Ok. I am young(a little older than 13). There's this girl, Kelsi, that is a year older than me. We were on the same softball team over the summer, and we realised that we are sexually attracted to each other. Whenever we're together privately, we'll have sex. One time, we were kissing, and my mother caught us. I am a lesbian, but she isn't. Is it normal to have alternate love at such a young age?
Knowing is a lot better than confusion. Do what you like!!
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I have thought feelings towrads the same sex would be appearing at the same time as others would have feelings towrards the other sex, the only reason why it may appear later is the stigma attatched means people are scared to admit it, but in all truth if you start having sex at about the same age as your peers then i suppose you could consider yourself normal?
Having said that certainly when/where i grew up 13 would be v. early for actual sex, probably people started having boyf/girlf aroun that age, maybe starting to experiment around 15/16 but i don't htink many people had regular sexual relationships until they were about 19+ (ie when they had left the school system entirely.)
I suppose it should be noted though that apaprently a fairly high portion of women (compared to men) have the ability to be actracted to both men and women (though many wont let themselves be turned on by women due to the stigma), and I know a fair few girls who claimed they were lesbians early on, and then later on when 'boys' had matured and they became more friendly with them realised they were bisexual. I'm not saying this is nessasarily the case for you but it is well to be aware that just because you are attracted mainly to women now doesn't mean you won't become more attracted to men.
i believe you are quite young to get in the having sex thing. take your time, you will have time to enjoy sex as much as you wish, but you will enjoy it even more if you are a bit mature and know what are you getting into.
as far as i have heard is quite frecuent to find young girls making out and some times touching themselves(basically yes, having sex). but you are yound like to decide if you are lesbian or not. do not focus on being a lesbian. you have had this experience and will rememeber it for ever and will definitely help you decide in the future what you are. but do not focus on "I am a lesbian" give yourself time, look around and wait until you feel what is right for you.
personaly i believe that hetero is the correct way, but if you decide the oposite that might be correct too. but again i tell you, take your time.
lemonscentedman