Is it normal to truly dislike your parents http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/ You need to get away from her!!!! She is a "poison person"!!!!! She will ruin your life get away from her!! http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-312103 2009-09-19 23:07:10 Hey, maybe our mom's were sisters. My mom was so evil and cruel to me and my brother. I can honestly say I don't love her. I did for years, but the years of mental anguish and abuse finally broke me. I haven't spoken to her in 5 years and I hope I never see her again. Is it normal, no. But she wasn't normal either, I think she had an undiagnosed mental illness to do the things she did. I guess I will never know. I just hope in time I will be able to forget the past and build my self esteem up to a normal level. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-310597 2009-09-13 15:28:39 Wow, and I thought my family had issue's. Your Mum's a freaking pshyco (No offence intended)!I know quite a few Feminist Mother's but she take's the cake.Why was she WORKING in a mental institution' She should've been IN it. I'm sorry for the life you had. Like someone before me said (sorry,i'm on my phone and I cant remember whoever wrote the comment's name) DO NOT LET HER NEAR YOUR KIDS!!! She'll most likely tell them stories about what a bad man you were as a teenager and tell your son's if they go live with grandma they won't be that bad, she'll probably tell your daughter's that they're too good to marry any man living. I thought I didn't like my parent's, you actually have a reason. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-306599 2009-08-23 09:57:55 Cloud, you are SO right, on every account! http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-304380 2009-08-08 14:31:16 That's the "dirty little secret" of black culture. Black women have played both sides--pro and anti-- probably since we first stepped off the boats. And that ain't changing. Just gotta accept it, keep your head up, and keep grinding ... Unfortunately, it's probably generally true that black women like us best when we're "broken down"... If we aren't, their reflex is to try to cut us down... ...Which is a major reason why black social relations are basically frozen right now, and so many of us are scrambling for "alternatives" (ie "interracial"). http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-303813 2009-08-05 09:05:44 cloud...yep I am black. And I am pretty sure this comes from their generations notion of black men, themselves and races in general. This hatred of black men by black women goes pretty deep and spans back generations. I can see it ending in the future generations either...I only see it perpetuating. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-298479 2009-07-05 11:47:46 P.s. -- And keep her away from your kids if you have any! I wouldn't trust my mother at all with my kids. At 70-plus,she's still corrosive and spiteful -- just a poisonous personality. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-298119 2009-07-03 08:25:10 It's normal. Society propagates the myth that all moms are good moms and they all should be honored, but no -- it aint so. That myth makes kids (especially men) feel very conflicted for disliking their moms -- after all you're not a good son or a real man if you don't like your mom, right' My mom was like yours. She wrecked her relationships, had zero direction in life, and worked hard to emasculate her sons. She constantly told us, from a very young age, that she was going to die, that we were all going to die of cancer, that everyone was going to take advantage of us. She gave us savage beatings when we were adolescents. She would take baths with me when I was five or 6 years old. I still remember the creepy feeling of my feet touching the wool of her vagina in the tub. Now that I'm an adult, she tells me that I'm going to end up homeless. This coming 70 year old woman who has an 8th grade education, and will have to work at menial jobs until she drops. I've never been unemployed, and have an 800 credit score and a nice little nestegg, yet she lied to my sister that I had to eat out of homeless shelters (my sister was concerned so she asked me about it), and she tells me to my face that I'll end up homeless. There's lots more stuff I could tell you, but I don't want to get to personal here. Long story short -- not all mothers are good mothers, and the sooner you can accept that the better. I waited late in life before I accepted it, allowing her to continue to "work her magic" all those years. I have a question though -- are you black' The phrases your mom uses sounds like she's black ( "You aint never gonna be shyt like your no good daddy", or "You ain't got a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of". ). I'm black, and I'm coming to believe that stuff like this -- psychological and physical abuse by black mothers -- is pretty common in our communities. Makes me wonder if the abandonment thing among black fathers of the last generation isn't more complicated than everyone thinks. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-298117 2009-07-03 07:58:30 I think YOUR mother should get committed. It's quite ironic that she was a supervisor at a mental hospital. I mean... You're her kid. How could she be so cruel' And your father is probably just mildly annoying. But your mom is psycho, no doubt about it. Geeze. EVIL. I think in most cases, it's normal to dislike your parents. Teens hate their parents at one point. But you, man, have a valid reason. Even in your adulthood she's acting out of line. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-295536 2009-06-16 22:40:35 Your feelings towards your mother is perfectly normal. Obviously, "..putting tacks on the floor at night so when I got out of bed to pee I would step on them, to holding a 12ga shot gun to my head while I slept, to poisoning my dog, to trying to convince my first wife to have a fight with me so she can have me committed.." from that being said, that was the most horrible mother ever lived [no offense]. I can't even imagine what to do if I were in your predicament. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-294896 2009-06-11 19:03:13 its normal deep down u will see that you love them. this is only temporary http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-293140 2009-05-30 21:21:42 But I should say that on Mothers Day / Fathers Day I send them both flowers and gifts. As far as they are concerned they are wonderful people... http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-289404 2009-05-02 05:23:06 No it's not usual, but it happens. What can you do' http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-truly-dislike-your-parents-28647/#comment-289355 2009-05-01 14:19:55