Is it normal to still be shy at 19?

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I was like that too a few months ago (I'm 18). I got help from a psychiatrist and now I have a job, good friends, and I'm not afraid of meeting new people anymore! I feel really good about myself now, you should look into getting help as well.

It normal but you do sound very very shy. Do some research on introverts. Whatever the case is, there are groups for shy people beleive it or not. It will help you learn how to approach people and make friends. And remember being shy isn't always a bad thing! It's cute and it makes you who you are, you'll prob always be a little shy but I know you can overdcome it to the point where you get a cool job and some friends! luck!

I would try something new everyday to build your confidence up. Something new you wNt to do and have let your shyness stop u from doing before. Everyday make it a goal. Maybe approach a new friendship with ease but try to be a bit more open everyday. Being shy is endearing but also u cant let it make u solitude status. Try to overcome with tiny gials and maybe some counseling. You seem nice and good luck hun.

There is supposed to be an inherited component to extreme shyness. I was terrified of dating, public speaking, all social situations. Zoloft helped but I went into a line of work that required dealing with pts with mean supervisors criticizing me all the time. You are afraid of making a fool out of yourself. I made a fool of myself so many times I didn't care anymore. You might take a waiters job and force yourself to deal with the public. It is a deconditioning process. It's not comfortable but it works. My husband went to Toast Masters.

I was like that to untill I figered out I was
Gay and then everything was fine

I'm the same way and im18. It might make a difference that I'm a girl but I'm way to shy to answer doors , phones, and I hate talking to ppl so I say that it's pretty normal

If you were just to shy to talk to girls then yes it's normal, but from what I'm reading then I would advise you to get professional help, so IMO it is not normal

Being shy is normal but super shy noooo

First, it is NOT normal to be as shy as you've described. Second, it sounds like you have Social Phobia, an anxiety disorder with symptoms you've described. I also have this, which is why I know. You need to make an appointment with a Cognitive psychologist who help people with this issue. If talk therapy is all you need, then that's good. If not, you may need medications like Prozac or Zoloft. Those help both Seratonin and Norepenephrine levels in the brain. It will help, and you will feel better - not perfect, but noticably better.

Google this : social phobia

I had the same problem but after reading up about what the problem was I realized it was all in my head!! Don't do it to yourself, just get on with life!!!!

haha yea whenever the phone rings i get this sinking feeling in my Stomach, same when i hear a car pull into my driveway. i can't make eye contact when i talk to people and i never know what to say! i know how ya feel

I have this too, and it really sucks. My shyness is so bad that it's prevented me from getting jobs, going to school, and just living a normal life. I've done therapy, and taken more anxiety meds than I count (at least ten, I think), and while I'm better than I used to be, there's still a lot of things I can't do.

I would recommend getting professional help if it's interfering with your life this much. I've found that meds do very little to help since they mostly address physical symptoms, instead of making you feel better mentally.

Im like that too ^_^