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Is she interested or not?
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Ok guys help me out here because I'm terrible at reading signals. I live in university halls and on the same floor as me is this French girl. We get on fairly well, we chat when we see each other in the kitchen we share, I make her laugh, we help each other out from time to time etc. Anyway I went away for a couple of weeks and when I came back she said "oh you've been gone for 3 weeks, it was really boring without you", though I don't think she went as far as to say she missed me as such that seemed to be what she was saying. She doesn't seem the flirty type, and I'm pretty sure she hasn't had a boyfriend while I've been living there.

Is it normal to think this girl might have a crush on me, and if so how do I find out without asking her directly as such?
Do you think it's normal?
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Magnetising (26397)
2009-08-08 09:14:32
Normal, but that doesn't mean that she does actually like you. With intimacy, it is so difficult to read that you might aswell make proportionate advances to see whether she reciprocates...
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jessica1068 (26972)
2009-08-11 16:57:18
she might not actually like you like that. maybe she was just being friendly. if i was you i wouldnt ask her, wait until you know for sure that shes interested because you might scare her off.
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holio (27854)
2009-08-30 22:57:01
If I'm attracted, I always assume it's on. Make advances and don't apologize for what you want to happen. The horse reacts differently depending on the rider. Either she goes for it or she doesn't but you won't have any regrets at the end of the day.
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-09-11 11:55:37
You definitely cannot assume anything from this. You're not the only one having this problem, I think most men have it too. Any signal sent out by girls could easily be misinterpreted by the boys. I have a friend whose party I attended and when I had to leave, she hugged me and kissed me on the cheek quite several times. That still didn't mean anything because we know we're friends and that it can never go beyond that.

When your girl said what she said, that only meant that she thought things are never boring when you're around, but that's about it. A definite signal would be something along the lines of "I really missed you". Bt you can always ask her out just the two of you and then see what happens next.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-10-12 08:02:52
Awww you are like so many guys who over-think things.

YOU are attracted romantically to her. She at least likes you. Ask her out to dinner, or an event or whatever but make it clear that it is a date. And see how things go from there.

Many woman like men to be assertive & take the lead. Assertive - not aggressive & insensitive. So ask her out. Or lose her & never know.
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sheepaholic (31315)
2009-11-22 03:44:40
Just try and ask her out, maybe ask her to eat with you or watch a DVD. And see how she reacts. If she is happy with your request you know what's going on. Then at the "date" see how her body language is, and then go in for the "kill".

Important is, to keep it simple and light. Don't go too fast, unless you feel it's appropriate. And don't be afraid to be inappropriate, if you dont take the shot, it's a miss.

From what i take from the story, she "just" likes you, but it never hurts to try.
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