I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, we are both in our mid twenties. When we first started having sex we would get it on like rabbits. But about a year and a half ago things slowed down, Now we are at the point when have sex maybe 3 times a month. He just doesn't initiate anything with me. Whenever we do have sex and I bring up trying something new he seems extremely un-interested and just does the same routine that he does all the time.
Also we have problems with his family, they aren't too keen on the fact that I am a different religion than them. I am technically catholic but I do not practice, I am more agnostic than anything. Religion is not a big deal to me at all. I rarely ever see his family but when I do they are very cold, they haven even spoken different languages around me.
One last thing, I met someone online, I have been talking to him for a while now and he makes me feel so special, but I don't want to throw my 6 year relationship away for someone I just met.
Just a few things: No, he hasn't gotten a stressful job. No, I have not gained weight or let myself go in any way. No, his family has not pressured him about me (as far as I know, he could be lying) and he is the only person I have been with.
Also we have problems with his family, they aren't too keen on the fact that I am a different religion than them. I am technically catholic but I do not practice, I am more agnostic than anything. Religion is not a big deal to me at all. I rarely ever see his family but when I do they are very cold, they haven even spoken different languages around me.
One last thing, I met someone online, I have been talking to him for a while now and he makes me feel so special, but I don't want to throw my 6 year relationship away for someone I just met.
Just a few things: No, he hasn't gotten a stressful job. No, I have not gained weight or let myself go in any way. No, his family has not pressured him about me (as far as I know, he could be lying) and he is the only person I have been with.
I mean does he spend more time with you than his friends? And i dont understand why he is not interested in having sex with you! 3 times a month is unusual! Are you trying to hard sometimes? try chilling out abit and let him come closer to you! if he dosent then something is really wrong!
Jumping to conclusions like whether or not he is cheating, whether or not you should cheat or move on to another relationship wouldn't really be helpful. Many long-term relationships including marriages as well, often become less and less focused on sex. This is usually a natural process in which the couple has sex less frequently and refocuses their energies on other aspects of their relationship..their partnership. This is not to suggest that your sex life with him is over. No, it doesn't have to be.
I recommend you have that discussion with him. Then also discuss with him the feelings of disrespect you get from the treatment of his family. If it is fruitful and you determine that this is a relationship you want to salvage..then get to work! Check out this link (http://www.getromantic.com/passion/spice_up_sex/seduce_your_man.html) and this link (http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2010/02/10-ways-to-seduce-your-man-in-seconds#slide=1) and this one (http://www.buzzle.com/articles/seducing-your-man-in-bed-and-out-of-it.html). If you feel that these are all a waste of time, then you may be contributing more to his distance than you realize.
Best of luck to you!
I don't think the religion has anything to do with the sex. I'd be curious what religion he is. You might want to tell him that it hurts you when they switch languages in your presence. Families and religion are a tough thing to deal with.