to cultivate better relationships among those you have - which you say are many. But otherwise I do think you could curtail being used for car & money and get out to make new friends by pursuing some of your interests.
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Chill_Pill (25078)
2009-07-06 14:01:53
This makes me very sad. Those people who you mentioned are NOT your friends and you need to not hang out with people who use you. I have a tough time making friends also but have many of them. Just be more exacting. I'm picky and because of that the friends that I have are long-term and are very special. When people know that you won't take their bullspit it's harder for them to walk all over you. Please cherish yourself for the gem you are and follow the advice of these responders...find something that interests you intellectally and join groups that focus on that. You will have a better chance of finding someone true blue than at a dingy bar with a load of drunken monkeys. Good Luck!

~Peace~
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sandmansgirl (24120)
2009-07-07 20:38:13
Ditto to what chillpill says above. I was in your shoes once..you need to get out of them before it's too late and they ruin you (and they will). I agree that you need to find something that interests YOU and join groups around that. Check out website www.meetup.com and find something that interests you and go to a few meetings. That should get you headed in right direction to finding some decent and honest people.
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BooyaTurkey (26583)
2009-08-04 05:29:36
I agree with what everyone else is saying - they aren't real friends at all and you should realize the respect you have for yourself and stop talking to and associating yourself with these people. Even if it means you'll be alone for a little while you find new friends, it's worth it. I am very familiar with feeling like I have no real friends, so I get it. That's why I am so picky with the people I associate myself with now. If I start talking to someone and feel like they're not being genuine and good friends to me, I'm not afraid anymore to just drop them and move on - we don't need to waste our time with these people when we could be out there making good friends. But basically, I rather be on my own and do my own thing than be friends with people that aren't really my friends.
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mochi81 (26630)
2009-08-06 03:06:12
maybe all you have to do is be yourself. stop looking for them and stop finding out what they're doing, unless they seek you. if they seek you just to fulfill their need, just simply refuse it. Dare to say 'no' and have time for yourself, for finding the real friends of yours.
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