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losing a best freind - 74% Normal

I've known that I'm a lesbian for a while, right? But, as of yet, I haven't 'come out' to anyone. Well, recently, one of my best friends told me that she's bisexual. But it's not as though, when she told me, I could just blurt out my news. I just don't feel comfortable with anyone else knowing for right now. I mean, she'd take it pretty well, i suppose, but I have other friends who wouldn't ever spend the night at my house again.

As a result, I've kinda been avioding her for the past couple dyas, and she's acting like I've hurt her feelings. I know that she thinks I'm rejecting her because she told me, but I'm not. I just need some time to sort some stuff out. Is it normal for me to want some time to myself?
Do you think it's normal?
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Anonymous
2005-05-27 19:42:54
Yes, it's normal to want to take time to sort things out, but I think her confession gave you such a jolt about your own fears of rejection about coming out until you couldn't deal with her emotional needs. But it's very important for you to pull yourself together to support your friend who is feeling rejected right now. After all, if you ever decide to come out she may be the one person among your friends who understand the difficulties and fears you may eventually experience. She is living through that right now. The sooner you go to her, the better - she must be feeling pretty low right now.
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katysue (173)
2005-06-13 13:42:45
it is normal to want to be by yourself and think. but, is she a REALLY good friend of your? maybe you need to talk to her instead of to youself so you don't loose a friend. i'm saying you have to 'come out' to her just let her know that you aren't afraid of her or whatever b/c she's bi. you don't want a loose a best friend. i know how important best friends can be
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MySweetConfessions (129)
2005-06-14 13:59:21
I'd like to thank you people for commenting and voting. I've resolved this situation, ie; come out. thank you so much; I just wasn't sure what to do at the time.
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julep (371)
2005-06-20 19:27:14
Your friend needs your support. Maybe she knows you're gay too and is actually trying to come on to you. You need to talk to her to sort this all out.
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Anonymous
2005-06-25 00:59:50
id tell her that you are lebion....but tell her not to tell anyone..and u2 could have alot of fun together lol......im bisexual and believe me if my friend was lezbion i would be thinking thank you god!!! lol just do wut u think will make u happy tho
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Anonymous
2005-08-05 06:33:00
so that was why u were avoiding me. why didn't u just tell me strait out. when do u want me 2 cum over so we can have some fun? maybe even get another lesbian and we could have a 3some
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MySweetConfessions (129)
2006-01-09 13:48:23
@: Anonymous
...I don't find that amusing. At all.
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KidIdiot (6429)
2007-03-08 02:52:28
OH NIGGA PLEASE.
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AnonymousMouse (15708)
2008-08-12 22:41:16
no you should be eating her box ASAP
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SURGIWAX (15981)
2008-08-26 22:39:45
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SURGIWAX (15981)
2008-08-26 22:39:55
@: AnonymousMouse
LOL
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2008-08-27 03:59:01
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CuppycakeXD (16032)
2008-08-31 00:54:17
LMFAO.
Yo I swear I just cracked up.
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lilderek (15344)
2008-09-06 23:33:34
i agree w/ anonymousmouse, you should be eating her box. take pics and send to me...
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dickbandit (16493)
2008-09-25 04:56:21
lmfao
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pillman (16826)
2008-10-13 05:24:06
you need to talk to her
and then tell her y u been acting wierd
and tell her your gay
than have some wild lesbian sex WOOOOOOH!!!
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Ms_October (16391)
2008-10-13 08:05:38
Straight, gay, lesbian, bi or like to hump german shepards - Everybody needs friends!

Did it occur to you that this girl might have been feeling nervous "comming out" with admitting bi sexuality?

In any event, if you are friends - then what dose it Matter? If you feel Comfortable in "comming out" to her then by all means do, but if not, then don't. I expect that sex is not the ONLY thing you two talk about.

Friendship is more important than how one gets their sexual jollies. I have a good (male) friend who is - IMOHO - one of the worst (dependent on one's point of view) perves there is - but he is still My FRIEND.

Wake up.

The Divine Ms. O.
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MisterGee81 (16946)
2008-10-15 11:49:18
You are the devils child lesbians are disgusting what a shame i hate to be like this but its true such a shame what the world is coming to
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okmijnuhbygvtfc (17193)
2008-10-25 22:14:19
if u still check this after 4 years, EAT HER ALL UP!!!!!
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JonnyLeBleu (17577)
2008-11-11 03:28:04
let's scissor?
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Ledria (18155)
2008-12-02 08:36:16
just talk to her. She needs comfort. Shes going through things like you are and this is the time when someone needs a friend to support and comfort them.
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Eliizabethh (19242)
2009-01-08 13:46:27
@: MisterGee81
To: MisterGee81

LESBIANS/GAYS/BISEXUALS DO NOT CHOOSE THIS LIFE-STYLE, AND IF THEY DO, THEY ARE NOT TRUE GAYS.

coming from a bisexual, i found this extremely insulting. i didn't just wake up one day and say "im gonna like girls today"

keep your comments to yourself if you have something mean to say.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-01-18 09:22:57
She's your best friend. She's hurt. At least reassure her.
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oskilover18 (22167)
2009-04-20 19:41:56
You need to tell her that it isn't her and what she said. Tell her that you need some time to sort out some of your own issues that you're working on. She may not fully believe you until you feel comfortable coming out to her and explain yourself, but she will know that you still love her and don't want to lose her.
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oskilover18 (22167)
2009-04-20 19:44:23
@: Eliizabethh
I totally agree that it's not something you chose any more than you can pick who you want to love. There are situations however (though few and far in between) in which someone has been so deeply scared by the opposite sex and has come to see them as the enemy. In these few situations (though it's not a conscious choice) circumstances can affect your preference.
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kajolica_williams1993 (24425)
2009-06-19 08:55:18
We Have the Same Situation my Friend Told me she was a Lesbian and liked me but unlike you i made out with her. just an experiment but i'm not a lesbian.
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Loner2 (24698)
2009-06-25 12:51:14
I really think that you should tell your friend the truth, you don't honestly know that they wont accept you for exactly who you are, and as for your best friend, tell HER before anyone else, show her that you care, but if you don't think of her in any particualr way tell her that. you don't need something that is just part of who you are to stand in the way of your friends or your happyness
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theconstant (25243)
2009-07-08 14:19:46
Yes it is normal to want some time but your must also remember your friend has no idea why your avoiding her. if shes that good of a friend then shell understand. Its time to come out if your friends have a problem with this then they arent worth your time. pretending to be someone your not is not worth a few friends. Once you do come out youll see that theres a whole new world out there and that world just might be what you need in your life. But try to keep her as just a friend at first she might think your just saying your gay to impress her of she might think that your avoiding her because shes bi. Good luck
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uniqueasyou (27994)
2009-09-07 16:50:37
yes, it is normal..Almost the same thing happened to me too..i told her that i had feelings for her and she was fine at first(she told me she didn't) but then avoided me for a few months saying she needed space. and now it's very on and off for her to even talk to me.
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Princess4884 (30494)
2009-10-30 12:42:29
I'm glad that you managed to sort things out and come out. Ignore some of the stupid comments from above, some people are just childish

:D
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