Is threatening to beat up your girlfriend funny?

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Your bf has a really warped sense of humour :S I don't see how that could be funny. If it bothers you, tell him. Chances are, if he's a nice guy, he wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable.

I wouldn't find it funny hun. But as buried said talk to him about it.

i would say this guy is an idiot,
i wouldn't find that funny at all.
to be onest i would get rid of him... it's nothing to joke about and certainly no laughing matter.

Lighten the fark up, commenters. It was funny to audiences in 1955 when Ralph from The Honeymooners made the same kinds of jokes. Ralph obviously isn't serious about beating his wife in that show because it's just a show--it isn't serious. If your boyfriend isn't either, then likewise you have no problem. If you don't find it funny or it makes you uncomfortable, just tell him. If you sympathy laugh every time he makes those jokes, he's never going to get the idea that you don't care for it. He's going to assume you think it's funny too...you know...since you're not making it clear that you don't find it funny.

That much being said, don't be a jerk about it. If he's a good guy like you say, there's no reason to fight over a little off-white humor or end the relationship outright like these Internet psychologists above me think. Geeze.

Jokes like that tend to offend many women. However, it's still just a harmless joke, which your friends need to realize. It's good that they care and watch out for you, but if you share your boyfriend's sense of humor, let your friends know this and maybe it will ease their concerns. But if you find it hurts your feelings or makes you uncomfortable, just tell him. Or retaliate with jokes of beating him right back. :p

Besides, it can't be any worse than the numerous "dead baby" jokes I've heard. x_X ...Can it?

As long as it doesn't bother you, who cares.

My friends and I always like to crack horribly sexist jokes around eachother, many of which include jokes about beating women. There, I said it. None of us would ever strike a woman, though. I mean, NEVER. They're just jokes, that's all. It's kind of a guy thing to crack jokes like that anyway, lol. Your bf making sexist jokes is probably a good thing because maybe he feels comfortable enough around you to say stuff like that. That's just a theory, though. Then again, if his jokes are in such excess that it raises concerns for you, then yes bring it up with him and take it from there.

If they're funny and obviously meant lightly then I can't see a problem. Mind you, I've never heard a funny woman beating joke.

My ex used to be the same. He didn't actualy do anything and he never lay a finger on me, but he did get violent but in a minor form, like he would 'jokeily' throw me on the bed if he wanted to have sex and I said no.

I found someone who doesnt threaten me at all whether or not it's a joke. Just be careful and don't let him bully you.

i think its normal if your bf says that, actually many guys say that and my bf is one of them, its okay but as long as it stays a joke

I doubt he'll end up really beating you, but if his jokes make you uncomfortable, you should tell him to stop.

I do that to my girlfriend all the time, but I would never hurt her and she knows it.

I'd have to say violence against anyone -- man, woman or child is really not funny at all. I know a lot of people would think so but they've got a lot of maturing to do.

HOW does he say it?

When he sayd it in a sarcastic way while patting any part of your body, feel insulted.

Otherwise that, and you don't feel uncomfortable at all, then who cares anymore and just act yourself

Not funny.

I don't think it's funny at all :(.

this is not enough information to go on. He could be a normal guy who's just joking around and your friends may be acting too melodramatic about it. Or he could be a ticking time bomb. In the end you will have to decide for yourself. Making calls like this and deciding for youself what you are comfortable with is a dificult part of life. If things start to get ugly, dont be affraid to walk. The vast majority of abuse revolves around power and control (does he have control issues?) If you start to feel affraid that you can't get away from him you should take steps to get away from him before the fear takes hold and you become trapped. In the mean time, try joking about beating the crap out of him. If he's ok about it going both ways you may not have anything to wory about.

ok me and boyfriend say stuff joking around ALL THE TIME calling each others b**ches, saying I'm gonna kill you, slap you hurt you w/e... i mean it sounds bad to type but think about how often you "threaten" someone. Me and him are COMPLETELY kidding. But there is a difference b/w kidding and not. Just be careful though... If he shows any sign of violence, leave. I still have marks on me from my ex. and that was 4 years ago

I am a male. I think this is not good. For all of those other guys on here who say they like to joke with other guys about beating up women, you are all disgusting. It is NEVER okay to joke about beating one's S/O. It is an insult to every woman or child who has ever been victimized by domestic violence.

seek assistance from friends, befriend people he can't intimidate and notify a counselor to see if there might be any merit to this, it sounds like something you should not take any chance on

Confront him. Tell him you would prefer you not say those things. Ask him if he means if. If he has thought about beating you up.

If he says yes, quietly leave. Call for help and buy mace.

secretly learn a strong art of self defence, then should he ever try it you can really surprise him

I would say as long as you don't feel threatened I wouldn't worry too much about it, unless he does start to escalate his behavior. Just watch out for signs he could be violent because your friends could be seeing things that you don't.

Not really a point of laughter. I think he just likes feeling in control and as long as you go alog with it then he will disrespect you in other things later on.

i wudnt dare threaten my gf sh wud beat te cr@p out of me

This is one of those red lights that is flashing in your head and you should pay attention to. Think it, say it, Do it. It is coming. Address it now. Tell him you see no humor in it.

This guy sounds like a right d***head. I would never dream of doing this to a girl. This is CERTAINLY not normal.

i sure he just isnt talking about beating his monkey? cause thats a whole different matter.

Oh please, it's no big deal. As long as he is definitely kidding, it's just a joke. My boyfriend says he's going to leave me in a ditch in South Jersey all the time and we have an incredibly loving relationship and he would never dream of hurting me. I'm just a pain in the ass sometimes :)