OK..let me start off by saying that i love my husband and the family we share together. But Ive been with my husband for 11 years and married for 7 years. We are a young couple. I'm 26 he's 29. We have 4 beautiful children ages 8,7,4,and 4months. All are from him, but I would say that my feelings for him changed after he cheated on me 3 years ago, But I find myself very depressed because I do have a new born baby boy and he was born prematurly. So I admitted it can be very overwhelming at times. My husband support us. I was 15 when I met him and 19 when we married. I feel trapped. I am not allowed to go out anywhere. I feel my life has ended..sex is ok..but he cant last long enough to please me. I don't have many friends and I'm always around kids and husband. I'm not sure if I want a Divorce or if its just me that needs to chill..I need a break..help help!
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Are more or less the age we do some soul searching, because there's fat chance of finding yourself in high school; we can't expect to be the same person at 26, that we were at 16. And that's not even accounting for the fact he has cheated on you.
You cannot make a decision like this, so soon after having a baby, as you could be hormonal. It seems to me that you must've forgiven him - otherwise you wouldn't be sleeping with him and having more babies. If you are going to make long term plans, make sure this is your last baby!!!! There's nothing he likes better than you barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen.
Babies trap you there with him - simple as that!
I think if you can even have sex with him, then you must still want it to work out. It may well do, if you can spend some quality time together without loads of kids interrupting any free time you may have. You need to find each other again - as two adults and not as 'parents'.
Give this one time and stop having babies, and I think you two might just make it through.
Not my usual advice, I know - but there are very young children involved here.
Good luck!!
The best answer isn't always the answer that sounds nice and reassuring and sometimes the best answer doesn't solve the problem but the best answer is THE best answer =/ I'd like to say divorce and go live a happy life, but the reality is, being married and not entirely happy sounds much better than being a single mum with four young children, even if the custody, child support and alimony hearings work out. Four children... good god I don't know how some women do it as single parents...
Poor mcmzs5 seems to think her husband would worry about her taking up with another man. Where the hell would she ever be able to go to in order to meet one? Not only that, does she really think she's a great catch? All a new man knows is that she's not a virgin but few want an 'instant family' to support.
The OP has made her bed and is just going to have to lie in it for the next 10 years for the sake of these kids' welfare. She'll still be young enough in 10 years time if she wants another man.
Put your kids first regardless of your sexual pleasure with your husband.
Chill out girl and be glad the man is even on the scene!