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When I turned 15, my father started touching my butt, as if I were still a child. A pat on the butt, for a child is considered playful. But, what I am wondering is, is this normal for my father to still be doing this to me? I am 26 now. I have asked him constantly so stop, but he continues. He says he's only joking or playing around. I confronted my mother when I was 16, she didn't believe me. When I turn 19, I tried telling my mom again, that time she believed me, but did nothing about it. My parents don't have a abusive relationship. I told her again a few years ago, after many attempts to tell him to stop myself, but he continues no matter what my mom says now. She's confronted him more than once, it dies down for a bit, then he continues with the same excuse...he's "joking". I have a younger sister, but he only does it to me. I have threatened him in the past, such as telling him I will call the police and have him arrested. But, I'm scared to ruin the family. I need to know if this is considered molestation? I need to know what my next step will be when he does it again, and he will.
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No-one should touch you somewhere you don't want to be touched. I don't know if it's considered molestation, but it's considered wrong. If a stranger kept touching you, you wouldn't stand for it. Just because he's your father doesn't give him license to touch you in anyway that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Do you have any siblings you could talk to about it, if they have similar feelings/experiences to you?

Next time slap him, hard, across the face, instantly. If he continues after that, I'd stop seeing him. Someone who knows more about the law than me will be able to tell you whether calling the police is sensible or not.
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I certainly think what your dad is doing is highly inappropriate.
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If you're telling him to stop and he's doing it anyway, then yes, that qualifies as molestation.
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It's not molestation that's a bit extreme coming from a 26 year old adult
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Try dealing with it for 11 years and tell me if I'm over-reacting.
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@: hj1986
With a pat on the butt from your father? Sounds like an over reaction if I've ever heard one. Talk to some people actually dealing with molestation and see how you feel.
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My dad when he hugs me when that hug ends his hands tend to wander to my lower back & upper bum it's quite unsettling once he did it at the airport and these women just stared so embarrassing, I haven't hugged him since then & I've never told.my mum afraid to start something that probably isn't anything. My dad is a bit of a perv he's really gross. Stop hugging him or physically getting close to him. There's no such thing as playing & touching your 26 year old daughter's bum that's so wrong on so many levels. Why not "play" some other way like banter for instance anything that doesn't involve body parts. it's clear your mum isn't going to do anything about it so confront him and really tell him you dislike it, hope this doesn't affect your relationship with him. Goodluck
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That's gross.... If I was a woman and my father did that to me I'd tell someone and if they did not listen I'd tell the cops. Or beat the shit out of him. fuck him! I hate rapists and pervs like that.
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For those of you who actually read my post, thank you. I have shoved him, yelled at him, tried calmly talking to him, have told him to stop countless times...I'm at a loss of what to do next. I'm not so much worried about my relationship with him, because I checked out of it a while ago. I am worried about my family. Part of me is still wondering why I haven't said anything to the police, but is there really anything to tell?
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That's not right and the fact that you've threatened him and repeatedly told him to stop when he has not sends warning signals up my spine. Get a restraining order against him or move out and keep your distance from him. Don't worry about bringing ruin to your family, your mother should be ashamed for not believing you. Also, you should try to keep a look out to make sure he doesn't try anything with your sister especially since the fact that your mother doesn't believe you, she probably wouldn't even believe your sister and put a stop to the actions at hand.
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If it didn't bother you there would be no problem, the fact that it does and you have asked him to stop yet he continues makes it wrong.
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Zeldamaniac
Ur dad can fuck off and If I were u I'd call th cops
That's just fucking rong
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Cohen
Maybe he doesn't intend it to be a creepy thing but since you're repeatedly asking him to stop and he refuses to listen you should probably take things a step further. I agree with slapping him, or shoving out at him with an elbow with the intention to hurt him.
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Crusad3s
maybe because your mom won't give him any...
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get in first with "keep your hands to yourself , i'm warning you" if he tries grab a couple of fingers and twist them back, be upfront and mention it openly in front of him and others " watch him!" when people go near him even the dog
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Sog
Your dad should not be "playing" with you like this. I don't think it's molestation because it doesn't seem to be overtly sexual, but this is still very inappropriate because of how uncomfortable it makes you feel.

But you're also an adult now and maybe it's time that you have a serious conversation with Dad instead of just asking him to stop, or telling Mom to ask for you even.
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sick father you got.

tell him to back the fuck off or you will cut his hand off.
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Jump and he'll hit the leg instead.

If someone taps my bum I scare them off by showing them my saber teeth.
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You're overreacting.
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When he smacks your ass shoot the cunt in the ed. PROBLEM SOLVED.
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If I were you I'd slap the shit out of him and when he asks why u did it I'd say I was just playing.. And I'd do it every single time he wanted to "play".. He will get the picture real soon.. But no I don't think he's trying to be sexual.. It just sounds like he does it cause it annoys you..
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kick him in the balls as hard as you can and tell him you're joking.
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If he is only patting your but why make such a big deal about it.

Unless he is squeezing it or holding on to it for more than 10 seconds i would worry about it.
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He's just being playful you big douche.
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