I'm 20 years old and I'm dating a 15 year old girl. I love her more than anything in the world, and I wouldnt want to ever hurt her, physically or emotionally. People say Im sick, or im arapist, or im a pedo. But we've never had sex, and I mean if she wanted to id go for it, but I will never pressure her into sex. And people automatically assume things like that, there is much more to a realationship than that! So what do you think? Is our relationship normal? IIN?
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So don't worry, but yeah i think it's ok. Others might not though.
Both the physical and mental differences are way too high at this age. I don't care how mature she looks or acts, she's a kid!
I'm not authorized to tell you what to do. But if I was... I'd tell you to break up.
Note: Local laws in your respective jurisdiction might conflict with this. If they do, I would recommend to challenge the law, and to have it repealed and/or amended.
It is my opinion that it is acceptable for an adult to have a relationship with an adolescent more than two years their junior in age differential, but with absolutely no sexual conduct, including kissing in a sexual manner. Further, it is my opinion that small tokens of affection is acceptable as per local custom. It is my opinion that as an adult, the onus of responsibility should be on you, to keep the relationship in a non-sexual state, until she becomes an adult, in this case.
That's the problem right there. You think it would be acceptable to have sex with a minor. Is a 15 year old even sure enough to make a important decision that will change her forever?
I find it disturbing that you think like that. I also think that shows you are very immature and not responsible enough to have a relationship with a 15 year old kid.
I think the only reason you are even attracted to a 15 year old is because you are still a child yourself. I don't know what she's like or what you are like, so I can't be 100% positive. But, judging by your post that is my first guess.
Why was this down voted? You said it perfectly.
I know a few girls that are dating guys with this age gap.
The main issue is the over/under 18 thing. You're legally considered an adult, and her a child.
In the long run, age doesn't matter. There are 11 years between my grandparents and 4 years between my parents, neither ever experiencing any problems in their relationship.
The best choice would probably be to keep your relationship where it is now until she's 18, then decide where to go with it from there.
Being attracted to girls a few years into puberty is the norm. To not be attracted to a good-looking 15-year-old would be abnormal.
The good thing is you're treating her with respect. As long as you're happy together and not breaking the law then who cares (apart from the self-righteous, torch-bearing lynch mobs - but they're hardly role models). 20 & 15 is no big deal.
I also agree with suckonthis9s opinions. (That said my 'first' was 21 and i was 15.) While I believe that I was mature enough and knew what I was doing... he is still going after teenagers 8 years later.