After he proposed, me and my fiance started putting together some wedding plans... My mom even helped, and so did some of my friends. After a while, me and my fiance were talking and just decided that we don't want a wedding.. we were mostly planning because that's what everyone wants us to do, and he wanted it to be "my day" but I really don't want a wedding. I've hated the idea of a wedding since I was little.. I mean, I feel bad about "taking it away" from him, but he said that if I don't want a wedding, we don't have to do it..
So, as of now, he's paying off some bills and then we're going to find an apartment and move in together... Probably get married shortly after..
Is it normal to not want a wedding, even tho everyone says that's what we should do?
(I'm 18 and he's 21 by the way)
So, as of now, he's paying off some bills and then we're going to find an apartment and move in together... Probably get married shortly after..
Is it normal to not want a wedding, even tho everyone says that's what we should do?
(I'm 18 and he's 21 by the way)
Make sure you two are happy, not your parents and buddies.
And he won't speak for himself, so when I ask him what he wants, he says he wants me to be happy.. and if I don't want a wedding, we don't have to do it..
ugghhh...
As for your fiance, you've got to get him to tell you what he wants. It's his day, too, after all.
That being said, you don't have to compromise your own happiness and comfort to make him happy. You can both find common ground.
Don't like the expensive part..
Just chill, be married, save money. It's not like you can't have the ceremony 10 years from now.
There are other and quiet ways to get married like at home or at court. I know someone that got married in court and at first i thought it was a bit odd, but now don't.
If got married, I don't think I would want a wedding. There's so much planning, inviting and noise! A wedding is supposed to be intimate, but how is that possible if you have so many people there? I"m not a social person and there's no way I'd be able to deal with all of those people. Ugh! I'd either get married in court or I'd do it at home!
Do what makes you happy and is within your means! :)
A decision of marriage should not be made lightly, as there are many responsibilities inherent to this. You must be able to co-habitate together amicably, sharing in duties and expenditures. You have a shared responsibility of property. You should consider the possibility of raising a child together. You should also consider the possibility of divorce (I know, it will never happen to you, but it does happen in most marriages). Will your love for one another last, and what will happen if it does not? Can you still live together, without a sexual relationship?
Personally, I think that in today's society, we should re-examine the entire institution of marriage, instead of blindly following outdated religious practices that most often do not work.
It would be easy to reform marriage law to reflect changes in modern society. The one major problem in this, is when children are involved.
I do not fully understand why some people find it necessary to have an elaborate (usually) one-off wedding ritual, rather than a celebration of love, which can be as small or large as you like it, and can be repeated as you choose to.
I find it disrespectful and embarrasing
to hafta make out or kiss your lover
infront of your parents
i mean why not just screw them while your
parents watch ?
I find it disrespectful to family